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To be pissed off with parents who believe all rules should be bent for their little darlings?

(218 Posts)
IAmLouisWalsh Fri 15-Feb-13 21:07:45

I am a teacher. In the last few weeks I have been told that some children in my school are allergic to their school uniform, suffer with extreme cold and so need to wear coats in class, have to keep jewellery on because it is sentimental, should be allowed to use staffroom facilities to microwave their own lunch....don't even start me on phones.

DH works with much older DCs - adults, essentially - and has put up with a whole range of shite from parents recently too, making excuses for why their (fully grown) offspring should take precedence over the needs of every one else.

Of the last 20 tales we have been told between us, I reckon 1 is true, 1 is half true and the rest are absolute bollocks.

Either front up and be honest about trying to bend the rules, or just fucking accept it.

youmaycallmeSSP Fri 15-Feb-13 21:10:44

YANBU. It's never going to change though so you may as well laugh about it.

Sparklingbrook Fri 15-Feb-13 21:11:14

It is odd isn't it? When i was at school my parents just followed the rules and never questioned anything the school said. Now it seems some parents just can't follow any rules and make it their sole purpose in life to object to them all and be the exception.

ceebie Fri 15-Feb-13 21:12:16

But my DC are absolute DARLINGS and everyone else should recognise this and pander to their every whim, surely????? Don't get why you wouldn't shock. YABU

GrowSomeCress Fri 15-Feb-13 21:12:30

YANBU and I think it's a modern thing - parents (rightly) used to side with teachers

Sparklingbrook Fri 15-Feb-13 21:12:39

Love the school uniform allergy. hmm

Sparklingbrook Fri 15-Feb-13 21:13:33

Exactly Grow. Teachers can't rely on the parents to back them up any more.

chandellina Fri 15-Feb-13 21:14:04

Yanbu, rules are meant to be followed. It's annoying.

MidniteScribbler Fri 15-Feb-13 21:18:27

Love the school uniform allergy

I was allergic to mine. Pure wool blazer for winter, and I'm allergic to wool.

My mother still made me wear it because school rules said that I had to. I had to wear a school sweater under it as well so stop it touching my skin.

Sparklingbrook Fri 15-Feb-13 21:19:34

sad Midnite I never thought of the blazer. Sorry. DS1's is man made fibre.

OHforDUCKScake Fri 15-Feb-13 21:21:53

Allergic to the uniform? Quite possible.

Microwaving food in the staff room. Genius. grin

Startail Fri 15-Feb-13 21:23:49

No we just broke the rules and didn't tell are oarents about it.

My parents were far stricter than school.

TeWiSavesTheDay Fri 15-Feb-13 21:23:53

My friend was allergic to her polyester jumper. She went very red and couldn't stop scratching the first day she wore it to school so easy to believe!

There were also parents like this when I was at school. I particularly remember the girl who was 'unfairly' not chosen to be a prefect and was added onto the list at the last minute. fuck knows what her parents said to change that

YouOldSlag Fri 15-Feb-13 21:26:34

YANBU. It teaches kids that rules can be ignored, that they are more important than everyone else, and then they grow up with a huge sense of entitlement.

TeWiSavesTheDay Fri 15-Feb-13 21:26:46

While I'm on the topic, age restrictions apply to all children - not just everyone else's.

I'm talking to you people who ignore the age signs at soft play and limply say "careful darling" while they trample my under 5s.

CheerfulYank Fri 15-Feb-13 21:27:53

It's terrible. I manage a cinema and the teens who work there are ridiculous. Whine of being tired after working 45 minutes in a row, don't care if things look like shit as long as they can do it the easy way,etc, etc. It drives me mad. They're just so babied. Their parents are full of excuses for why they can't get there on time.

I realize that's not the same thing, but it's all part of a wider problem IMO.

drmummmsy Fri 15-Feb-13 21:27:56

I think this sort of things stems from the shift in attitudes stated on this thread

www.mumsnet.com/Talk/am_i_being_unreasonable/1682170-To-think-that-perceptions-of-child-abuse-have-changed-a-lot-over-the-years

where things like the UN Convention on the Rights of the Child, The Children's Act have filtered down to everyday language and have influenced (rightly or wrongly) the way this generation perceives their children and the way that they should be treated by schools?

maybe?

<don't attack me!>

Sparklingbrook Fri 15-Feb-13 21:28:26

Yes and 'don't park on the verges/zig zags outside school' being put on the weekly newsletter only applies to me by the look of things. sad

YouOldSlag Fri 15-Feb-13 21:28:44

TeWi- I hate that too. I always chuck them out. I'm ruthless. I say to the hulking lunatic 8 year olds "Are you four? No? then you musn't play here"

I even say it to my own six year old.

I hate it when people ignore big signs because they feel it doesn't apply.

Sparklingbrook Fri 15-Feb-13 21:30:46

Yes like the 'coaches only' bay painted in three feet high yellow letters You. but the parents park there regardless and it covers the letters up. Genius. grin

scottishmummy France Fri 15-Feb-13 21:30:53

heat dinner in staff room,that's priceless.complete brass neck

Sparklingbrook Fri 15-Feb-13 21:31:57

Dread to think what they want to heat up sm. sad

Bluestocking Fri 15-Feb-13 21:37:36

Don't start me. I work at a university and you would not believe some of the absolute world-class bollocks I have to endure from parents. Parents of ADULTS.

GrowSomeCress Fri 15-Feb-13 21:39:49

Really bluestocking? Do they actually phone up? What about? Grades or something? confused

BlatantLies Fri 15-Feb-13 21:40:06

Ok, I admit it, blush

I once asked that my son be exempt from wearing full facial makeup for the compulsory school play. He has a lovely Mediterranean complexion and I didnt think he needed foundation as well as blusher, lipstick, eyeliner and eye shadow. (yes really shock ). I said i was concerned that he would have an allergy to it well, it is possible

The teacher had obviously met my kind before and refused point blank. I gave in gracefully and slunk away.... sad

He looked lovely in the play even if he did look like Julian Clary on a night out.

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