Went on a date this w/end with someone who I thought was a sweet, gentle, quiet guy (known him a little while). Had drinks to combat nerves. I was my usual chatty self and he opened up during the eve. Date reached a peak just before midnight, when he was due to catch transport home. He asked to crash at mine so as to carry on the night. I didn't think this was a great idea as was v tired and not really in the mood but couldn't really force him to go home plus was having good time.
Evening went on, I got drunker, started feeling more tired and sick, definitely ready to go home. Chatted a lot of shit and asked annoying/needy questions Probably over shared too. I feel like I looked a lot more into him than I am if that makes sense? I like(d) him but the more nervous I am, the nicer/chattier I get and when he tried to kiss me etc I just went with it so as not to make him feel rejected, even though wasn't really in the mood.
He later grandly announced that he'd like to see me again and could really see us having a relationship how magnanimous He thought I looked beautiful, he really liked me... I must have found this sweet at the time rather than ridiculous and just went with all his attempts to essentially get me into bed, despite really just wanting the comfort of my own bed, by myself.
He then tried it on massively when home, despite fact I had not given him any signals, was really drunk and clearly just wanted to sleep. I feel a bit used and also a bit disgusted with him.
Anyway, gave him the benefit of doubt and thought well he was drunk too, maybe he's embarrassed blah blah.
However all day yest, heard nothing. Today was a big day for him and me (for very different reasons) so I messaged to wish him well. He replied saying thanks, nothing else. For context he is not a player at all. If anything quite inexperienced.
Aibu to be hurt and feel a bit used?? I don't understand his motives at all or what he wants.
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Sayonaraplenty · 13/09/2016 00:00
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