teen fucking dramas!!

(830 Posts)
Mintyy Wed 25-Mar-15 20:41:42

I mean really and truly, aibu?

If you've never trod on eggshells before, you certainly will when you become owner of a teen.

That is all.

MinceSpy Wed 25-Mar-15 20:51:39

Ah I feel you pain. The 'owner' of two teens.

Harleyjosh Wed 25-Mar-15 20:52:56

Don't know if you are or not really.
I have a teen but no eggshells in this house thus far - she is only 13 so may be yet to come...

StillStayingClassySanDiego Wed 25-Mar-15 20:54:46

I have one who takes the word of his peers over family advice.

Me: your eye looks sore, should you go to the Dr.
Him: No, it's fine.
Me : okay if you're sure.
Him: I'm sure.

Two days later
Him: I'm going to the Drs after college, my friends say my eye looks sore, I'll get it seen to.

Mintyy Wed 25-Mar-15 20:55:03

I asked my teen to stand up and get glasses of water at dinner tonight.

The fall-out from that request is still ongoing grin.

There have been tears.

Bunbaker Wed 25-Mar-15 20:57:56

Just wait until boys come into the equation and the resulting jealousy, bitchiness and falling out from "friends".

I don't want to wish time away, but I am really not enjoying DD's teenage-hood.

Lancelottie Wed 25-Mar-15 21:01:40

Mine are boys and still have the dramas.

StillStayingClassySanDiego Wed 25-Mar-15 21:03:10

I've got 3 ds's, I love them dearly.

ds1-19 is a doddle if you consider a university lush with a decent yet underused brain easy going and worry free.

Ds3-15 is still placid and lovely yet beginning to withdraw from us and prefer his mates company to ours, such is life smile

WeirdCatLady Wed 25-Mar-15 21:08:46

Me: ooh Ive found a film I think you'd enjoy watching...it's about (plot description)
Teen: sounds cool, shall we watch it?
Me: yeah, okay, plus it's based on a book you'll be reading in your gcse English course
Teen: sounds boring

angry

And don't get me started on the meltdown when I suggested she ask the staff at McDonald's for a tea stirrer for her drink.

wine for all

swazza Wed 25-Mar-15 21:08:52

Can I join the club. I find myself wistfully looking back on "the good old days" of when my kids were young,smiley and chatty and not surgically attached to electronic devices. A time when they could talk not grunt. A time when they were happy to see me.

I was at the local shop today (15 minutes walk from home). It just happened to be the same time of day the school bus drops off (outside of shop). I was in the car and it went dull and looked like rain. I saw DD and waved as I was getting into the car and she looked horrified. She walked straight past me (alone - most the kids walk the other way to their houses). I wound down the window and said quietly (as I am aware my existance alone is sheer embarrassment let alone the fact I may speak)! "I'll gove you a lift, it looks like rain".

So in she got arms folded with an "OMG you are just so embarrassing"! Cue lots of messaging/texting obviously telling all her mates just how embarrassing I am!

Sigh!

SpecificOcean Wed 25-Mar-15 21:31:03

My 13 1/2 DD over has gone through the last year and a half not wanting to be anywhere near me, preferring wafting with friends over anything we did and at times hating me.
Atm she has come back to me - her friendships are fine but she suddenly wants to go shopping with me, cafes, watch films, do stuff with us at weekends. And I only have to ask her to do things 8 times smile
I'm finding the teenage years so weird and they've only just begun (DS is 15 1/2 and so far 12-13 was his worst age too).

Mintyy Wed 25-Mar-15 21:31:21

Omg sigh Swazza!

Your dd was too embarrassed to get a lift home from you even though there were no witnesses?

Oh dear, that's bad sad wink.

queeneileen Wed 25-Mar-15 21:37:13

My teen has so far this week:

* Flooded the bathroom taking a shower. I should be grateful he showered but there was water everywhere which leaked into the kitchen and what looked like a lifetime supply of pubic hair over everything. It's like he's moulting. I daren't ask.

* Told me for a second time that you don't hoover the kitchen floor, you brush it. Even though hoovers are special brushes with motors that hide the dirt for you. Wouldn't mind, he's never brushed the kitchen floor in his life.

* Started going to his mates after school. I expect to see a reduction in my electricity bill for the hours of PS3/laptop not played.

On the up side, he's not argued with my mum once in a fortnight. Bonus.

silverglitterpisser Wed 25-Mar-15 22:10:17

Giggling at these, so painfully familiar.wine and cake for us all!

Mrsjayy Wed 25-Mar-15 22:15:30

Mine came home from school moaning some girls were not pulling their weight on a thing she had done X y z and they did nothing blah blah I kept thinking just shush ! she leaves school(bar exams) end of April cant frigging wait

Bakeoffcake Wed 25-Mar-15 22:19:05

My Dds are now in their early twenties so we've come thought the other sidegrin

My top tips....

Pick your battles, keep your sense of humour, let them know you love them as much as possible and remember they are just toddlers in a large, growing body.

Mrsjayy Wed 25-Mar-15 22:20:09

Me to dd2 not long ago are you going to jump in the shower as you take ages

dd2 well sigh it is the only me time i get

aye ok then hmm

Bakeoffcake Wed 25-Mar-15 22:20:38

Sorry I mean they behave just like toddlers.

Mintyy Wed 25-Mar-15 22:24:32

Behaving like toddlers ... that's exactly it!

Except you forget and because they are 6 inches taller than you (in my dd's case) and wearing mascara and having a vaguely independent life you somehow expect them to behave in a slightly adult way. How bleeding unreasonable!

PowderMum Wed 25-Mar-15 22:27:05

Yadnbu - I have the pleasure of living with 2 teenagers, I never know what will greet me each evening when I walk through the door each evening.

DD2 is currently in full exam stress, she can't possibly help around the house or clear away her dinner plate, she needs to hide in her room and you need to be very careful when you open the door as you may get your head bitten off.

Of course when she wants something she can still be nice and pleasant

I think there should be a club for parents of teenagers and a badge for when we graduate

Coyoacan Wed 25-Mar-15 22:29:07

Oh yes, that was when I was glad that I only had one. I had to walk five paces behind her so as not to embarrass her.

Mrsjayy Wed 25-Mar-15 22:31:59

I've 1 adult and 1 17yr old i can see the finish line i want a medal once I'm done

Mintyy Wed 25-Mar-15 22:32:15

grin at badge upon graduation.

It's the second-guessing I feel a bit phased by. And then the awful scathing you have to endure because you haven't second-guessed correctly.

I suppose it's all to do with hormones <hmph>

LikeABadSethRogenMovie Wed 25-Mar-15 22:36:20

Ahhh, but the joy of the ride of teenagers is when they start to come out the other side. One day, after countless sleepless nights and far too many extra grey hairs, they'll nudge your arm and say, "I love you, Mum" totally out of nowhere. And you'll fall back in love in the exact same way you did when they were born.

Plus, if you're really lucky, their friends will say you're a "Bae" and you'll be far too pleased with that although that could just be me blush

hooker29 Wed 25-Mar-15 22:37:38

DS is nearly 17-he's cool, calm and collected.Absolutely no dramas whatsoever....
....then there's DD-nearly 12-OHMYGOD!!!Everything is a bloody drama!! She has more tantrums now than she did when she was little!I should have grey hair by now!! I just keep telling myself it will get better................

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