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chat and hand-holding for those of us supporting a DH with cancer - new thread for the new year

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MrsShrek3 Sun 30-Dec-12 19:51:20

sign in, folks smile
Hoping that 2013 brings better stuff for all of us.

cornyscarecrowchic Sun 30-Dec-12 22:11:24

Signing in
2013 is going to be a good year smile

overthemill Mon 31-Dec-12 14:58:05

It better bloody be better than 2012 that's for sure! Happy new year everyone

lisad123everybodydancenow Mon 31-Dec-12 19:24:35

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MrsShrek3 Tue 01-Jan-13 13:59:38

had the biggest conversation about how dh really is doing (with him) for weeks and weeks. he sounds much better now, he has been on a big downer for weeks and really expects far too much from himself. we are going to have a few days away (middle of nowhere again) after his scan tomorrow, and have a few nice country and forest walks to see if we can get him a bit more active and stay chilled.
good luck to the rest of you smile

EchoBitch Tue 01-Jan-13 19:25:46

DP has to go to the Urologist tomorrow,referred by the GP on Christmas fucking eve.
He has a raised PSA apparently of 5.3 and will have to have a biopsy,my Mum died of cancer last August and i don't think i can cope.
He is so scared and trying to hide it and worried about me.

cornyscarecrowchic Tue 01-Jan-13 19:30:28

Echo good luck for tomorrow. What does psa stand for?
Sorry about your mum sad

EchoBitch Tue 01-Jan-13 19:37:19

Prostate <<something>> antigen i think.
It's something about raised hormone levels being an indicator of cancer.
We have a friend who has it and he has radioactive 'rods' inserted in his perinium and walks like a cowboy (his own words).
I don't know what we've done to deserve this,last year was crap.
Thanks for replying though.

summer111 Tue 01-Jan-13 19:49:43

Ditto overthemill's sentiments.
Best of luck for tomorrow echo, hopefully the news will be better than expected.

cornyscarecrowchic Tue 01-Jan-13 19:57:44

I really hope you get some good news tomorrow and have a better year.
Lol at walking like a cowboy! Did your friend get better?
My dh has Bowel cancer so he's had more than his fair share of implements inserted in 2012!

Hellenbach Tue 01-Jan-13 20:06:47

Signing in. Not sure how I am feeling about 2013 yet, as we are still in limbo til we get scan results.
Christmas was okay, we got through it, felt like a single parent most of the time.
Think I need to start exercising (with all the other January gym bunnies) to take my mind off things.

EchoBitch Tue 01-Jan-13 20:08:54

Not better but he's still here 2 years after diagnosis,he has to go for lots of follow up stuff but i'm not sure what that is.

MrsShrek3 Tue 01-Jan-13 20:09:18

fingers crossed for you echo that you're not joining the pathway of crap that the rest of us are on. But we're here to support each other whatever the news. I really hope for you and your dh that it's just one of those checking out and "safe side" referrals. Let us know how you get on. (we all know about that waiting thing too, get on here and ramble instead of worrying yourself stupid)

lisad123everybodydancenow Wed 02-Jan-13 00:35:23

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MrsShrek3 Wed 02-Jan-13 01:55:20

hmmm. I know I said that I wouldn't do that Planning thing again, nor that Going Away thing after the last lot of vomit
So we only decided today grin So that's not Planning is it wink

Turningupsidedown Wed 02-Jan-13 02:56:59

Hello All, definately hope things will get better in 2013 for everyone.

Fingers crossed and hand-holding for all waiting for scans/results. Echo sorry you have had to join us and sad about your mum. Hope you get good news, the waiting to find out is hell.

MrsS hope you manage to get a nice break away grin at the no planning, hope it works out!

Thought we would be free of appointments over christmas but DH managed to find a completely new reason for a hospital visit on Christmas morning - he managed to skewer his eye on the thorn of an aloe vera plant (as you do) and needed trip to A&E and follow up with eye consultant cos we don't have enough consultants and appointments in our life already confused staff at A&E quite bemused they actually use the plant for healing wounds and had never had someone come in injured by one grin thankfully he doesn't seem to have done any lasting damage.

Appt tomorrow about the radiotherapy. Hoping will go better than last one, they all seem to be disagreeing with each other on whether it should go ahead DH is supposed to decide tomorrow - he is stressed about it sad

MrsShrek3 Wed 02-Jan-13 11:45:01

oh the irony of getting injured on an Aloe plant (but just HOW??!) Will be thinking of you Turningsmile
I'm just waiting for DH atm, he is having his CT scan. it's taking ages this time, been gone 40 mins already. They probably can't find anywhere to inject him (again) as his veins are all knackered from the chemotherapysad Then he has to avoid the children for a bit as he's radioactive. Apparently they check him with a geigercounter, he thinks it's hilarious. Still wearing his hat and scarf...today's look is more glow in the dark bankrobber?grin

Thank goodness for the mn appgrin

EchoBitch Wed 02-Jan-13 13:16:18

Been to see the Urologist and DP has to go for an MRI next Wednesday,hormone level are 50,whatever that means but it isn't too good.
Then for a biopsy on Tuesday 15th.
And the results about 10 days after that.
So all in all about a month til we know anything concrete.

Odd thing is that when i saw the form from the GP with his urine sample bottle i am sure it said the raised PSA levels were 5.3,today the Consultant and the nurse said they are 50.
Don't know what difference it would make but i would think the lower the better.

CornyClam Wed 02-Jan-13 13:35:43

Hope all the scans today get good news. < fingers crossed>
Lol at radioactive bank robber grin
My dh is sat humming on the couch with his legs sticking out from a duvet which is covering everything else including his head.

It's Must be so frustrating having to wait for the results echo. I remember that was the most stressful bit for me. Once you know what you're dealing with you can begin to plan a bit more.

lisad123everybodydancenow Wed 02-Jan-13 14:40:51

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CornyClam Wed 02-Jan-13 19:23:44

Lisadshock

Hellenbach Wed 02-Jan-13 20:54:23

Echo, so sorry you have got to endure that wait, hopefully it will be a bit quicker than a month.

Turning, I am v intrigued by the aloe injury!!

MrsShrek3 Wed 02-Jan-13 23:53:45

echo...squawk at all that waiting. agree it was absolutely the worst bit for us. oh, and Pat. she's evil toowink

MrsShrek3 Wed 02-Jan-13 23:54:58

Lisa, huge shock but envy at being spared that hideous waiting thing (andhmm at me)

lisad123everybodydancenow Thu 03-Jan-13 00:19:19

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