To wear a pillar box red top to a funeral.

[AnAwfullyGoodOxymoron]

Picture attached. Will be wearing thick black tights and back pump type shoes. A small black headband with a black ribbon. Picture doesn't show true colour of top. It's pillar box red.

[WeirdCatLady]

Depends on the type of funeral. If it's a celebration type then that would be fine. If it's a more traditional one then it's far too bright.
If you're not sure then always err on the side of caution and chose something a lot darker.

[granny24]

It is fairly common to wear something red to the funeral of a socialist. Otherwise no unless a specific request has been made by the family for people to wear bright colours.

[limitedperiodonly]

It wouldn't upset me but it might upset other people. I was going to wear a rust-coloured coat to my father's funeral because it was my smartest coat.

My mum went mad that it was disrespectful, which really shocked me because she wasn't like that. It was grief.

I didn't have anything black so I ended up in a navy parka which wasn't very smart but she thought was the right colour.

[AnAwfullyGoodOxymoron]

It's my grandfather's funeral. He lost his short fight with leukaemia on Sunday. He was 72. No idea what type of funeral it will be, I live in a different country and I'm not party to the funeral arrangements. He wasn't religious.

[limitedperiodonly]

Good point granny. People wore red to Tony Benn's funeral, didn't they?

[thegreenheartofmanyroundabouts]

It depends.

If you are the chief mourner then wear what makes you feel comfortable and the top looks lovely.

If you are not the chief mourner then it is worth finding out what the form is. I go to a lot of funerals as part of my job and sometimes there is a colour theme. I did a funeral a few weeks ago where everyone wore something purple as it was the deceased favourite colour and another where the daughter asked everyone to wear bright colours as her mum loved them.

So if possible check before turning up and everyone else is in deepest black or conversely all sporting shades of yellow.

And condolences on your loss.

[Puzzledandpissedoff]

If you don't know what sort of funeral it's to be I'd definitely play safe with something darker ... much easier than feeling awful once you're there

[AMumInScotland]

I wouldn't - better to default to black unless there are specific instructions otherwise.

[Sunna]

My entire family would faint if someone turned up wearing red.

Dark colours are the safe way to go.

[itwillbecold]

Wear what you feel comfortable in. I have learned in life that perceived rules are just that, not rules at all, just what the majority do. The world won't suddenly come to an end. Hope you are ok

[Lj8893]

It really depends on the deceased and the type of family.

my nan always said she would be appalled if anyone wore black to her funeral and when she became ill she really drummed it into us all. I wore a red floral dress with a pillarbox red coat.
other funerals i have attended though i have worn black/navy.

[AnAwfullyGoodOxymoron]

Bugger. There was a black version of the top in the store but the red was half price. I didn't think about it being taboo until I got home and hung it up.

[frangipan]

I was told a funeral I was attending was 'wear what you want' it's a celebration. My uncle liked sunflowers so I wore a grey dress with a yellow cardigan. Everyone else turned up in black, I stuck out like a prize muppet and got a few frowns.

[vestandknickers]

I wouldn't. It could offend some people.

Nice top though!

[frangipan]

that said, I like the outfit and I would wear it....because I am a rebel and my family hate me anyway.

[MaidOfStars]

I am going to be a lone voice and say that I think it's fine. Black skirt and tights, smart jacket. I don't see a problem with it.

[Floggingmolly]

No. Red is a bit of a statement... It would scream attention seeking to me.

[ShakeYourTailFeathers]

yes, ask whoever is organizing it - your bright top would have fitted right in at my Dad's funeral...

Dad liked a laugh - all his fly fishing mates turned up in their fishing gear

[DidoTheDodo]

Unless told to the contrary I would always stick with black for a funeral. No chance of being seen as disrespectful.

[littlepeas]

I put red shoes on for my grandfather's funeral and my gran hit the roof. I had to wear black shoes of my mum's, which were 2 sizes too small. The rest of my outfit had been black, I just didn't have any black shoes at the time (and was a poor student). From that experience I would say err on the side of caution.

[MaryWestmacott]

I think you need to wear somber colours unless you've been told otherwise by the chief morner, sorry.

Can you just stick a request on FB if a friend can lend you a black, navy or dark grey top in your size for the day. Most people would happily lend you something for a funeral rather than go out and buy something.

[MackerelOfFact]

No, it's a nice top and everything but it's more important to be respectful than stylish at a wedding IMO.

If it was a very dark colour then you could possibly get away with it, but really, black tops aren't hard or expensive to come by.

Sorry about your grandfather. x

[poolomoomon]

I stressed myself silly before my first ever funeral last year worried I was doing something wrong by wearing a black dress with white polka dots. I thought maybe the polka dot print was too cheery or it should really be all black and I'd stick out like a sore thumb.

My Mum was the 'chief mourner', she had a red shirt on. Someone else had a red dress on. One young woman had a tight fitting white dress with massive red stillettos on and my mum's cousin wore jeans and trainers! . I didn't feel so bad after seeing them.

Definitely depends on what sort of a person the deceased was and what the closest relations are like etc. I'd play it safe and get a black shirt to err on the side of caution. Sorry for your loss

[granny24]

Limited period only. We sure did. I shall be wearing red at an old friend's funeral next week.