My sil has one healthy, intelligent fun child. This was with a sperm donor. Before this she was unable to see people who were pregnant or had children and broke up friendships with many people including my other brother and his family. My brothers no longer have a relationship really as she refuses to see them.
12 years on I have 2 children. Child 1 Has multiple complications due to birth defect and will never live independently. Took us a long time to accept but We have and are very content with our life and her life expectancy. I am now pregnant with 3rd baby. Undergone lots of tests and am being monitored closely. SIL has once again told me I have made her very sad, destroyed my brother and has made what should be a happy occasion for my parents an awkward and difficult situation.
AIBU to think that 1) she has a healthy child and should be bloody grateful for that. 2) it is her destroying my brother as its her reactions which are so unpleasant and isolating for them and 3) to think she should keep her views to herself.! I am really cross but not surprised she said this to me and in the past I would have felt guilty. It's 12 years now!! She needs to learn to accept that life isn't straightforward and nothing is as you want it.
I try to empathise but now I just think grow up and get over it. Some people have no children and some people have problems so unfair and complicated that not being able to have a 2nd child is so
Minimal in the grand scheme of things.
I expect some (infertile) people will flame me but really, everyone has problems, to me where I am being unable to have a 2 no child is not the worst problem in the world. I am out of sympathy.
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Mouthofmisery · 11/09/2016 22:10
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