Sixth Form Common Room part V - ttc and pregnancy post mc

[TomboyWife]

The old thread be a'full, this thread be a'new!

Does what it says on the tin: if you're TTC or pregnant after miscarriage, this is the place for you!

Ooh a new thread! Exciting.
Hope everyones well x

Hi,I had a mmc last week,ended with a evac on Thurs :( so,so sad. Had just got (or so i thought to t end of my first trimester) have just stopped bleeding,n so desperate,but scared,to try again. Am I stupid to try so soon? Also,when shud i test negative on a ptest?think id wana know for sure that my hormones were bk to normal before ttc?just really want to b pregnant again,we r both so ready :( got caught v quick last time which gives me some hope,but just so shocked that i didnt 'know' anything was wrong!any advice support very,very welcome x

Hi allchik, so sorry to hear your sad news x It is so shocking when there are no signs indicating anything is wrong.
I've heard different things from different people/doctors/hospitals but first time we waited for 1 af so that dating the pregnancy was easier plus I felt it wasn't quite so raw (emotionally) and my hormones had settled down too. I can understand your want/need to try as soon as possible though x
I'm not sure about when to test for a negative result as it didn't occur to me to do that!

Big hug x Take care of yourself x

Thank you for your kind words. I just can not believe how empty and lost I feel, I'll be fine for a few hours and then it will just hit me like a sledge hammer.
Going back to work tomorrow and DREADING it, work at a school, but kind of thinking it will do me good to plod on and 'get on with life' but I just feel as though Im in limbo land really......I had began to imagine the next year with such a dif outcome....e.g. that I would be breaking up for the summer break and not going back (was due 2nd Sept)....was going to be 6 months pregnant for my sis in laws wedding so was having a maternity bridesmaid dress made etc.....just can't seem to readjust to the next 6 months without a growing bump :(

The first 12 weeks seemed like such a hurdle......to get to 13 and for it all to end was heartbreaking....so scared to go through it all agin....but desperate for it at the same time!!

Did you manage to conceive again? sorry if its too personal to answer :(

Feel like I just want to sleep for 12 weeks and wake up with a healthy 2nd trimester pregnancy xxx

I went back to work as soon as I could as I felt like I would just feel more sorry for myself. Hopefully it'll be good for you to get back to work too x

First mmc happened August bank holiday, I started bleeding when I was 11 weeks. I had one af then got pregnant again only to have another mmc on 10th Jan, found out at my 12 week scan with no bleeding. I had my first af last week so we'll be trying again as soon as!

As I'd already had a successful and uneventful pregnancy we told friends and family quite early on thinking nothing would go wrong, when I had my first mmc I found so many people I knew had gone through it before. It is common but lots people do go on to have full term pregnancies with no trouble so keep your chin up and look forward to trying for a baby again x

Hi allchik, very sorry for your recent loss. We've all been through it here, so we know how awful it is.

I had a natural mc back in June (no ERPC or medical management, it happened at home without any intervention), and I still got a faint positive on a home test two weeks later. By three weeks I was testing negative. It's perfectly normal for the hormones to take a little while to clear out of your system. (That said, if you're still testing positive after a few weeks which is unlikely let your doctor know.)

It's 2WW time for me. I'm pretty sure I popped an egg a few days ago. As of today I'm getting a bit of the tiredness and dizziness I had on my BFP cycle, though sore boobs and metal mouth have yet to make an appearance. Fingers crossed...

Thanks both for your messages, good to know I'm not alone. Best of luck for both of you that it happens very soon xxxxxxxxx

Went to the docs yesterday for my docs note and had a complete break down....she signed me off till Monday. Feel like a bit of a failure really, that I should be coping and should be able to go back....but think I need a bit more time, teach in a tough inner city secondary school, so maybe she was right.

My doctor was lovely, and she has said next time I get pregnant she will book me in for an early scan before my 12 weeks so hopefully this will give some reassurance.

Really hope I can get my strength up this week so that I can return to some sense of normality xxx

Allchik It's a really emotional time and your hormones are probably all over the place so don't give your self a hard time x I hope the break has been good for you xxxx

I seem to be on heat at the moment so I'm assuming that means I'm ovulating (It's the only way I can tell when I'm ovulating!). So lots more SWI this weekend for us, hoorah!

Tomboy fx for your 2ww xx

Hope every one else is well and hoping for a sunny weekend x

Hi Allchik
So sorry for what you are going though, I just wanted to give you a bit of reassurance, everything you've written, I could have written myself (I mc'd back in November, got to 12 weeks 2 then started bleeding)

I was told to do a hpt at what was 4 weeks from the start of my mc and that came back negative, such a weird feeling to be praying for a negative when you really want to be pregnant.

I know that they say it will take 4 - 6 weeks for your next period but it actually took 7 for me. Also thought it was worth mentioning as no-one warned me and it did not occur to me, your cycle may be longer than it was before. My first proper cycle after the MC was 34 days (normally 28 days, cue hoping to see a bfp and tears when it was a bfn) then next one was 30 days.

I hope you get all the support you need, MN is brilliant for people who "get it" when RW people say well meaning but stupid things x

Thanks both for your kind words....just read back my posts and can't believe how much difference a few days makes! I am still of course devastated, I so, so wanted the baby and was so excited about getting bigger and progressing along the pregnancy. However, I can also see a bit of sense and hope now too. I understand now that my baby was probably very poorly and would not of been able to survive....Im also now much more hopeful that I will get pregnant and I will carry a baby full term.
Think my hormones are settling down (bleeding has very almost stopped) and actually feel quite excited about trying again....similar feelings to how I felt when my hubby and I first made the decision to TTC. Was scared it would just feel like I wanted a replacement....but it doesnt quite feel like that.

