I've name changed for this as this will probably out me.
When I was 19 I had an affair with a married man of 30 who had 2 kids. The affair ended when his wife found out and she made him choose between me and the kids. He chose the kids and they stayed married for about 2 years until eventually divorcing as she couldn't get over the affair. About 3 years later the wife died suddenly and at the time of her death (when I was about 24) I had great feelings of remorse for what I did when I was 19.
My mum and I have always been extremely close and for some strange and unbeknown reason has never found out about the affair. Surprising considering I live in a small town and the affair was "big news".
I'm now 32, married with 3 kids of my own. For about the past couple of years I've had this nagging feeling and feelings of guilt that I hadn't confided in her. This is made worse when she makes comments about what a lovely teenager I was and how she never had any trouble from me and for that she is thankful.
My friends say put it to bed as it was 13 years ago but other people say I should have told her and it's unfair for her to be oblivious.
AIBU to tell her now or shall I just leave it?
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To tell my mum I've had an affair
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PuppyCottonLane · 02/12/2016 17:55
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