I have a friend who has been acting increasingly needy and irrational over the last few years (basically from the time that I had a baby and so wasn't spending as much time with her as before).
I tried to involve her (made her godmother, invited her over to spend time with my child etc). But she was very unreliable. For example, she would say that she was coming round but then didn't turn up and she was generally late when I went to see her. She also always invited other people that I didn't know when we went out for dinner, and invariably double-booked her evening so that she had to leave after a couple of hours to go to a party elsewhere.
I have quite a busy life - I run my own quite stressful business and I have a toddler. She would phone me during work hours, or when she knew I was putting my child to bed, and if I didn't pick up or asked if I could call her back, she got the hump.
Eventually I stopped returning her calls and emails. At this point, she started telling mutual acquaintances that I was depressed and wasn't coping with the death of my father.
Then last week, she sent me a blank email with the following link: www.psmag.com/books-and-culture/the-art-of-loving-and-losing-female-friends
I don't know how to response. Part of me actually wants to have it out with her. The other part feels very sad and I can't bear the idea that she's this upset. I wonder if she's not very well. But, I'm also sick of her making me feel guilty when I did nothing wrong.
AIBU to think that this is a bit odd? I want to just ignore the email and hope that she gets the message finally? DH says that I have to explain to her nicely why I am upset with her. I've tried, but I just bear the idea of even more upset.
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thebigpotato · 05/09/2015 12:37
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