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TTC after MC (#7) - fx for better times ahead

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CarrotVan · 08/07/2015 19:32

Support, shoulders to cry on, virtual gin and the best cheer leaders MN can offer you. We've been there and it's awful but we'll help each other through to better times.

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Allmychildrenhavepaws · 09/07/2015 11:43

I know there's 3 posts left on other thread, but wanted to kick this one off!

Good luck and baby dust to all...let 'lucky no.7 thread' bring lots of lovely BFP'S Grin

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CarrotVan · 09/07/2015 11:51

I did think about titles involving 7 circles of hell, 7 samurai, the Seventh Seal etc. Lucky No Seven would have been perfect!

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Allmychildrenhavepaws · 09/07/2015 11:55

I hope so! X

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Mummyofonesofar · 09/07/2015 11:57

Oh paws I am so so sorry Flowers so glad you have your mum. You are being really strong lovely. I know exactly what you mean about powering through to pregnancy number 3 and I wish you every luck for a healthy one but hope you get the right tests and support if it isn't xxx

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Tftpoo · 09/07/2015 12:02

So sorry paws. Thinking of you xx

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Lilly89 · 09/07/2015 14:10

Had a slight name change (Megan)

Paws I'm so sorry to hear what has been going on! Thinking of you xxx

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Honey85 · 09/07/2015 20:32

Tentative congrats carrot!

I'm so sorry paws! I'm guessing at this stage it will prob be like a heavy period and may just last a bit longer? Rubbish.

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Allmychildrenhavepaws · 09/07/2015 22:30

Thank you for your thoughts ladies...
No it hasn't been like a period at all honey I passed a sac and had contractions again...just happened so quickly this time. X
Going to doc tomorrow to demand tests!

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Allmychildrenhavepaws · 09/07/2015 22:51

I know you're meant to have 3 miscarriages before they look at you, but I have no children yet, have had two consecutive miscarriages and am only 27! So I don't want to try again and have yet another mc, which will result in the chances of future mc's being even greater!!!

I mean, do I really have to have 3 miscarriages under the age of 30 with no children which will inevitably diminish my future chances before the doctors will even look at me???!!!
I just feel completely hopeless and angry. Why does everyone else seem to act like its not a big deal...do they have any idea what this is doing to me, not just physically but emotionally? I don't even want to wake up in the morning, that's how low I feel. I am empty...yet again.

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Mummyofonesofar · 09/07/2015 22:52

Hope you get some promises of tests tomorrow Hun

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Allmychildrenhavepaws · 09/07/2015 22:54

Sorry for rant. I really don't mean to come across self obsessed x

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Mummyofonesofar · 09/07/2015 22:54

Oh paws crossed posts. I am so sorry you are feeling like that. I hope you have the confidence to pour your heart out tomorrow and they listen. Your mental wellbeing is at stake here x

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Allmychildrenhavepaws · 09/07/2015 23:39

I hope so mummy. I'm going to make it very clear that I'm already not feeling well emotionally after two in a row. I honestly couldn't handle three. I'll let you know what they say. Thank you for your support xx

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MorganLeFey · 09/07/2015 23:53

Paws The devil's advocate is that miscarriages are common - at least 20% of conceptions - so one or even two in a row (horrible as is it) can be just be bad luck. The statistical tipping point to potentially being a cause is 3 in a row hence the general UK guidance for first trimester miscarriages - unless other exenuating features like age/subfertility/suspected underlying cause. & even then a cause is only found in about 50%.

You could look into if your local EPU is doing any trials & get investigations (+ potentially treatments) that way or would having them privately be an option..?

I do look back & kick myself somewhat for not having private tests after our 2nd miscarriage with hindsight because the next one ended the same way - but it could've more likely been a lucky one... & we're on the NHS/private RMC treadmill now!

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CarrotVan · 10/07/2015 09:05

Others are right paws at the very least you need some personal support to help you through even if they can't do much more at this stage.

