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Emetophobia - my worst nightmare

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zonedout Fri 09-Nov-12 18:09:02

Ds1 goes to a school set on several different sites. Today one of the sites has been closed for deep cleaning due to norovirus wiping out hundreds of children this week. There are loads of siblings in ds1's building/class and 8 of his classmates were off today.

I am a single parent (really outing myself here!) and terrified of what feels completely inevitable right now. I was awake all night last night, waiting. Shall be doing the same again tonight.

You know, I feel like I have improved a lot with my emetophobia recently. I am no longer worried about the odd v. It's the awful, debilitating violence of noro that terrifies the life out of me.

The waiting is utter torture sad

Marne Wed 05-Dec-12 09:53:51

<hugs> Bad sad,

I have woken up feeling fluey again. Talk of norovirus in the playground and people posting on fb about sick kids (just cant get away from it) sad. Dd2 is going to a friends house tonight after we cancelled last week due to her having a bad cold, dh working late this week and then he has his work party on sat so wont be home to early hours of sunday. I hate these last few weeks of school, people are mote sociable, lots of things going on at school so more chances of bugs spreading. I have given in and agreed to dd1 going to the school disco tomorrow night, roll on the 21st when school closes for a couple weeks and we can stay in smile.

Badvocsanta Wed 05-Dec-12 10:22:30

I have had a nasty virus Marne...felt very sick with it too sad
At least it's cold...maybe the cold will kill the bugs?
<clutches at straws>

Marne Wed 05-Dec-12 10:30:50

Thats what i was thinking (lots of nice cold weather to come).

Marne Wed 05-Dec-12 13:18:17

Dd2 has now been sent home with what looks like an ear infection, am now panicking as i have to take her to the doctors when i have picked dd1 up from school.

I cant get any medicine into her, she's refusing calpol and nurofen so not a chance in hell i'm going to get antibiotics into her sad, just hope we dont end up in hospital like we often do with her.

Badvocsanta Wed 05-Dec-12 13:37:25

Oh no sad
Do they give her pain killing suppositories?

Marne Wed 05-Dec-12 13:45:36

No, the doctor seems to think i should be able to get meds into her oraly, he obviously hasn't had the pleasure of giving a almost 7 year old autistic child meds sad. I have managed to get half a dose of nurofen into her by sneaking it into her drink but i then risk her noticing which resaults in her going on food and drink strike. Seems to be helping though and she has perked up a bit just in time for the school run.

Badvocsanta Wed 05-Dec-12 15:44:14

could you crush tablets into yoghurt/mousse? Getting meds into kids can be a nightmare sad you have my sympathy. Ds1 has asd but never had much if an issue with meds, thank goodness.

Badvocsanta Wed 05-Dec-12 15:44:51

My mum used to have to crush tablets in a spoon of jam smile
My old gp said I was the key child be had ever come across who wouldn't take calpol smile

Marne Wed 05-Dec-12 16:00:35

She wont take anything from a spoon sad, have got some into her and she's now hyper (just in time for the doctors at 5pm).

Badvocsanta Wed 05-Dec-12 16:03:54

Syringe?
Sorry...I am sure you have tried everything...

Marne Wed 05-Dec-12 16:19:08

Last time i managed to syringe it into her she was sick sad so i'm not keen on trying it again (and it takes 2 or 3 people to hold her down), will keep trying to hide it in her drink and see how we get on.

lulu1971 Wed 05-Dec-12 20:13:33

I hope you don't mind me posting on here but i too suffer this debilitating fear and this evening i am in a right state. my dp woke at 3am with d&v. I immediately went upstairs and stayed with DC. got them up and out of house before they even saw him. luckily the DC have their bedrooms and bathrooms upstairs.Our bedroom and bathroom are downstairs. the DC aren't here tonight so i am again upstairs. i am terrified i am going to catch this. my hands are so sore from washing them and my anxiety is so bad i have d!! please reassure me. I have virtually stayed out of his way today except for taking toast and water in to him and i haven't even been in our bathroom!

lulu1971 Wed 05-Dec-12 20:15:41

why is this fear so much worse at night? i have a zoplicone which i might just take to send me to sleep.

Marne Wed 05-Dec-12 20:22:17

So sorry you are going through this lulu sad ,i think you are doing all you can not to catch it. I think its harder to catch it from an adult (as they tend to make it to the loo unlike a child so its more contained). Luckily you have 2 bathrooms (i'm so pleased we have 2 toilets), at least your dc's are out of the way tonight so hopfuly they wont catch it. All you can do is stay out of his way for 48 hours and then make sure the bathroom is cleaned with bleach and bedding changed. I dread my dh getting ill more than anyone (as i have to share a bed with him). Hopfully its just a 24hour thing (if he's eating and keeping it down), maybe it was something he had eaten that upset his stomach and not a bug?