Ive never really had a regular cycle.....think for the first few months were going to just go with the flow...not check dates/be manic about testing etc and just see what happens......hopefully it will!!! :)

These threads really are fab.....you feel so alone, and even though people tell you how common mc are, it still feels like no one in the world could feel the despair that you feel....thanks for the support xxx

Morning ladies,

Hope alls well this morning x

I'm now in my 2ww, due AF anytime between 15th and 18th - was thinking I'd leave it until mothers day (if I can??) but I'll feel really disappointed if it?s not BFP. Also it?s my birthday at the weekend and I would have been due.... trying not to dwell on it too much but it?s hard not to!

Ox

ostrich im on my 2ww to and I'm near to u on dates im not a regular 28 dayer as such but usually have 15 day lp so I should be due 20th fx we both get our bfps

hello there, please can i join your thread?!
i had mmc in aug and another in dec. first month trying and AF just arrived, now enterin what i call 2 week denial phase, maybe there's still a chance i'm pregnant even with AF and all associated symptoms and aches! small consolation of . if i drink for two weeks then we can get back to business
would really welcome some help at staying sane, was so sure i was pregnant this month, did two test a few days ago, BFN of course, still a bit in denial!!

Hi Mum, glad to have someone testing near me. So hope it's good news x

Huga Sorry to hear about your MMCs, I think I might be in the 2 week denial phase too! I keep getting urges to test but have so far restrained myself. I will poas tomorrow as I'm out celebrating and want to know if I can have a few or not....

Allchik hope your week at work has been ok and hope you're feeling a bit better xx

Tomboy still got my fx for you x

I have a very dodgy stomach this morning and feel sick, I'm certain its a bug but my denial is telling me it's not ;) I will poas tomorrow to know for sure!

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Any news Ostrich?

Caved in yesterday - BFN but it's way too early so I still have hope. Been feeling really sick and hoping it's not just the bug..... Even though I have a 2.7 DS, I was so unaware when I was pregnant (wasn't really trying and didn't know until I was 6 weeks) with him that I can't remember feeling sick early on - Am I being stupid to think it's could POSSIBLY be morning sickness?

How are you doing Tomboy?

It's so quiet in here, hope everyone's ok x

Ostrich sorry about the BFN, but if it was very early... I've had MNers tell me they started getting morning sickness almost immediately, so that could very well be a good (IYSWIM) sign.

Welcome to the new joiners! Sorry I've not said hi until now, it's been a busy week.

I'm still on the 2WW, was pretty optimistic a few days ago, but now I'm not sure. I've been dizzy and clumsy, which was one of my first symptoms last time round, and in the last couple of days my boobs have grown, but they're not sore. We shall see, I guess. There's no point testing for a few days yet.

That's good to know, thanks Tomboy. Your symptoms sound promising, lets hope you get sore norks soon x
I've messed up my dates for this month, from the erpc to the 1st day of AF was 38 days - I assumed it was long because of the erpc so I estimated 28-31 day for this cycle (unsure what a normal cycle for me is), today being day 25 but yesterday I had EWCM?? Will leave testing until the 18th but I'm not holding out much hope :(

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Isn't confusing with the dates ostrich I'm pretty sure I'm only 8 dpo but I caved and did another test this morning bfn what's weird though is my boobs are so sore and that was my first sign before more worrying though is I've had a real low down cramp all day. Needless to say I got on to dr google and I'm thinking hopingit may be implantation cramps as this Apparantly can occur anywhere between 5-12 dpo. Interesting it also said that only once implanted Do you produce hcg and in some cases this can take 2-3 days for the kidneys to process and than start coming through in urine ... So u may not even be getting measurable hcg until 12-15 dpo so I'm trying to be hopefully

Fingers crossed to all those in the 2ww xxx

He he Mum what are we like! Good signs for you though x yay!
I've been feeling very AFy all day too and hoping the same as you x poas today - BFN:( Will be testing Sunday/Monday/Tuesday.... if I still have sysmtoms and no af. I wont lose hope until a BFP or my af shows her mean face.

I just worked out what dpo means! I'm still learning.......

This makes 3 of us on the AFy feelings. But when I was pg last time round, a few days before my BFP I was so sure I was about to bleed I put on a sanitary towel. Make of that what you will.

I'll probably test this weekend if the witch hasn't arrived by then.

It really sucks doesn't it.... I just tested again this morning bfn but it was a pound cheaply test from asda which though it dosent say the concentration needed does say will detect the hormone the first day u are late. So now I'm convinced there may still be hope!! Boobies are incredibly sore without even the need to prod them now even driving over the speed hump downy road hurt!! But I do get tender before af...:/
Also feel constantly nauseous but this could be because next Sunday I fly to Barbados to get married so it may be nerves kicking in

I guess it's not over till the witch turns up so fx for all of us !!!

Sorry about the BFN MumTum, but congrats on your wedding!

I got a BFN of my own this morning. I'll test again in a couple of days if AF doesn't turn up, but I'm less symptomatic now, so I'm pretty sure this month was a near miss.

Booos for BFN's Tomboy and MumTum xxxxx

Yay MumTum for the Barbados wedding! You must be so excited, hope it all goes well xx They are some sensitive norks you have there - are they not normally that bad? Ouch! FX that AF doesn't show xx

I had very very slight spotting yesterday so I've been really down hearted and expecting the b/witch today but she didn't show. Will test in the morning but not feeling very positive at all.

Allchik and Hugga Hope you're doing ok.

Ox

POAS today but not first wee - too sleepy to work out the Boots digital DIY ones but it was a BFN :(. Oh well, fx next month will be the one with the sticky bean.

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