To be fucked off with this dinner lady?

(70 Posts)
Welshmaenad Thu 12-May-16 15:11:03

DC attend breakfast club which is staffed mainly by lunchtime staff. DD (9) is particularly fond of one dinner lady, let's call her A.

They have recently done a no-smoking poster campaign in school and DD was showing A her poster in breakfast club. A asked DD if anyone in her family smoked and DD told her (quite proudly) that Her dad and I used to smoke but have given up cigarettes and now vape.

A proceeded to tell DD some daily fail horror story about someone whose e-cig allegedly exploded in his pocket and told her 'mummy should be very careful with those things' and DD is now terrified mine or my boyfriend's or her dad's vaping gear is going to explode as we all use them. She's a sensitive soul prone to worry and a bit of melodrama. I've had to explain at length that e cigs are very safe if used properly and accidents happen when people charge them incorrectly or don't understand battery safety when using unregulated mech mods etc. I've managed to appease her but we had a few nights of getting out of bed upset and worried and crying because she thought one of us might get hurt.

AIBU to be really cross about this dinner lady telling my child horror stories and worrying her like this or am I overreacting??

TheWindInThePillows Thu 12-May-16 15:35:03

You don't really know what the dinner lady said, it might have just been 'ooh, I read a story about one of those exploding' and your dd's imagination did the rest. In general, I think it's better to assume that people interacting with your children are usually not trying to scare them, this dinner lady sounds nice and your dd likes her, it was just unfortunate that what she said really triggered your dd's worries.

Welshmaenad Thu 12-May-16 15:37:45

She gave some quite specific information about how it exploded in his pocket and all the skin on his leg was burned off. DD has no other access to that kind of news story and very clear that A told her about it.

SouperSal Thu 12-May-16 16:14:55

You should be more worried about popcorn lung. <you're welcome>

CaptainCrunch Thu 12-May-16 16:16:23

You're overreacting.

PPie10 Thu 12-May-16 16:30:45

Overreaction

echelon Thu 12-May-16 16:32:25

YABU

InSpaceNooneCanHearYouScream Thu 12-May-16 16:37:25

You are overreacting

exLtEveDallas Thu 12-May-16 16:37:36

Popcorn lung is a load of bollocks.

Yeah, I'd be annoyed at the dinner lady as well. It's not her place to tell children stories like that; unless she is seriously dense she should have known not to repeat a story like that to a child.

I would have a quiet word with DDs teacher, pointing out that DD has been upset and why. Hopefully she will speak to the dinner lady about thinking before she speaks.

KoalaDownUnder Thu 12-May-16 16:37:53

Look, I appreciate that your daughter is over-sensitive (I was too at that age), but...she's 9, not 4.

An adult made an insensitive comment, she's got a bit upset, you've explained things to her. She'll get over it.

I think being 'fucked off' is unnecessary.

SouperSal Thu 12-May-16 16:40:29

Popcorn lung is a load of bollocks

We'll see. wink

toldmywrath Thu 12-May-16 16:45:48

What the jeff is Popcorn lung?

georgiatraher Thu 12-May-16 16:47:06

Show her a picture of a different brand from what all of you use and say, that the kind you use is safe. see how different it is. etc. We were careful to choose the ones that don't explode.

eightbluebirds Thu 12-May-16 16:47:20

She should have smiled and nodded but complaining would be an over reaction tbh

NewLife4Me Thu 12-May-16 16:50:45

What is popcorn lung.
Well done for swopping your smoking to vaping, btw.

A huge over reaction I'm afraid.
Your dd is 9, perhaps try and raise her to not be so sensitive. How did she feel when you smoked cigarettes.
At her age mine were worried about us smoking, not other people vaping.

exLtEveDallas Thu 12-May-16 16:54:21

8 people contracted a disease known colloquially as popcorn lung after working in a popcorn factory using a particular buttery flavouring.

Researchers in America found evidence of this flavouring in 51 vape juices.

But what they neglected to point out was that that same chemical is found in cigarettes in concentrations more than 6000 times higher than in the 'worst' vape juice - and no-one else has ever been diagnosed with popcorn lung.

Like I said. Bollocks grin

PelvicFloorClenchReminder Thu 12-May-16 16:54:59

Popcorn lung

silverpenny Thu 12-May-16 16:55:07

DD seems very sensitive for a 9yr old?

PolterGoose Thu 12-May-16 16:56:57

YADNBU

Hope you can explain to dd and perhaps ask school to make sure staff don't make claims they can't substantiate, it's really not up to school staff to pass judgement on legal activities or scaremonger children. It would be like if you were pregnant and the staff member made a comment about a mum dying in childbirth, yes, it happens, but there's a time and place, and school clubs ain't that place.

Popcorn lung is a disease caused by compounds used in popcorn manufacturing which have harmed popcorn factory workers. The compounds are in much higher concentrations in tobacco cigarettes than in any vaping liquid. And no smokers have been diagnosed with popcorn lung...

leelu66 Thu 12-May-16 16:58:55

You should be more worried about popcorn lung. <you're welcome>

Too scared to google it. What is it? It sounds shudderingly awful.

SouperSal Thu 12-May-16 17:04:42

Yet.

exLtEveDallas Thu 12-May-16 17:06:10

Oh please 😂😂😂

HelenaBottomFarter Thu 12-May-16 17:08:18

I love the fact that on MN, thete is someone always knows the true facts, no matter what it is, and debunk spin. grin

impossible Thu 12-May-16 17:15:13

YABVU. I was terrified of my dinner ladies when I was that age. I think it's great the dinner lady chatted with your dd.

Your dd will come across all sorts of information in her life - maybe now is a good time for her to learn that if she is worried about something she has heard she should discuss it with you. She is 9 now - as she gets older it will get harder and harder to control what she hears so make the most of the opportunity to encourage her to talk about her worries. She will hear much worse over the coming years so get into the habit of keeping talking. (And leave the underpaid, underappreciated dinner lady to get on with her job.)

Fairenuff Thu 12-May-16 17:22:36

I think 9 is old enough to know that they can be dangerous. After, we tell much younger children not to play with matches for the same reason.

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