To treat my family out of a lottery win.

[Songlark]

I haven't won yet, probably never will but DH and I were discussing who we would treat if we won a few million. He wants to treat all his large family(6 siblings) fair enough even though 2 of them have never really been part of our lives (they'd snub you if they saw you in the street. So I said "and of course I'd treat my brother" (who's loaded but wouldn't snub you in the street, but disinterested in our family) DH thinks my DB shouldn't be treated because he's rich. But I don't see how you can pick and choose. I say just treat the lot of them and then it's fair. Which got me thinking. Who would you all treat or not treat if you won the lottery?

my family would get more because they're relatively poorer than OH's family. In fact, I don't think we'd give OH's family anything. They're rich, they've watched enjoyed seeing us struggle and never offered to help out.you reap what you sow.

My mum, his mum and possibly his 2 kids but they are money grabbing witches so we might not even tell them we'd won

No other close family but I might give to a friend if having a hard time of it financially.

I'd never disclose how much we'd won though

Ooh we have this convo too.

Obviously depends on how much but it would have to be a shed load for us to give any away from our 4 kids.

However if millions and millions then some to all siblings but taking into account dh has 4 siblings 2 of who are very well off and 2 poor as church nice. They are all lovely though.

Op I wouldn't be treating people who snubbed me in the street so fuck that!

They would have to swear they wouldn't tell anyone else though as we certainly wouldn't be telling friends. It would change relationships too much.

Research shows that lottery winners who go public regret it.

I know Happybody, I think I would have to press this home to DH about his ignorant brothers. They don't deserve a penny tbh.

Why would you give money to someone who snubs you in the street? I find that really odd.

I would help people out according to need and how close we are to them.

I would use the money to move to Cambodia and open a house for poor mothers and children so they had somewhere to eat and sleep. That's what I've always wanted to do.

If it was a crazy amount of money I wouldn't tell anyone because I know in my family it would cause arguments who got what and people would always want more, it would lead to resentment and someone would always have their hand out, I would also worry who my true friends were and it would drive me insane in the end

My MIL is still cross that I'd buy houses for family but they would remain mine and family would have a life tenancy for a nominal annual rent. I'd also pay off all mortgages so they'd also own a house outright.

Kids schooling / uni would be paid for too.

Apparently this is unfair and I should just give them 1/3rd of ant win to spend as they see fit.

Obviously when I win £80 million on euromillions I'm going to take then out for dinner then tell them to sod off!!

I doubt we would give my oh's family anything, it's only really his mum we see and she would not take anything and his brother and sister are arseholes and not a chance in hell would they get anything.

My family I would help out my mum, nan, aunt. Pay off my brother's uni fees, he is 16. Maybe some money in trust for my 6 young cousins who are all under the age of 12. Some for my sister's girl, my niece.

Oh would happily choosekeep it all to ourselves!
Bud I'd happily give some to his parents, his grandparents, his two siblings and my own mother. That covers all our immediate family.

I have no family other than my mum who would get a decent whack of it, enough for her to retire and not worry. DP is NC with his family. We have wonderful friends who would all get a chunk, some more than others according to need.

Itmustbebedtime if it boiled down to it I would probably insist that the ignorant brothers(but only to me) don't get a penny. But then he might insist my brother doesn't get any. Our kids would obviously be our first concern (and the biggest benefactors).

Often when you gift lottery money it is not considered enough. I have now decided to only gift my dc.

I like the idea of buying a few homes and renting to the vulnerable for a very low rent.

I would also help small charities along with lone parents with disabilities/with disabled children.

Pay for medical needs of my parents and PILs. Pay for them to have lovely holidays (both sets retired and own own homes - good pension incomes). BiL and SiL's families to get a significant slice (think - mortgages paid off and 2-5 hundred thousand or so to open up opportunities for them). My sister - nothing, as she refuses to acknowledge my existence. Don't know what I'd do re her 2 kids. Put some money aside perhaps and wait and see if, when grown up, they join their mother's vendetta? Other nieces and nephews to get £100k in trust, administered by their parents.

