Joint email addresses

(67 Posts)
JackandDiane Sun 31-Jan-16 08:11:36

I've just seen a shocker. Names changed to protect the innocent
Rugby@jemimaandtom.co.uk

Not only sharedy. But with sub groups. * does wanker gesture*

What if you want to email tom not jemima ?

fastdaytears Sun 31-Jan-16 08:13:20

Well presumably there's also jemima@jemimaandtom.com so you'd email that. Also spam@jemimaandtom.com (be offended if they give you that) and latenightflirtyemails@jemimaandtom.com (awkward if not specified who that goes to)

GloGirl Sun 31-Jan-16 08:14:29

Think this is fine. It's a bit Smugville, but a lot of things are.

You're emailing whoever gave you the email address. Nowadays no one emails me private personal information, so my DH could share my account if we wanted.

If someone needed to tell me something private, they could Facebook or Text etc.

Throwingshade Sun 31-Jan-16 08:14:31

What do you mean sub groups, the 'rugby' bit? Is it not a club or hobby thing? (I know you've changed the actual word)

BikeRunSki Sun 31-Jan-16 08:14:58

Maybe Jemima and Tom are as one kindred mind and have no secrets?

Birdsgottafly Sun 31-Jan-16 08:17:30

Wouldn't you just put the Name in the 'Subject' box at the top of the message?

I know my DDs and used to know her DPs, password, before phones did as much as they do, they are 'over sharers', in RL.

My DD (30) works long hours and has signed up to Groupon etc, she regularly asks me to tidy up her Hotmail.

CasperGutman Sun 31-Jan-16 08:20:49

I have a domain name registered for my emails, so anything-at-all@caspergutman.me.uk reaches me. I didn't realise there was anything "smug" about it. I just thought it was useful, because I can use any actual email provider without telling people a new address and have specific addresses for different purposes.

SaucyJack Sun 31-Jan-16 08:20:57

What's the big deal?

Maybe Tom has nothing to hide or no reason to care if Jemima opens up an e-mail from Gav or Joe asking when the next rugby training sesh is or whose turn it is to buy the half time oranges.

Or maybe Jemima is a psycho hose beast or Tom has a history of emotional affairs.

Whatevs.

CadleCrap Sun 31-Jan-16 08:21:25

I know someone with a joint Facebook account- now that is fucking weird!

CasperGutman Sun 31-Jan-16 08:24:49

Maybe they don't have a shared email address at all. There's no reason to think that tom@jemimaandtom.com and jemima@jemimaandtom.com go to the same inbox any more than tom@gmail.com and jemima@gmail.com would!

Katenka Sun 31-Jan-16 08:25:47

So they have their own domain and both have emails for it.

Can't see the big deal. But then me and dh run a business together so my email is

Katenka@businessname.co.uk

His is

MrKatenka@businessname.co.uk

I'm actual fact we can see both.

Can't see what's smug about it.

SparklesandBangs Sun 31-Jan-16 08:33:20

We have a shared family calendar and a family email address, if all the school emails etc go there we can both see them and if they have been answered.
We have our own emails too, well I have 4 more.

It's not odd its practical.

Me624 Sun 31-Jan-16 09:02:24

My PIL have this. jackandjilljones@gmail.com (not their actual names obv). I think it's extremely weird, like they are one person. They also only have one mobile phone between them. They're not even THAT old - in their late 60s/early 70s. They are a very insular couple, never really spend any time apart or socialise separately, so maybe it makes sense to them.

See also joint Facebook accounts - I know a couple with one of these hmm

Snowball789 Sun 31-Jan-16 09:37:05

I have a joint email account with my husband which is used for correspondence with companies (i.e. bills etc). Wider family use it to keep in touch which is fine as there is nothing that we can't both know. Any deeply personal conversations with friends etc are done in person, by Facetime, text & mobile etc but we are pretty open with each other and don't have secrets. My husband also has an individual email for his business, but I still access that as I do the accounts!

It's not 'smug', it's practical because we both need to know what is going on with finances. Seems common sense rather than something to cause others offence. Really OP, get a grip/life!

MrsItsNoworNotatAll Sun 31-Jan-16 09:55:51

It might work for them to have a joint email address.

They might have separate ones.

They might not be doing it to be smug.

They might not realise they're offending some people.

They and I hope they don't give a fuck if they are!!

wonkylegs Sun 31-Jan-16 10:01:28

We have individual accounts, work accounts and a family account - 'wonkylegshouse@gmail.com', and a junk marketing account for when you need to fill in an email but have no reason to actually hear from the company again.
It makes it easier to prioritise and sort them, people given one address won't necessarily be given any of the others or know of their existence.

Nanny0gg Sun 31-Jan-16 10:01:35

it does strike me as strange.

People on here tend to get a bit irate at letters addressed to Mr & Mrs Whoever, but Jack&Jill@wherever.com is the email equivalent

I understand shared email for household stuff but I am amazed at how many people only have shared email, not their own address.

Redcrayons Sun 31-Jan-16 10:02:52

I have a 'family' one for stuff like schools, bills etc. also use it for the calendar so DCs can see it on the iPad.
Have a personal one as well.

JackandDiane Sun 31-Jan-16 10:32:09

Having your own email address, does not mean that you were trying to hide guilty secrets. It's part of your own identity and not looking like you have to do everything with her husband.

JackandDiane Sun 31-Jan-16 10:32:38

Plus what if I don't want Tom to know what I'm emailing about? It's the idea of opening someone else's letters

EmmaWoodlouse Sun 31-Jan-16 10:37:06

We have a family one which is oursurname@emailprovider.com. I also have a hotmail account which I use for setting up IDs on talkboards, and I suppose I would use that if I ever wanted to keep an e-mail correspondence secret. However, that has never happened. DH doesn't have a separate one at all. I've never yet had an e-mail that I wouldn't want him to read, and as for opening each other's by mistake, it's usually pretty obvious who they're for by who the sender is!

U2HasTheEdge Sun 31-Jan-16 10:38:45

The things people find to be annoyed about it shocking at times.

If a couple shares an email address it doesn't mean they have to do everything with each other. DH doesn't have his own separate amazon account because he sees no point when our joint bank details are on mine anyway. He often uses my email address because he rarely looks at his and knows I always look at mine. I don't know if he uses his at all anymore.

I am sure the couple have their own identity and having a joint email address doesn't take away from that.

FirstWeTakeManhattan Sun 31-Jan-16 10:51:15

It's part of your own identity and not looking like you have to do everything with her husband

We have a shared email address, and our own separate work/private ones.

Like other posters said, sometimes it's practical to have a joint one. To suggest that this is because we simply 'have to do everything together' strikes me as slightly juvenile.

I'm amazed it bothers you even a teeny, tiny bit. 'A shocker?' Really?

PurpleDaisies Sun 31-Jan-16 10:58:46

It works for them-I don't understand why it's a big deal. We have our own email addresses but check each other's regularly. It would be easier to have a shared one. We also open each other's letters.

I don't get why it would be smug.

PaulAnkaTheDog Sun 31-Jan-16 11:02:11

I'm more offended by the idea that you think an email address is part of your own identity tbh.

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