From the title I've made it sound like I'm a giant living in a too small house 😊.
What I want to say is that I live in an extremely affluent area where my dd goes to the local primary school with the majority of other kids who live in million pound homes. We live in a small maisonette that's too cramped for the three of us in my family. Since starting her school every time my dd has one of her little friends round they without a doubt will make a comment about our little flat. "Where's the second floor?" is a common one or "I've never been inside a flat before!" Or "I can't eat off this dining room table it's too small". I know that these are comments made by 6 year olds and I as an adult I should let them wash over me but then I'll inevitably get the look of badly repressed shock on parents' faces when they come to pick up their kids. Sometimes that'll be the end of anymore play dates from them because they strangely stop talking to me at the school gates.
I have written a couple of threads but name changed since for reasons of not wanting to out myself. But the advice was mainly to have the play dates and the nicer families would stick around and the mean ones who cold shouldered me would not be worth knowing anyway. The only problem is that it is all so cliquey where my dd goes to school that now we seem to be branded and become complete outsiders. Invites have dried up and my confidence is so knocked that it's too hard for me to ignore it anymore. Now I just want to move away to a place that doesn't measure a person solely from the size of their house or whether they make as much money as them or are so absorbed in material wealth that they can't see past it and to more important qualities in a person like being kind, trustful, interesting etc. please if you live in such a place could you tell me where it is and I will move there within the year!
Or am I just letting it all get to me too much?
AIBU?
AIBU to want to move home because I don't fit in
Justbecauseitsso · 21/11/2016 14:33
I wouldnt stress about the table comment, that's just a child observation. More than likely the table is not as big as hers at home that she eats her dinner off, she could have been thinking about where everyone else in her family would sit if they came along. You said it yourself it's only big enough for four
Even by the sea there will be people who have more and look down their nose, arseholes are everywhere! I used to live by the sea and just swap kitchen islands for views and it will be the same thing 
I'm in SW London, I wonder if you live in my area do the local schools begin with H and B? I grew up in the area and it used to be much more down to earth but in the past 10 years there's definitely a tribe around who are a bit money and presentation obsessed 
. (It's really not everyone though.) If it is that area, I think the feel and demographic are completely different just half a mile away, so you might not need to move far, maybe just a change of schools would do it.
Jesus Christ. You sound so nice op. This would hurt me very badly too.
I went to a posh school came from a council estate and free school meals. I was always too embarrassed to collect the token from my form tutor.
Anyway, I ended up a very grounded person. I have a highly paid professional job in a senior position. I am highly qualified- more than my boss or team. It is often commented on that I treat people with respect.
Your daughter will go far because you are a good family. It doesn't matter what size table you have and IKEA stuff is the best.
sorry I have no advice. I would perhaps move but you shouldn't have to
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