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So which would YOU choose?

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lifebeginstoday · 22/08/2007 15:22

Hi all. So, I'm recently single (well, back in january really but only just managed to get him out of our lives properly) and have 2 'potential dates'. I'm soooo out of practice and also so much older than I was last time I did the dating thing that priorities change. So thought I'd ask the advice of all you lovely people .
Man a) is 2 years younger than me, at 36. Tall, dark and handsome, sporty and says he 'adores women'. Has a fairly good job. Loves shopping, and buying underwear and shoes for women. He's separated, has 2 kids and sees them all the time.
Man b) is 7 years older than me, at 45. Is romantic, and loves buying little surprise gifts for his woman. Wants to spoil his lady. Seems very gentle and kind and has a VERY good job. VERY good. he's also handsome, but in a more mature kind of way, and looks a bit like Colin Firth (Mark Darcy in Bridget) He's also separated with kids.

So....in my younger days I would have gone for Mr Ice Hockey, and risked the heartache. But now I am older, and have the kids, I am veering towards the older, more mature and very kind Mr darcy. Who would you go for?

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MatNanPlus · 22/08/2007 15:24

do any of their childrens ages match with yours?

becklespeckle · 22/08/2007 15:29

I would go for Mr Darcy as I would rather go out with someone who adores me than someone who adores women (as per Mr Ice Hockey).

But your choice! Who do you fancy more?!

becklespeckle · 22/08/2007 15:29

And are you looking for something serious or a bit of fun???

MatNanPlus · 22/08/2007 15:31

Personally i would want to know why their previous relationships fell apart!

HappyDaddy · 22/08/2007 15:32

They both sound full of shit to me! LOL

snowwonder · 22/08/2007 15:34

DARCY- EVERY TIME

have fun, i may have a date aswell

lifebeginstoday · 22/08/2007 15:35

Well Mr ice Hockey's kids are younger than mine, and Mr Darcy's are older.
Ice Hockey sees his kids all the time, and Mr Darcy's don't live near him.
To be honest I don't know what I want in a relationship, but I do know I don't want to be messed about. The last 4 years, despite me being married, have been so cold and empty as XH is totally devoid of emotion. Have only had sex 5 times in almost 4 years!!! So there needs to be lots of that but I don't want to have a 'sex-for-the-sake-of-it' relationship. If you see what I mean?
I fancy both as they are so different from each other.
Also, Ice Hockey man was supposed to text me today; he asked for my number yesterday...so far I've heard nothing. Haven't got that far with Mr Darcy yet.

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yorkshirepudding · 22/08/2007 15:35

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cylon · 22/08/2007 15:37

er both of them.
i assume you are not about to jump into a serious relationship with either one of them. so why do you have to be exclusive?

lifebeginstoday · 22/08/2007 15:38

Snowwonder..yyyayaaaaaayyyyyyy....tell all!
Ice man said his relationship fell apart as they married young and just grew apart. It's feasible. Haven't really got down to that with Mr darcy yet so don't know.
LOL happydaddy...I love your pearls of wisdom!

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Saturn74 · 22/08/2007 15:38

Make them duel.
Pistols at dawn.

becklespeckle · 22/08/2007 15:38

I agree with Yorkshirepudding, Mr Darcy sounds like better relationship material, Mr Ice Hockey sounds like a big flirt and will prob mess you about.

yorkshirepudding · 22/08/2007 15:39

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MatNanPlus · 22/08/2007 15:40

a couple of dates with each should give you a better idea.

lifebeginstoday · 22/08/2007 15:40

Cylon...Christ, I can't handle 2 men at the same time..we;ll obviously not at the SAME time but you know what I mean! Plus my opportunities to go out will be limited due to 3 kids and not a lot of money to pay babysitter that often.
Yorkspud...that made me think too; the 'I adore women' line.

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Baffy · 22/08/2007 15:40

Date both, see how you feel after first impressions, then decide?

(not too sure about a man who loves shopping for ladies underwear though )

Baffy · 22/08/2007 15:41

Ah x posts

Definitely the older one then

(I think )

MatNanPlus · 22/08/2007 15:41

I hate it when someone says they will text/call and you hear nothing

lifebeginstoday · 22/08/2007 15:41

ROFL...I love Mumsnet. Always there during my dark days with XH, and now making me PMSL when things are looking up!

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snowwonder · 22/08/2007 15:41

well you know how it is?????

split for 2 years ex gets married on saturday and i am having my first date!!!!! how far behind am i??????

lifebeginstoday · 22/08/2007 15:43

Snowwoner, but slow and steady wind the race as they say! Have you got a thread on it?

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lifebeginstoday · 22/08/2007 15:44

Matnanplus...I do too. Hate that. And first one too.
After my marriage (which was abusive) and xh (who was angry and aggressive) I need someone nice and calm and easy going. Dependable. Not boring (I know what you're thinking, lol).

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lifebeginstoday · 22/08/2007 15:45

My typing is rubbish today. That should have been slow and steady WINS the race.

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Pinkchampagne · 22/08/2007 16:10

Not sure about the "adores women" line myself!

Have a date with them both & see which one you prefer!

lifebeginstoday · 22/08/2007 16:13

I guess. It's all too nervewracking, this being single lark .

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