Suitable punishment for naughty 3 year old?

[Sillyboys]

This is not so much an AIBU..it is an IHBU(is he being unreasonable)!DH has just returned from the park with the DSs .DS1 is 3.5 and came in in tears crying because he wanted his toy dinosaur.When I asked where it was he cried and said it was in the river.Then DH admitted he has thrown it in the river because DS1 had deliberately thrown a ball in the river that they were playing with.DS has been quite naughty recently(has a new baby brother) but I think DH has been a bit harsh.This dinosaur goes everywhere,even to bed,and I think DH has been mean.I don't agree that DS1 should get away with everything but I think confiscation would have been enough,not permanently throwing it away.AIBU?

[hobnobsaremyfavourite]

I despair....

[zwischenzug]

No. Throwing a 3 year olds treasured comfort toys into a river is a twatty thing to do.

[SmiteYouWithThunderbolts]

Your poor ds!! Oh my goodness that's awful of your DH.

[hobnobsaremyfavourite]

There seems a recurring theme of ridiculous punishments, frothing over reactions, etc on here at the moment.

[ivehadaverybadday]

So is DH going to fish it out? If not I hope he's on bedtime duty tonight..

[YouTheCat]

So your 3 year old did something naughty and so your (presumably grown up) dh did the same thing?

It's not teaching the poor kid anything at all.

Throw the dh in the river and solve many problems.

[hobnobsaremyfavourite]

Op did you name change to post this thread?

[McNewPants2013]

Your DH is a knob, who throws away a child comfort item.

As he takes it to bed with him, it will be him doing the bedtime routine and calming him down tonight

[drivingmisspotty]

Oh no! You don't ever mess with the comfort toy. I wouldn't even confiscate that. I would be so angry if that was my DH what a terrible thing to do. Send him back to the park and into the river to see if he can find it.

[Asheth]

I'd throw DH in the river if he did something like that....

[MrsTerryPratchett]

The rule in this house is that there are three things DH and I never mess with. All of which are DD's comfort things. Their removal isn't threatened, their confiscation isn't and they are never withheld. Because she is a little person with very little power and no possessions and these are her world.

I vote DH takes up diving pretty quickly. Or, you find an exact replacement and DH pretends he did.

[magimedi]

I would be sending DH back to the park with swimming stuff & goggles & tell him not to come home until he has dinosaur. However the fuck long it takes & however cold said pond is. I am not joking. What a twat.

[thegreylady]

YANBU if he is any sort of a decent father he'd be spending the afternoon fishing and swimming. The more I think about what he has done the more cruel and horrible it becomes.

[Sirzy]

Completely over the top unfair punishment which doesn't actually teach your child anything other than its ok to throw things in the river.

Why didn't he just bring him home after he was naughty?

[JeremyPiven]

That is very sad and sounds like your DH lost his temper.
No matter what my DS1 does, his bedtime comforter would never be taken from him. It would be like withdrawing a family member, some objects are not just toys to a 3yr old.

He should have brought him straight home- bad behaviour means no more playing, or removal of a toy for a period of time, or stopping another privilege. But what was done was very unkind, and actually I think it could make a child very unsettled.

[Sirzy]

He is also lucky he isn't fishing his son out of the river, if anyone did that with my 3 year olds stuffed dinosaur he would have been straight in to find it.

[FeckOffCup]

I would have gone absolutely ballistic at your DH if I was you, that is a really shitty thing to do to a 3 year old. I wouldn't have got the ball back that the child threw in, he would have lost that but to throw another toy in is crossing the line.

[Lucyellensmum95]

wow - there have been some really upsettin threads recently about overharsh punishments. There must be something in the air :(

You know he has upset your son and scored an own goal because now the only DECENT thing he can do is go and either a) jump in the river to retreive the toy or b) go and buy him a new one.

[Fudgemallowdelight]

Your dh sounds like a twat.

[kinkyfuckery]

How awful for your DS! That was a horrid thing to do, and your 'D'H should go do everything he can to get the toy back, fucking idiot.
And also, not let your kids play by the river!

[Thumbwitch]

OMG what an idiot he is. Your poor DS1. :(

I hope you can actually get a replacement, as I doubt the original will be replaceable, but what a way to wreck his son's security. I'd be so angry, so very angry.

[Thumbwitch]

...I doubt the original will be replaceable retrievable...

[Badvoc]

Your dh is a twat.
He is an adult.
Your ds is a child.
See the difference?