I thought I was tougher than this, but I am so tearful

(200 Posts)
YouOldSlag Wed 20-Feb-13 19:35:10

Right away I know I am pathetic. I love Mumsnet and its a big part of my life. many posters have given me a spring in my step just by agreeing with me or quoting me, or just by being wise or kind. Or making me laugh until tears flow. Or outlining an opinion I hadn't considered before.

However, and I know this is stupid, but I am being fucking macerated over the manner of how I got engaged on the "People who plan to "Get engaged" thread.

I cannot believe how nasty it has got. I have got really good at hiding threads that upset me in the past, but this one has actually made me go shaky.

I just feel stupid and thought I was better at holding my own, but I feel outnumbered over something so silly. DH and I went to Paris to "get engaged" and that very act has been labelled pathetic and meaningless. It was such a lovely memory for us and it's had me in tears that it has been called "meaningless" and "pathetic".

I'll have to leave as it's actually made me jumpy and lose confidence about posting. Not flouncing, just feel so shaken and daft to even feel that way.

Bowlersarm Wed 20-Feb-13 20:01:57

I've seen the thread appearing on and off but haven't opened it. I've joined recently although have lurked for years and I don't feel brave enough to post a lot - it can be very very cruel at times it seems. Try and take a step back from that thread and still enjoy the areas of MN that you have been. The insulting idiots don't know you-fuck 'em!

FanjoForTheMammaries Wed 20-Feb-13 20:02:35

Why care what arseholes think of your very lovely and personal plans, is what I say smile

There's some morons on here that are best off ignored. It's bloody weird how some folks here get so riled up about innocuous things. My suggestion is to take a break for a day or too.

I feel that unless you happen to know the posters personally then it doesn't matter what they say, or at least it shouldn't.

Hope to enjoyed Paris. What a lovely memory.

Pan Wed 20-Feb-13 20:02:49

There are eleventy billion ways of telling someone to fuck off. "Fuck off" is just one of them.

YouOldSlag Wed 20-Feb-13 20:03:07

LifeisBetter- it's on AIBU. I should have known better really! It's rough in there some days.

No, no, no. You can't have your mind changed in Flouncers' Corner. Off you go, shoo! wink

scottishmummy Wed 20-Feb-13 20:03:49

No,people who think engagements are boaky not have sad life's.it's a different pov
And you need to robustly be able to all rub along on mn,with the robust pov
Fwiw, I do think engagements and dos arev omit inducing but hey ho.thats why I've never been engaged

Pan Wed 20-Feb-13 20:05:30

So, that's sorted YOS. You're staying. Anything else after this is just attention-seeking.smile

wigglesrock Wed 20-Feb-13 20:07:03

Just ignore it, I know, I know easier said than done and I haven't read the thread.

I have 3 daughters and they all have very popular names that all end in the same letter - that seems to make me very dull, unimaginative and you'd think I could come up with "better" names for my children grin Say it with me "I don't give 2 shiney shites"!

MarkGruffalohohoho Wed 20-Feb-13 20:08:33

Cheer up youoldslag thanks This is not worth you sobbing over pet - assume you are having a shitty day ...hide the thread and have a brew
internet is not rl and i don't mean that in a snarky way - tis but words on a screen and difference of opinions. xx

Bluemonkeyspots Wed 20-Feb-13 20:08:37

It's amazing how brave rude some people get when sitting behind a computer screen.

Have a glass off wine and feel smug that you have the lovely memories to look back on.

YouOldSlag Wed 20-Feb-13 20:08:47

I'm staying but I'll switch off for a while and come back with a tougher hide. Thanks all. thanks

well i think it sounds lovely and romantic.

don't let some stupid thread ruin those beautiful memories for you. they're all just jealous. smile

My Mum says that, claude! Are you my Mum? shock

Pan Wed 20-Feb-13 20:12:37

"It's amazing how brave rude some people get when sitting behind a computer screen. " yep, exactement, mon ami.

have a nice break, YOS. It's a really good balancer.

scottishmummy Wed 20-Feb-13 20:14:09

I don't think they're jealous in least, I think engagement simply isnt thrilling to everyone
And that's the mn rub,what's hugely significant to someone is boaky to someone else
And if you can genuinely understand that,and that you'll not convince otherwise you'll be grand

FanjoForTheMammaries Wed 20-Feb-13 20:14:40

It is!

I have come back more balanced temporarily

FanjoForTheMammaries Wed 20-Feb-13 20:15:37

shock at scottishmummy's soft side peeking out

Pan Wed 20-Feb-13 20:17:10

I've seen sm's soft side peek out before. Photos are available.grin

FanjoForTheMammaries Wed 20-Feb-13 20:17:45

They would be worth a fortune grin

eh BeerTricksBotter - which bit?

and no, i am not your mother. not unless you're 6yo. in which case you are a very talented child, and i'll be happy to adopt you.

almostanotherday Wed 20-Feb-13 20:20:42

My DH asked me to marry him via text message, yours is way better smile

scottishmummy Wed 20-Feb-13 20:21:24

It's all true, but I cannot speak of it,but would make jackie bird blush

NaturalBlondeYeahRight Wed 20-Feb-13 20:22:41

LifeIsBetterInFlipFlops I'll take your 11 years and raise you 18 grin

I'm quite new to MN and find it bloodya little bit scary sometimes. Have already been told off once. Hope I can handle it.

scottishmummy Wed 20-Feb-13 20:24:28

So talkin of engagements do folk ask for pressies and all that?
My granny used to go on about keeping a bottom drawer for when get hitched
Seeing I'm a dirty stop out never made it that far,no jeweler window for me

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