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To unlike the Unmumsy Mum (FB related)

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wibblypig1 · 04/05/2015 19:14

Are you aware of her work? She blogs on Facebook and Twitter about how crappy parenthood can be. Generally her posts are brutally honest and funny, but it's the sycophants that blow sunshine up her arse (but in an OTT stalkerish kind of way) and mostly the moms who wax lyrical (littered with SPAG errors) about how they're constantly covered in puke and shit from their kids, and other repulsiveness that make their lives as mums a constant round of disgusting situations.

I think for a new mother reading it, their stupid dramatic ramblings make it all sound more oppressive, terrifying and repugnant than it actually is. I am a mother of 2, and yes, sometimes IT CAN BE GROSS, but by no means is it gross every day. It's a shame, as the Unmumsy Mum's posts are helpful on the off days, so you don't feel like you're doing a shit job and not the only one that hates going to the park, but the divs that are only too keen to share their kids medical history in such a vulgar way have spoilt it for me... They're the same sort that cram Facebook with details of their poor kids ailments, as if we all really want to know (not to mention the lack of privacy for the poor kids) and how awful it is for the parents (but obvs the kids don't mind being poorly, and being slagged off by their parents to the whole world for creating extra washing and keeping them awake for a night or two).
RANT OVER.... Oh, I feel better getting that off my chest....

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Koalafications · 04/05/2015 19:25

A friend has recommended this blog quite a few times. It doesn't sound like it would appeal to me though, so I haven't read it.

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Bluestocking · 04/05/2015 19:30

I think she's hit on a rich vein which for some reason strikes a chord and has been picked up by a canny publisher - she's got a book deal and doubtless a film will follow hot on the heels of the book.
It's not really my sort of thing - her early posts go on a bit too much about how bottle feeding mothers are oppressed by lactators who won't let them join their gang - but fair play to her for finding a formula (see what I did there?) and making it pay.

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ImNameyChangey · 04/05/2015 19:33

Imagine how her DC will feel when they grow up and read how miserable she was.

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wibblypig1 · 04/05/2015 19:34

She's writing a book at the moment so many of her posts are repeated. They are good to read, just for reassurance purposes, but her followers are enough to make yourself thoroughly depressed...and if one more poster says "they don't get any better when they're older" I think I would throw myself under a train. Sometimes I'd like to believe that it does get easier as they get older, because you do get your life back to a degree and they do get easier... I think their graphic descriptions would potentially horrify a new mom, just starting out, just getting by each day.

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poorbuthappy · 04/05/2015 19:35

I think I like about 1 in every 10 posts

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wibblypig1 · 04/05/2015 19:36

Yes Namechangey, I've wondered that too. It will be hurtful to think your mom thought those things and told the world about it, and include your photos and General location. That's probably why no one has done it before... why she isn't anonymous I'll never know...

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Skeppers · 04/05/2015 19:36

Meh. First time mum to be here; tbh her posts don't put me off, I just don't think they're very funny (especially when people constantly send me links to them saying how HILARIOUS they are), unless you have a sense of humour lobotomy when you become a parent! Lazy observational humour.

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paintedfences · 04/05/2015 19:42

I've never heard of her, but I've just had a look and don't really see the problem. She reminds me a bit of my cousin, who's very wry and has always had that sarky sort of humour, and still does now she has two children. I'd find her blog is a million times less irritating than the cupcake-y bunting-y goes style blogs - but strokes for folks, YANBU to be irritated if that's how you feel.

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Littlecaf · 04/05/2015 19:44

I like her posts. Ignore the idiots who can't spell or use the correct grammar. TBH some if you sound a bit jealous that you didn't think of it first! Wink

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CurlyhairedAssassin · 04/05/2015 19:45

The thing is that motherhood is such a constantly changing thing. The period she talks about is so so short in the grand scheme of things. I've just been away with my kids for the weekend and they've been a joy to spend time with. They are still junior school age and I don't now recognise anything that she talks about from my kids' lives, the age they are now.

