I've posted about my nan before. She is very defiant and if she can't get her own way she plays the victim and becomes threatening. The gist of my last post was that my nan has severe bone problems where she finds walking and standing up difficult. She drops things all the time and has started falling over a lot, however she refuses to see that there's anything wrong. I have a 16 week old baby and when he was born I asked that she didn't stand up or walk around while holding him. Basically she went ballistic saying she never wanted to see me again, that I was making her feel like an old woman in a nursing home etc. She then told my mother that she was contacting a solicitor to remove me from her will. Eventually I felt forced to apologise because she was making it difficult to my grandad to see the baby. She pretty much now pretends nothing happens, however she takes every opportunity she can to be defiant and piss me of. Yesterday I visited her with my mum. When we got there we had to pop out quickly and as baby was sleeping in his car seat she unthinkingly said we would leave him there as we wont be long. I couldn't take him then as my nan would start with her "you don't trust me with the baby". However, she did say she wouldn't take him out of the car seat. When outside my mum realised she had made a mistake and was really apologetic. We got back and baby was out of the car seat in the living room. I was not best pleased as her legs seemed especially bad and she was struggling to walk and bend. The car seat was on a hard tiled surface on the floor and its a fiddly car seat at the best of times. She then proceeded to hog the baby, walking around with him, taking him into other rooms away from everyone, telling me what he likes as if I don't know what my own child likes. Just being a general nuisance. Then when we were sitting down having coffee my nan was holding him and decided to pick up a chocolate from the box on the table and held it to his lips saying "do you want some?". I give her dagger eyes and she smirked at me and put it in her mouth. I'm hoping she wasn't stupid enough to actually give it to him though I suspect she was going to let him lick it. She then proceeded to fuss him so much trying to get him to smile at her that he threw up all over himself. He rarely throws up. I've had enough, I feel like she's trying to punish me for asking her not to hold him while standing up by continually walking around with him and taking him away from me. She's very aware I don't like it, how could she not be! Would it be unreasonable to limit contact to once a month and if she continues to act like this just cut her out? I really don't want to ever see her again but realise that it makes life difficult for my mum and grandad.
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