Marne Wed 05-Dec-12 20:25:59

oh and just to reasure you, my friends dh had it last weekend but no one else in the house came down with it. Keeping my fingers crossed for you xxx

lulu1971 Wed 05-Dec-12 20:30:08

Hello Marne, at last a voice of reason. I've suddenly stopped shaking, well almost!! yes it has been contained and the bathroom door has remained shut. the DC go with their dad until Sunday so fingers crossed!! just out of curiosity do any of you suffer with d when anxious. I've had it all day.

Marne Wed 05-Dec-12 20:50:07

I always suffer from d when anxious, i think its my bodys way of coping (though not a nice way), i get it alot during the winter (often as soon as i hear someone has had d&v that may have been near us). Its also possable to have just d with a bug and no V (even more so for us).

Lucky that the kids are away as they are more likely to get it (as kids tend to forget to wash their hands unlike us who scrub them to death). As long as the bathroom and bedroom are cleaned when he is better than you should be ok.

reastie Thu 06-Dec-12 09:23:22

lulu how are things this morning? FWIW I also have a friend whose DH had d&v bug a couple of weeks ago, they only have one loo/bathroom but no one else got it. I get d when anxious for sure.

I went to see a private psychiatrist yesterday. I could only afford an initial assessment but hoping she will give me details of someone who can help. She was amazing - the first professional to genuinely seem to understand and have knowledge of emet and not tell me I have to be sick to get over it. It's given me hope tbh that I can get better (if not completely than manageable).

lulu1971 Thu 06-Dec-12 10:18:20

Hi Reastie. thank you for asking. well it was a quiet night in my house and I've come into work today, anxious and worried. Wanting my dcs home but to scared in case they catch it so again they will stay with relatives until their dad picks them up tomorrow. Dp only stopped with the runs very late last night so i am going to go home and clean like crazy. To be honest i feel like crying as i wish i could get over this as it rules my life.

roundabout1 Thu 06-Dec-12 10:44:44

lulu - you are doing all you can but I can so relate to what you are saying. It does tend to rule your life. My stomach was growling & churning last night - probably as I hadn't eaten much & I was awake convinced it was the start of something. Also dd was complaining of feeling unwell so was on tenterhooks for that.

Marne Thu 06-Dec-12 11:05:50

<hugs> lulu- i know what you mean, it takes over my life every day sad, on monday i spotted someone had been sick in the hedge outside school where i park my car, so every day i have got up to school 20 minutes early to make sure i can park closer to the school so i dont have to walk past it (i know its silly and it was probably from a drunk person, not someone with a bug but i'm worried one of the dd's will tread in it), it anoys me as no one else has even noticed it, just me being silly. Its little things like this that effect me every day, i cant go into town this time of year because of V on the pavements (people getting drunk at christmas parties), hate going anywhere where i might pick up a bug and i'm getting stressed with dh as he has to use my car to drive people home from his work party at the weekend (i'm worried someone will be sick in my car). Hate, hate, hate this phobia sad.

lulu1971 Thu 06-Dec-12 11:21:32

I totally understand. the worse thing for me and i can't get my head round the fact that in the last 20 years i have been physically sick once!!! yet i worry about it every day. All that wasted energy and emotion living in fear. Sorry about grammar and spelling. I'm doing this on my phone.

Marne Thu 06-Dec-12 11:40:53

Wow, 20 years shock. I went through high school without being sick (up until i got pregnant (age 20) and i was sick once sad, have had norovirus twice from the dd's sad. I was told i would be cured once i was sick as i would realise that 'its not that bad', if anything being sick has made it worse because it has proved that i can get sick (so i'm even more obsessed about catching bugs).

lulu1971 Thu 06-Dec-12 12:04:44

I totally disagree with the whole you'll be cured if you're sick attitude. In my opinion it makes it worse as you recall each incident with horror. do you know if anyone here has been prescribed strong anti emetics that actually work. my gp prescribed me buccastem 2 years ago and for a while i felt very reassured. now i worry they won't work if i need them as I've never taken them. i can cope with a stomach bug if I'm physically sick. Marne do you take any meds to help you x

reastie Thu 06-Dec-12 12:06:05

Marne the therapists I've been to have always been like that - if you're sick you'll get over it. I said this to the psychiatrist when I saw her yesterday to see what she thought and she said for some people it will 'cure' them but not for everyone as other people will be sick and find it awful and their worst fears will be confirmed which will make the phobia worse. She said it doesn't mean they can't be helped and they can't improve the phobia, it just means being sick to get over it doesn't work for them and they need other approaches. Problem is I think alot of therapists don't have specific specialist knowledge in emet and so just treat it as other simpler phobias where it generally does work if you do the activity IYKWIM.

lulu I'm exactly the same. It's so constricting this thing isn't it.

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