Plenty would go to charity. I wouldn't feel right having all that money and not doing as much good with it as I could.

£500k to each of my kids (in trust). Pay off our mortgage. /buy new cars. Big holiday.

Fantasy land! We do a similar thing in our family - we talk at great length about the super powers that we would like to have (eg invisibility, flying, the ability to melt car tyres by looking at them) and then fantasise about how we would use those powers, including how we would take revenge on our evil enemies who have it coming.
I think it does rather divert your attention from dealing with real life from a non super-hero perspective.
Fantasising about becoming very rich is the same, to the extent that I refuse to buy any lottery tickets.
If you actually won the money you would probably find yourselves a lot less generous than you now imagine anyway. Rich people often feel that they are not as rich as they need (and deserve) to be.

We have a plan.

We are not telling anyone we have won and have stories set up for moving house etc.
We would make sure our two adult children are OK but it wouldn't be in the way of a lump sum.
DD we would buy a wedding dress shop with a flat attached so she has a house and a business (because she would definately just fritter it all away otherwise)

DS we would pay his mortgage off then he could decide whether to work part time or on a consultancy basis.

DH wants to live near the coast and I want to set up a boxer dog rescue.
The new house would have lots of acreage and two cottages for the kids.

We would, however, look at ways to treat my nieces and nephews and the two sisters I'm in contact with (my other sister and brother can forget it) and DH says his family are getting nothing.

Its not as easy as you first think.

I came into a substantial amount of money this year, less than a million though..! Me and DP haven't told anyone, my DCs think their new guitars/amps/clothes are from work bonuses as does our new ridiculously expensive car. My DCs are all teens and the oldest (17) doesn't have a great work ethic, the last thing I want is him thinking he doesn't have to bother trying for anything now.

We will buy a house outright shortly and also a couple of flats we can rent - probably to the DCs, again not telling them. The rent after that will be our pension and when we're gone they'll get the lot.

We've upgraded a few items of furniture and electrical goods and have given the 'old' ones to DPs good friend.

It is the most amazing feeling to have zero debt, not worry about food shopping and going out for a meal just because we want to.

I think that the chances of any of us winning the lottery are so slim that it does no harm to dream. I think I would rather give the money to charity than gift it to relatives who snub me.

I would buy a flat for my brother to live in as a life time tenancy.

I'd give at least half to charity

hellkitty intrigued that you can buy new flash car, pay off debts, a house and two flats plus expensive presents for less than a million!!

Pay off debts, buy a house, put money aside for kids future uni fees etc, give a chunk to my parents and brother, give a chunk to charity. Probably give some to two of my cousins on mum's side and their mum, but the other 9 and their parents could feck off, give some to my cousins on dads side. Buy enough alcohol to convince DH that a fourth child would be a great idea (this is a non starter but I sure could have fun trying). Learn to drive, do another masters and then a PhD , get all the tattoos I want as looking professional would never have to concern me again...

If I won a million I'd gift £100k to my parents and £100k to my brother and look at what was left after I'd done the debts, house, future for kids stuff.

Friday, we live oop North! Fabulous

buy a bigger house. employ people to look after big house. pay school fees for all four children (!). Give some to my family and hope that they left me alone after that Give some to dhs family as they've been more than supportive to us over the years. Put some in trust for dcs. Make sure we have enough invested to have an easy time of it in old age and enough for private healthcare for years if needed. Give a large chunk to charity.

lol hellkitty

It's tricky, DH has a lot more siblings than I do, so to be fair I'd have to give mine more. BUT they live in a very poor country and are also relatively much poorer than my family. I think the fairest thing to do would be to give them each enough to pay bills for a fixed period. It all depends on how much we won, but for DHs family it would be quite cheap to buy a load of land and build them nice houses for the price it would cost to put my two younger siblings through university and give them a small house deposit!