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AIBU?

To wish people would consider the 48 hour exclusion rule!

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Namechanger520 · 21/01/2017 19:12

I have namechanged for this thread.
I work as a nanny and don't want to risk outing myself!
Yesterday I had a phone call to say one of my charges had been sick in the night and just to prewarn me before I arrived, and double check if he should go to preschool!!
The child spent the whole day tired, laying around, had a temperature and no appetite and no inclination to want to do anything, however there was no more sickness just a constant streaming runny nose.
I text today to see how he is (as I was sick in the night last night and was worried his sibling might have been).
I received a reply to say he seems fine, enjoyed his swimming lesson and the birthday party he went to.
Aibu to think he shouldn't have gone swimming or soft play today?? I have worked in various forms of education and childcare over the years and I am getting fed up of parents who seem to think that the 48 hour exclusion rule is there for their inconvenience.
Maybe I am feeling bitter as I have spent the day feeling ill, so mumsnet aibu???

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Toohotforme · 21/01/2017 19:15

No you're not! YANBU!

WatchingFromTheWings · 21/01/2017 19:15

YANBU. Sickness and/or diarrhoea requires 48 hours at home for a reason. Very selfish of them to send the poor kid swimming and to a party the next day.

beargrass · 21/01/2017 19:17

YANBU. In the same bracket as when people come into the office being a hero and spread their illnesses around!

SquedgieBeckenheim · 21/01/2017 19:20

YANBU! These winter vomiting bugs would be much less widespread if people would only stay home for 48 hours.

Namechanger520 · 21/01/2017 19:22

Thank you I wondered if I was being over-sensitive! The child is only preschool age so wouldn't have even realised he was missing a party or swimming lesson!!

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Kennington · 21/01/2017 19:22

I don't know is it evidence based or nonsense? 48 hours seems log and I respect it but my kid is better long before the 48 hours are up.

dailymaillazyjournos · 21/01/2017 19:23

YANBU. That's just so flipping anti-social. My kids are better, so back we go to all our fun activities and bugger everyone else,.

Slightlyperturbedowlagain · 21/01/2017 19:24

It is very important to follow the 48hr rule, but actually a lot of people carry on shedding the virus for 5-10 days after, so it's not foolproof. 48hrs will be long enough for most people to stop shedding though (and for swimming it is totally out of order to not observe it IMO)

Ankleswingers · 21/01/2017 19:25

That's just fucking selfish and downright inconsiderate parenting. Makes my blood boil that people do this.

What utter twats you work for op.

Utter fucking selfish twats.

YANBU

Slightlyperturbedowlagain · 21/01/2017 19:27

kennington it's not about being 'better' it's to cut the risk of transmission to others. It may seem like a long time but it's based on evidence about how long people continue to shed the virus after recovering.

MrsTerryPratchett · 21/01/2017 19:28

The 48 hour rule seems very arbitrary to me. Is there any actual proof of that being a scientifically verifiable way to stop infection?

Also, children vomit for a variety of reasons. Once in the night could be coughing or it could be a bug. Very different reasons. My niece was a terrible vomiter. She just had a delicate stomach and it wasn't something she would pass on.

Rachie1986 · 21/01/2017 19:28

slightly what do you mean by shredding?

Rachie1986 · 21/01/2017 19:29

I mead shed. Sorry.

Namechanger520 · 21/01/2017 19:31

It wasn't once in the night it was a few times and it was proper sick he gave me graphic details!
Apparently he is quite tired and a little bit pale today so he might not go to preschool on Monday afternoon as he has another party tomorrow!

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Palegreenstars · 21/01/2017 19:32

I'm a new parent (well I have an 8 month old) and embarrassed to confess I didn't know this rule.

Rachie1986 · 21/01/2017 19:37

I have a question.

I thought you could only catch a bug from the particles (of vomit etc).. so if a child has stopped being sick how would you still get it?

I know the rule and keep to it. Am just interested as to why (and am emetophobe and scared of catching bugs...)

AirandMungBeans · 21/01/2017 19:41

Uanbu! DS has a child going through cancer treatment in his nursery and a parent sent a child in after being sick in the night (nursery didn't know that at the time), it nearly killed him. Extremely irresponsible!

AirandMungBeans · 21/01/2017 19:42

Yanbu! Not uanbu.

Slightlyperturbedowlagain · 21/01/2017 19:42

Sorry it means virus passing out in the poo (and sometimes from mouth, sneezing, coughing)
There are plenty of studies on it as material transferring to hands and then doors, surfaces, food being prepared are major routes of transmission. Also the norovirus can become airborne as droplets in the air following an episode of vomiting or diarrhoea. mostly in schools it's a rota virus though so slightly less easy to catch, but still pretty easy. I'll see if any of the papers are available as free publications if anyone is interested?

Spudlet · 21/01/2017 19:45

Every time I take DS to anywhere like soft play, he catches something. Last time it was hand foot and mouth. This time, slapped cheek syndrome. It's got so I hardly ever take him to places. He's always healthy when we go!

Because of eejits like that!

DixieNormas · 21/01/2017 19:45

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Rachie1986 · 21/01/2017 19:47

slightly yes please!

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TheCunkOfPhilomena · 21/01/2017 19:48

Rachie, the virus is still carried in faeces and, especially as children are not great hand washers, it passes on by people then touching surfaces after using the loo, the particles can survive for up to 2 weeks on hard surfaces (unless bleach is used) meaning it's easily transferred.

This video is annoying but informative

MycatsaPirate · 21/01/2017 19:49

I was waiting for one of these threads.

Not long ago there was someone posting whose child had just come out of hospital, compromised immune system and her step children were due to come and stay for two days. The girl had a vomiting bug and she wondered if they could reasonably ask if both children could stay away while ill. She got absolutely fucking slated by mumset because it wasn't fair on the step children.

And here we are, unanimous decision that the child in question should not be infecting random strangers.

YANBU btw. My DD threw up in school on day, took her home, kept her off for the two days. By day two she was feeling much better then all of a sudden started throwing up again. She ended up being off all week.

user1484317265 · 21/01/2017 19:51

You know there isn't any actual rule? 48 hours is a random number that some schools use, its not an actual thing. If you're off sick from work one day you don't tell your boss that you're fine now but you won't be back for another 2 days on the off chance that you might still have some germs!

You're the nanny, its not your business whether his parents decide to take their perfectly fine feeling child out of the house.

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