Just that really. I have had it with this
The attitude of mental health services that people unlucky enough to be labelled with this are a waste of space, attention-seeking, liars, fakers, manipulative, don't take responsibility, not really mentally ill and in control and just choosing to behave badly, not as deserving of help as people with other diagnoses or of help at all...(oh and of course actual other diagnoses that person has get overlooked.)
I have lost count of the times I have said I experience x and been told oh no you don't dear, or that's normal (when no, it isn't). Told aw dear sorry you want to die but go and bother the Samaritans instead of us, or go and have a bath and a cup of tea, you're not really ill.
I have lies in my notes - because I have the BPD label I must be druggie alcoholic and promiscuous, um, I am actually fairly mousy, have had a puff of weed precisely twice as a student, went through a phase of using alcohol to deal with depression and anxiety I wasn't getting help with so now barely drink, didn't even sleep with anyone until university and have actually always been sensible and have very little experience because you know, being too socially anxious and self-hating to go out doesn't lend itself to meeting people, but my saying I wasn't interested in a serious relationship at that time to cover up my shame and embarrassment at my LACK of experience has been taken as the opposite.
They really just view everything you say and do through the lens of that you are evil BPD scum.
I have virtually given up on the prospect of getting any help. I will just have to try and drag myself through this alone.
Yes, I have had private psychotherapy. After the NHS fobbed me off with counselling and CBT, admitted that wasn't enough, put me on a waiting list, 18 months later I finally got an appointment...I asked to change it because it was early morning and was then told I couldn't (because I must be lazy BPD scum right, not that I was on heavy medication and had physical health issues that made it difficult to get up) and then got a letter discharging me basically telling me I was a piece of scum who didn't want therapy to work and was impulsive (when I have always been trying to fight self-harm and suicide attempts, and planned them for a long time but hey, don't let the reality get in the way of what services decide to see).
Do not talk about DBT. It is victim-blaming shit. I have social anxiety, I don't want to talk about personal crap in a room full of strangers! And it is no more than the usual 'have a cup of tea' crap anyway ie 'you lazy idiot, why won't you help yourself'. I once went for an assessment, tried to explain to woman about above-mentioned issue with getting up, told to get an alarm clock. Oh, wow, I bow down in gratitude to that thought! It's not like I worked full-time for several years before becoming mentally and physically ill and strangely enough managed to get in on time! No, I have the BPD label so must be lazy scum who can't get off my arse! Of course I didn't want to help myself so much I paid money I couldn't really afford for private therapy. But mention of my NHS diagnosis sounded the death knell to that, too. No-one wants to work with people with the BPD label.
Not to mention the general public perception that we are evil bunny boilers.
Helpful when these are people who already have a very negative image of themselves.
So I thought I would start a venting/ mutual support thread...anyone?
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Fed Up With BPD Stigma - Anyone Else?
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Butterflywings168 · 03/05/2015 22:30
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