I was brought up in a 'mi casa e su casa' way - ie when you're a houseguest, act like you live there. Help yourself to whatever you like but by the same token, help out.
But I think maybe I've got that completely wrong and that my family is weird.
I have just had two very good friends staying for consecutive weekends. By way of background, one has one DS, one has none. They both work nearly fulltime, both are married (the one with the DS's husband is a SAHD). I am a lone parent of two - one at school and work full time. So I am as busy as they are during the week if not busier. I'm not sure if any of this has any bearing but just to set the scene.
Neither of my friends lifted a finger the entire weekend. They didn't put anything in the dishwasher, they didn't make me a cup of tea, they didn't take their empty glasses to the kitchen, they didn't even make the bed.
I didn't ask them to help because I think that's a bit rude with guests - either they help out if they want or they don't. I don't want to make them feel bad about it. I am hugely fond of both of them and I will invite them to stay again because I love them dearly and we have a lot of fun. But is it unreasonable to think it would be nice for your guests to help around the house or not?
I'm not at all cross, just wondering what is the norm - basically is my attitude a bit odd or is theirs? FWIW I'm not British and they are so it might be a cultural thing for all I know. I suppose then this is a less of an AIBU and more of a AIBO (odd)
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LadyBiscuit · 02/03/2010 20:20
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