DH picked ds1 up from school today (he's doing half days for the rest of this week, just started in Reception). When they got home dh looked ashen and ds1 avoided my gaze. DH said "There's good news and bad news about school today" and told ds1 to tell me the bad news first. ds1 refused to tell me, dh insisted, etc, until I sid "Just tell me fgs!!".
So dh told me that ds1 had told him on the way home that he had been on the computer on a 5min timer, and after the 5 mins were up he was supposed to let the next child on. He said he refused to get off the computer, then lost his temper and shut the other child's fingers in the door on purpose. A teacher had to run for some ice because the other child's fingers were cut and bruised. DS1 was then put out in the corridor, where he proceeded to bang on the classroom door.
The good news apparently was that he counted to 140 and got a gem (big bloody deal )
DH said the teacher hadn't mentioned anything, but that there were hoardes of kids everywhere at pick-up and she couldn't easily have got to him.
So I questioned ds1, told him that if playing on the computer was going to have this effect on him then I would have to stop him from using the one at home and talk to his teacher about restricting his access to the school one (thread a couple of days ago about his new obsession with Wikipedia and google).
He then informed us that he ahd made the whole thing up and that none of it really happened. DH and I were totally nonplussed, so I phoned his teacher (most embarassing, he's only been there just over a week) and told her the story ds1 had given us. She said absolutely none of it happened, no fingers shut in the door, no shutting out in the corridor - that in fact ds1 had chosen not to go on the computer and had done a lovely tracing insted. Also that he had then tried to go on the computer during tidy-up time, but that the computer he chose was frozen and wouldn't work (which we agreed served him right). She also said that if anything on this scale HAD happened she would obviously have told us, which made me feel about two inches tall, but ds1 was very convincing and it was a very detailed fabrication!!
Does anyone have experience of this sort of fibbing, or any idea WHY he would want to get himself into trouble like this? I have had a gentle chat with him about it (starting with congratulations about the gem) but he just clammed up, wouldn't look at me (nothing new there) and muttered that he "wanted to see what would happen". He said the same thing at nursery when he turned on all the taps and flooded the toilets, and when he kicked all the heads off the new spring daffodils
Aaaaaarrrghhh!!!
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Greensleeves · 20/09/2007 13:08
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