To be angry that ex spent half my maintenance

(36 Posts)
WearingAnUmbrellaHat Wed 30-Oct-13 20:18:30

Ex has paid no maintenance in a year. He recently offered to pay £100 every time he is paid after a job as he is self employed. He owes me £200 and today was supposed to give the first £100. He handed over £52 plus a receipt for £48 of clothing after he claimed that Ds clothes were too small and dirty.

I am furious as the money is to be spent how I choose and is another example of his controlling behaviour. DS did not need new clothes btw.

what do you think? AIBU to be furious?

FortyDoorsToNowhere Wed 30-Oct-13 21:54:23

twatty, CSA is worked out by earnings.

if he isn't 'earning' then it will be a zero calculation.

deepfriedsage Wed 30-Oct-13 21:55:42

What did you say to your neighbour?

YoureBeingAnAnyFuckerFan Wed 30-Oct-13 21:58:35

I told her my ex tried that one aswell and how i had put him straight on how toys dont make up for lack of food or heat. She mumbled something about ex getting plenty from him in the past then decided she could hear her child calling her. I could hear nothing.

deepfriedsage Wed 30-Oct-13 22:20:44

At least you will not be subjected to that again from her,shame on her supporting a child not getting the legal minimum.

YoureBeingAnAnyFuckerFan Wed 30-Oct-13 22:22:47

She is one of those people who seems to always be in a battle with someone. Her mum her SIL her ex, her dps ex. I think it's her default position to be 'at war' with people even though she complains that her own ex doesnt give her enough CM hmm

deepfriedsage Wed 30-Oct-13 22:35:26

Lucky you living near her.

WearingAnUmbrellaHat Thu 31-Oct-13 06:48:54

I have got a feeling that somehow he is going to be using giving me money to his own advantage. He had insisted that I sign a receipt but when my mum asked for the receipt for me to sign (I was in the next room as we don't speak face to face) he said "I haven't got it, I'll sign it off as something else" hmm

At this point I was so mad I just wanted him to go so it didn't really register but is there a way he could make paying me somehow to his advantage when doing his tax return? I am also suspicious now that he will write a receipt that says more than he gave me and sign it "on my behalf".

WearingAnUmbrellaHat Thu 31-Oct-13 06:50:39

Had a thought this morning that I would post the clothes back to him, no postage of course splattered in nail varnish grin

Lweji Thu 31-Oct-13 06:52:22

CSA or court, wherever you are.

Don't sign receipts as something else. Insist on a bank transfer.

Does he have the child any nights?

WearingAnUmbrellaHat Thu 31-Oct-13 07:04:04

Over the year, since taking me to mediation and agreeing to a monthly visit (we live 150 miles away) He has seen him 4 times. Not down to me I should add. Sometimes he doesn't even call for a month when he is supposed to call weekly. also, we share the pick up/drop off when DS goes to see him. Before we moved, he hadn't seen or contacted DS in a year.

So in answer to your question, he has him so rarely, it's negligible. It will have to be court for me as he is S/E.

WearingAnUmbrellaHat Thu 31-Oct-13 07:05:00

Over the *last year that should be.

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