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AIBU?

To be pissed off with parents who believe all rules should be bent for their little darlings?

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IAmLouisWalsh · 15/02/2013 21:07

I am a teacher. In the last few weeks I have been told that some children in my school are allergic to their school uniform, suffer with extreme cold and so need to wear coats in class, have to keep jewellery on because it is sentimental, should be allowed to use staffroom facilities to microwave their own lunch....don't even start me on phones.

DH works with much older DCs - adults, essentially - and has put up with a whole range of shite from parents recently too, making excuses for why their (fully grown) offspring should take precedence over the needs of every one else.

Of the last 20 tales we have been told between us, I reckon 1 is true, 1 is half true and the rest are absolute bollocks.

Either front up and be honest about trying to bend the rules, or just fucking accept it.

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youmaycallmeSSP · 15/02/2013 21:10

YANBU. It's never going to change though so you may as well laugh about it.

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Sparklingbrook · 15/02/2013 21:11

It is odd isn't it? When i was at school my parents just followed the rules and never questioned anything the school said. Now it seems some parents just can't follow any rules and make it their sole purpose in life to object to them all and be the exception.

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ceebie · 15/02/2013 21:12

But my DC are absolute DARLINGS and everyone else should recognise this and pander to their every whim, surely????? Don't get why you wouldn't Shock. YABU

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GrowSomeCress · 15/02/2013 21:12

YANBU and I think it's a modern thing - parents (rightly) used to side with teachers

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Sparklingbrook · 15/02/2013 21:12

Love the school uniform allergy. Hmm

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Sparklingbrook · 15/02/2013 21:13

Exactly Grow. Teachers can't rely on the parents to back them up any more.

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chandellina · 15/02/2013 21:14

Yanbu, rules are meant to be followed. It's annoying.

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MidniteScribbler · 15/02/2013 21:18

Love the school uniform allergy

I was allergic to mine. Pure wool blazer for winter, and I'm allergic to wool.

My mother still made me wear it because school rules said that I had to. I had to wear a school sweater under it as well so stop it touching my skin.

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Sparklingbrook · 15/02/2013 21:19

Sad Midnite I never thought of the blazer. Sorry. DS1's is man made fibre.

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OHforDUCKScake · 15/02/2013 21:21

Allergic to the uniform? Quite possible.

Microwaving food in the staff room. Genius. Grin

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Startail · 15/02/2013 21:23

No we just broke the rules and didn't tell are oarents about it.

My parents were far stricter than school.

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TeWiSavesTheDay · 15/02/2013 21:23

My friend was allergic to her polyester jumper. She went very red and couldn't stop scratching the first day she wore it to school so easy to believe!

There were also parents like this when I was at school. I particularly remember the girl who was 'unfairly' not chosen to be a prefect and was added onto the list at the last minute. fuck knows what her parents said to change that

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YouOldSlag · 15/02/2013 21:26

YANBU. It teaches kids that rules can be ignored, that they are more important than everyone else, and then they grow up with a huge sense of entitlement.

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TeWiSavesTheDay · 15/02/2013 21:26

While I'm on the topic, age restrictions apply to all children - not just everyone else's.

I'm talking to you people who ignore the age signs at soft play and limply say "careful darling" while they trample my under 5s.

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CheerfulYank · 15/02/2013 21:27

It's terrible. I manage a cinema and the teens who work there are ridiculous. Whine of being tired after working 45 minutes in a row, don't care if things look like shit as long as they can do it the easy way,etc, etc. It drives me mad. They're just so babied. Their parents are full of excuses for why they can't get there on time.

I realize that's not the same thing, but it's all part of a wider problem IMO.

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drmummmsy · 15/02/2013 21:27

I think this sort of things stems from the shift in attitudes stated on this thread

www.mumsnet.com/Talk/am_i_being_unreasonable/1682170-To-think-that-perceptions-of-child-abuse-have-changed-a-lot-over-the-years

where things like the UN Convention on the Rights of the Child, The Children's Act have filtered down to everyday language and have influenced (rightly or wrongly) the way this generation perceives their children and the way that they should be treated by schools?

maybe?

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Sparklingbrook · 15/02/2013 21:28

Yes and 'don't park on the verges/zig zags outside school' being put on the weekly newsletter only applies to me by the look of things. Sad

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YouOldSlag · 15/02/2013 21:28

TeWi- I hate that too. I always chuck them out. I'm ruthless. I say to the hulking lunatic 8 year olds "Are you four? No? then you musn't play here"

I even say it to my own six year old.

I hate it when people ignore big signs because they feel it doesn't apply.

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Sparklingbrook · 15/02/2013 21:30

Yes like the 'coaches only' bay painted in three feet high yellow letters You. but the parents park there regardless and it covers the letters up. Genius. Grin

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scottishmummy · 15/02/2013 21:30

heat dinner in staff room,that's priceless.complete brass neck

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Sparklingbrook · 15/02/2013 21:31

Dread to think what they want to heat up sm. Sad

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Bluestocking · 15/02/2013 21:37

Don't start me. I work at a university and you would not believe some of the absolute world-class bollocks I have to endure from parents. Parents of ADULTS.

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GrowSomeCress · 15/02/2013 21:39

Really bluestocking? Do they actually phone up? What about? Grades or something? Confused

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BlatantLies · 15/02/2013 21:40

Ok, I admit it, Blush

I once asked that my son be exempt from wearing full facial makeup for the compulsory school play. He has a lovely Mediterranean complexion and I didnt think he needed foundation as well as blusher, lipstick, eyeliner and eye shadow. (yes really Shock ). I said i was concerned that he would have an allergy to it well, it is possible


The teacher had obviously met my kind before and refused point blank. I gave in gracefully and slunk away.... Sad

He looked lovely in the play even if he did look like Julian Clary on a night out.

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aldiwhore · 15/02/2013 21:41

Maybe in this modern world it's the rules that need changing?

Some are absolutely valid and logical, some are utterly pointless.

I work in a Uni and yes, when the parents ring up asking for timetables etc, and I have to say no to them, and they give me grief for it I do tire of explaining that it is the student's responsibility to find these on the website as part of their course, and no, unless the student is so ill they can't come to the phone, I cannot divulge private student details to mummy... they are other rules that make you wonder what purpose the serve other than to be just rules.

YAprobablyNBU in the vast majority of cases. YAthereforeprobablyBU in a few cases.

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