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Mental health

how did i get here?

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Bertolli · 23/09/2007 22:55

i saw a photo of myself on-line at dh works do recently and was pretty gutted. Thought i had looked pretty good at the time, but seeing myself next to all these vibrant skinny pretty girls i just looked tired and a bit on the heavy side. of course these women dont have kids, and i have 2 young ones which i totally adore.. it's just i didn't see myself as that girl in the photo.. Am cross with myself that this is all based on what i look like. GRR

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fransmom · 23/09/2007 22:59

oh sweetheart, we all feel like this when we see pictures of ourselves, especially when stood next to people who we think we look like. don't be too hard on yourself though x (((((((((bertolli)))))))))

NappiesGalore · 23/09/2007 23:07

know the feeling.
feels pretty silly to be sad at something so 'shallow' doesnt it?
ho hum.
i cant actually decide if i give a toss or not... [eats more ice-cream]

Bertolli · 23/09/2007 23:13

Sorry- was making tea didn't really expect anyone to answer!

thanx fm. you are so sweet x

ng- yes!! it does seem pretty silly. it's wierd reflecting on how i used to be and the things that mattered- and how they have changed somewhat since being a mama..

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Bertolli · 23/09/2007 23:16

man it was all about me me me

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NappiesGalore · 23/09/2007 23:18

yes.

am in an odd mood tonight, sorry. rubbish at conversation! but i do know just what you mean. time to search for a new and peaceful perspective i think...

seems odd tho, as i dont for one second expect other people to be lithe and firm and supple... i dont look down on anyone for not being so and i think people of all shapes and sizes are beautiful. so seems odd that i can vainly wince with disapointment at my 'new' body.

like i said; ho hum.

NappiesGalore · 23/09/2007 23:20

och, bertolli, if you dont think about you you you, who will?
we all deserve time and attention. even ourselves. odd how we all beat ourselves up for it (i do too. am great with the advice, shit at taking it.)

here, take my advice, im not using it .

Bertolli · 23/09/2007 23:28

yes indeed you are so right.

(i think prhaps if you have had a good bod naturally prior to babies, it can be a bit of a shock to see ones stomach apres the event! have had two emerg c-secs)

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Bertolli · 23/09/2007 23:32

I think that i'm just finding it hard to be everything. you know? mother, desirable sex kitten, housekeeper, friend, toddler group goer, glamerous goer-outer come fri pm. it's kinda hard to be everything all of the time

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NappiesGalore · 23/09/2007 23:32

i had vaginal births... but still cant see any way my tummy is ever fit for public viewing again

NappiesGalore · 23/09/2007 23:33

oh yes. bloody good point well expressed there.

Bertolli · 23/09/2007 23:34

hey ng you are funny

thanks for cheering me up

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NappiesGalore · 23/09/2007 23:36

no worries chick, thanks for feeling glum with me!

Bertolli · 23/09/2007 23:42

actually i get the impression you are probably pretty gorgeous! i am quite good at discerning these things
Are you a Londoner by any chance?

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NappiesGalore · 23/09/2007 23:48

yeah. london born and bred. out in the country now... as you do.

get the impression from where? from this thread? whaddisay?

Bertolli · 23/09/2007 23:49

sorry ,was that a bit stalkerish? no need to answer thanks for the chat. bonne nuit x

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NappiesGalore · 23/09/2007 23:52

eh?
hey, dont go like that...

i was taken aback... but i dont think youre a stalker! I answered Your thread, remember?>

onlyjoking9329 · 23/09/2007 23:52

i think you can't be everything you just have to prioritise (sp) you need to be happy with yourself.

Bertolli · 23/09/2007 23:53

oh you did answer! sorry wasn't sure of the protocol!! yeah, just from this thread. don't know how to put my finger on it, just felt like you were! me too, and have also moved out.

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NappiesGalore · 23/09/2007 23:58

absolutely oj. in my case, i think i need to do more... find a source of pride (other than my lovely dc of course) or at least keep busy so i dont have time to stew. at least, thats my current mode of attack

bertolli, thats v nice fo you to say - thanks. how come you moved out?

Bertolli · 24/09/2007 00:07

Oh, space really. was in NW1 and to buy a house there you need a few quid (preferably in the millions catagory!!). now have great hoose. just sometimes feels a bit old b4 my time-ish.

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NappiesGalore · 24/09/2007 00:09

islington? yep, costs a fair bit to live there nowadays...

old b4 yr time? yep, feel v much like that sometimes...

i REALLY need to be more pro-active (forgive the american selfhelp expression) about it and get myself a regular social life tho... would help!

tis difficult tho. sometimes feel im turning into a hermit

better go to bed! tis late!

NappiesGalore · 24/09/2007 00:10

whereabouts in the country are you? (roughly if you feel stalked!)

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Bertolli · 24/09/2007 00:12

primrose hill. yes tis SO late. Sleep well

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NappiesGalore · 24/09/2007 00:14

ooh PH eh? posh

is lovely round there. i know a woman with a gorgeous big house right by the park (am rubbish with street names!)

Bertolli · 24/09/2007 00:15

Hertfordshire. U?

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