A man just held a door open for me

(63 Posts)
mrswarbouys Wed 13-Nov-13 17:14:58

to a department store and I thanked him. A woman behind me gave me a dirty look, tut-tutted, exhaled really loudly and deliberately shut the inner door on my nose - practically. I'm upset. Sorry if this is tired discussion but what did I do that was so wrong?

YouTheCat Wed 13-Nov-13 17:16:59

The woman is a twat.

I always hold doors open. It really shouldn't be a matter of gender that guides whether you have manners or not.

MySiamese Wed 13-Nov-13 17:17:01

Do you mean literally?

I don't think you did anything wrong.

tethersend Wed 13-Nov-13 17:17:23

How did she do that from behind?

Did he not hold the door for her too?

From your account, I can't see that you did anything wrong.

NynaevesSister Wed 13-Nov-13 17:18:16

If she was behind you how did she shut a door on you?

It being a man is irrelevant. It is only good manners to hold the door for someone behind you or about to go through ahead of you regardless of whether you are a man or a woman.

Rosa Wed 13-Nov-13 17:18:35

100% nothing..... The other woman was rude silly cow . The gentleman was being charming ...
I held a door open for an elderly gentleman the other day .. It works both ways ..

usualsuspect Wed 13-Nov-13 17:19:14

How did she do that then?

KellyHopter Wed 13-Nov-13 17:19:45

Righto!

KellyHopter Wed 13-Nov-13 17:20:37

It's PC gone mad!!!!

ParsleyTheLioness Wed 13-Nov-13 17:21:29

There are two doors in this story, an inner and outer door.

NewtRipley Wed 13-Nov-13 17:21:31

I don't believe it.

ShatnersBassoon Wed 13-Nov-13 17:21:38

Was it a revolving door? I can't work out what happened.

Don't worry about it - she sounds like she might be a few baked beans short of a tin confused

OrlandoWoolf Wed 13-Nov-13 17:26:18

Door opening. If door opens towards you, it's nice to open it for anyone. If someone is behind you, try to keep it open. For anyone.

mrswarbouys Wed 13-Nov-13 17:43:26

Ok. I've just made it up NewtRipley. For those who are interested I was going into Peter Jones where's an outer, street door and an interior door about 4 metres inside from the outer door (on the ground floor anyway.) The man held door open for me, and the crime was committed. I held the door open for the woman behind me, she pushed past me, and showed her displeasure at my behavior. I'm really upset , I feel like I've offended..

usualsuspect Wed 13-Nov-13 17:45:05

Why are you upset?

I think you should let it go.

usualsuspect Wed 13-Nov-13 17:46:21

You must have trouble getting through life if you are upset by door opening incidents.

Tee2072 Wed 13-Nov-13 17:48:36

That upset you? Really?

Are you 5?

YouTheCat Wed 13-Nov-13 17:48:57

Don't be upset for offending a twat.

I bet she's not upset.

WorraLiberty Wed 13-Nov-13 17:51:38

Sorry if this is tired discussion but what did I do that was so wrong?

Why would it be a 'tired' discussion? confused

How many people do you know who have had a door shut on their nose by a tutting, loudly exhaling person with a dirty look on their face?

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digerd Wed 13-Nov-13 17:54:55

I have always held doors open if somebody is behind me. Sometimes they do it themselves. I never let go of an open door without looking to see if anyone is behind me. I also love it when a man holds a door open for me - some doors are too heavy for my comfort.
That woman I don't understand at all. Surely an automatic reaction is to thank that person, man or woman.

tethersend Wed 13-Nov-13 17:55:00

Was this in Cambridge?

Because that might explain it.

Tee2072 Wed 13-Nov-13 17:56:17

You and me both, Worra

Mylovelyboy Wed 13-Nov-13 17:58:48

Its a shame more nice folk dont open the doors for people.

VerySmallSqueak Wed 13-Nov-13 17:59:49

I would have asked her what her problem was.
And thanked the man.

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