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MamaLazarou · 10/07/2015 19:15

I'm so sorry, paws. I hope you manage to get some answers.

I had a tarot card reading yesterday. It was very reassuring. I will have my baby by the end of next year.

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Horsey21 · 10/07/2015 19:59

Oh paws Sad your story has made me so sad. I'm really sorry you are going through this again.

Can I join this thread? Been hanging around for a long time and feel like I could do with some support. I'm currently on day 43 of a WTF cycle after a MMC at the end of May. Blighted ovum found at 9 weeks and I eventually had an ERPC at nearly 12 weeks. I am 31, ttc #1 and got pregnant first month of trying.

Desperado for my period to come back so we can start trying again. Anyone got experience of a long wtf cycle and when did period come back? Used to be a regular 31 day cycle and worried I'll never get my pattern back x

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Allmychildrenhavepaws · 10/07/2015 20:10

Thankyou Morgan carrot mama for the information and kind words. X
That's great news about your reading mama ... Will keep you going Smile
I'm quite lucky I spose, as my husband is a working medium. 'upstairs' told him that I was going to find my pregnancy (1st) very hard, they obviously aren't allowed to 'tell' him that I was going to mc as your 'life path' and circumstances may change as time goes by....

On a different note, went to doctors today....am getting blood tests done for the following:
Anti-nuclear antibodies (ANA)
Full blood count
Ferritin

We're gonna wait to try again, until we get our results back (both me and dh) so we don't risk another, possibly unnecessary mc. Gonna be hard to wait, but perhaps after two mc's a break from it would be beneficial for my physical and emotional health. I'll still stick around on here though, ill need you ladies to keep me going!

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Allmychildrenhavepaws · 10/07/2015 20:13

Welcome horsey, sorry for your loss. I know how crushing it is to lose your first pregnancy. The ladies here are lovely Flowers x

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MamaLazarou · 10/07/2015 20:25

Hello horsey and welcome, although I am sorry that you find yourself here. I hope this thread helps you as much as it has helped me.

That's absolutely fascinating, paws! I'm not certain that I believe in all the woo stuff but my reading certainly gave me comfort when I needed it.

Best of luck for your tests x

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Mummyofonesofar · 10/07/2015 20:29

paws glad they took your pain seriously and are doing some tests to kick things off lovely. Good idea about having a little break.

mama I hope the tarot reading was wrong and it is much sooner x

horsey sorry my cycle was 35 days after natural mc. And sorry for your loss x

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MamaLazarou · 10/07/2015 21:19

Thank you, mummy. You are always so kind to me. The cards actually said it would happen between this August and next April. The sooner the better - I'm 40 next month and feeling that time is running out!

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Honey85 · 10/07/2015 21:19

paws glad that you are able to take some positive steps. I hope I didn't sound like I was trivialising your mc in my previous post as I know how horrid it is. Before falling preg with dd, I had a mc at just over 4 weeks and was absolutely devastated, so I understand. My bleed then was a really heavy and painful period.

Welcome horsey sorry for your loss. My wtf cycle was 49 days and ended last Friday, so fingers crossed you don't have long to wait. It's a very frustrating limbo kinda feeling!

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Mummyofonesofar · 10/07/2015 21:32

mama not long and another BFP is on the cards then! ( literally ) Grin

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Allmychildrenhavepaws · 10/07/2015 22:09

Thank you mama, I'm glad you found some comfort from a reading. I often do my own cards and they are always accurate (not tarot, oracle) . How are you after your mc? Same time bfp/mc as me! You going to try again? X
mummy I'm relieved they took me seriously, I explained how I feel my body is 'rejecting' my pregnancies and feels like it can't cope due to how ill and run down I get. Brilliant doctor today, only filling in for a short while otherwise I would snatch him up as my regular doc! X
honey, no not at all! Don't be a silly billy! X

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