to think that pub garden after 8.30 should be adults only?

(87 Posts)
lessonsintightropes Thu 25-Jul-13 01:11:39

Prepared for a flaming here and am really not sure what the right answer is, so would be keen to know what others think.

There's a naice pub about 10 mins walk from us. It is v kid friendly which is lovely. There's a nice garden at the back which includes a little playground for the kids. I was in there with DH this evening having dinner. At about 8.30 we'd finished eating - we were sat at the table nearest the adventure playground. There were a lot of kids when we arrived at 7 but had pretty much gone by 8.30, but there were a few - five, say? - all between 3 and 6. They were fairly unsupervised - parents and friends sat drinking about 20 yards away at the other side of the garden, kids were running around, scooting on scooters, and bumping into tables where other people were eating.

I wanted to have a cigarette after dinner and looked around, saw the kids were a little way from us, and lit up, blowing it away from where the kids were playing. One mum lurched over to our table (she really was a bit pissed) and told me off for smoking near her kids. Several people at the table she was sitting at were smoking.

AIBU to think that a) she shouldn't have been that drunk in charge of DCs, b) that they should have been better supervised anyway and c) shouldn't they have been in bed at that point?

I totally get that it's a kid-friendly pub - especially during the day throughout the week - but AIBU to have a fag after dinner in an open garden?

(Hoisting up judgy pants. No DCs myself yet so really don't know if IWBU).

Molinko Thu 25-Jul-13 15:55:28

OP I don't think YABU, not at all. A pub in the evening is for adults, I would never keep my kids in a pub after say 7pm out of respect for the other pub patrons, summer holidays or not. I don't really see what you smoking has got to with it honestly.

I love a family-friendly pub and am grateful when we find one, but we would only ever visit in the daytime. I also wouldn't inflict my kids on evening (after 7pm) diners at a restaurant. If you can't afford a babysitter for an evening out then maybe you should drink/eat in the comfort of your own home or garden.

Jan49 Thu 25-Jul-13 17:19:12

Leave the smokers alone to enjoy what space they have left, or stop complaining. You have the choice, smokers don't.

LtEveDallas, you honestly can't think of any other choice the smokers have? Like maybe NOT smoking?confused

LtEveDallas Thu 25-Jul-13 18:32:08

The 'choice' in my last post was regards to sitting inside or outside. Non-smokers can do either, so they have a choice. Smokers can only smoke outside, so they DON'T have a choice.

nkf Thu 25-Jul-13 18:36:25

Bumping into tables is not on though is it? Parents should keep a better eye on their children. Apart from that, it's okay.

merrymouse Thu 25-Jul-13 18:40:51

I hate smoking, but YANBU. I don't think it's wrong for children to be in a pub garden at this time, but its a bit silly not expect people to refrain from smoking because of their presence given that its 8.30, outside a pub.

On the other hand it sounds as though her logic was impaired by drink.

merrymouse Thu 25-Jul-13 18:42:09

Silly TO expect

pianodoodle Thu 25-Jul-13 19:08:59

YANBU you can smoke outside in the garden whether people like it or not.

YABU re: kids in the garden even though the badly behaved bit would annoy me too.

VerySmallSqueak Thu 25-Jul-13 19:14:55

We haven't got enough rules then?

If people want their kids running around in the pub garden till closing time it's up to them,not me.

If people want to have a fag in the fresh air it's up to them not me.

No one is breaking any laws here so live and let live,eh?

heronsfly Thu 25-Jul-13 19:18:46

Yadnbu, its a pub, not a playground !

ThePowerof3 Thu 25-Jul-13 19:47:24

If the mum was drunk then a law was actually being broken.

Boomba Thu 25-Jul-13 20:09:26

this is a nothing thread huh?

a woman asked you to stop smoking. you ignored her confused

VerySmallSqueak Thu 25-Jul-13 20:49:24

ThePowerof3 I didn't know we had ascertained for sure that she was in charge of the children.

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