She's a one trick pony. Yes, you might have a wry smile at things she mentions right when you're in the thick of it. But when you're past that stage (and it does go fast) it all gets so tiresome when someone posts a "like" to one of the articles.

Relevant for maybe the newborn to age 6 max. And that goes FAST.

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TondelayoSchwarzkopf · 04/05/2015 19:47

I've seen people like her posts but the name puts me off. Its so self congratulatory.

News flash: no-one thinks they are mumsy. And unless you're Grace Jones or Kate Moss, you probably are.

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LimeFizz · 04/05/2015 19:50

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CurlyhairedAssassin · 04/05/2015 19:51

"Its so self congratulatory."

Yep. But I do have a FB friend who has actually described herself as a "cool, rock 'n' roll parent" in the past so these people are all over the place.

Sometimes I just want to deregister from FB. Makes you turn your nose up at people!

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Stealthpolarbear · 04/05/2015 19:53

resumably its to counter the "being a mum is all I ever wanted and hardest yet most utterly rewarding job ever" shite which I also find offensives
never seen this blog but I can see how both extremes are annoying

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Stealthpolarbear · 04/05/2015 19:54

I'm a rock n roll parent
rocking in the corner
rolling out of the cake shop

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MrsGentlyBenevolent · 04/05/2015 19:54

Never come across this, I usually read STFU Parents, but obviously that's more social commentary than first hand experience from the writer. Is it just on fb?

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BuzzardBird · 04/05/2015 19:55

Sounds like a twat.

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fiftyshadesofgrot · 04/05/2015 19:57

I just had a peak at her FB page. So negative and pathetic - poor kids.

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CurlyhairedAssassin · 04/05/2015 19:58

Stealth: Grin

As for "sounds like a twat". My DH could have written that comment. He would actually be right for once.

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Thurlow · 04/05/2015 19:59

I'd not heard of her and just had a look and found the post where she writes "to" her boys about why she is blogging. It's quite nice. It's certainly honest. I can see how when it's just a long list every other day of things that are shite about parenting it can feel a bit OTT, but having just dipped in it made me chuckle. And I recognised most of it.

I do agree with her about there not always being a lot of 'honest' parenting blogs out there. There probably are now, but I can imagine a year or two back there weren't many. MN has always been incredibly honest but most of the parenting blogs I saw were much more baking, creative play and 6 hours kicking the sodding leaves at the park, which is not me at all.

But then I tend to think most parents are split into one of two camps. Either parenting young children is lovely, interesting fun interspersed with moments of frustration or panic - or its a stressful yet oddly boring slog interspersed with moments of utter joy and hilarity.

After having dealt with several threenager tantrums today followed by them laughing so hard at cats falling off shelves on You've Been Framed that they actually peed a little on my jeans, Unmumsy is talking my language at the minute Grin

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PassMeTheFrazzlesPlease · 04/05/2015 20:03

I don't think she is actually miserable, or pretending to be!

It is the type of humour that I find funny, there are lots of comedy moments even during the difficult days when you have young children.

Relating to, and being able to laugh about those moments, certainly doesn't mean "slagging off" one's children Hmm

There was a post about the joy of soft-play that was entertaining.

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Littlecaf · 04/05/2015 20:04

Really don't get how anyone can have an opinion if they haven't read it. Weird.

On the subject of congratulatory FB friends, one of mine recently started posting pictures of art proclaiming it 'wasn't all about newborn DC'. Too cool for bloody skool my arse. Made me hurl.

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Coastingit · 04/05/2015 20:08

I just don't think she's especially funny tbh - I prefer Hurrah for Gin or Sanctimommy.

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TwiceAsNiceAsIceAndaSlice · 04/05/2015 20:11

Just had a look. It looks like an unfunny version of Bad Parenting Moments - also on fb. But funnier.

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PassMeTheFrazzlesPlease · 04/05/2015 20:12

coastingit - I've just realised that I may have mixed her up with Hurrah for Gin, I thought they were the same person Hurrah for Gin is funny. The softplay post was definitely the unmumsy mum though.

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