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EVIL MILs - WHY DID YOU MARRY SOMEONE WHEN YOU DON'T LIKE THEIR MUM??

(207 Posts)
Hullygully Thu 07-Feb-13 15:36:39

Why??

What did you think would happen?

valiumredhead Thu 07-Feb-13 15:37:59

I love my MIL, she is great and when we get engaged she gave me a massive hug and said she couldn't ask for a nicer daughter in law - even if she pisses me off I remember that and it makes me all warm and fuzzy smile

SpicyPear Thu 07-Feb-13 15:38:44

Ooh I can't wait to see how this one pans out!

Pascha Thu 07-Feb-13 15:38:54

That reads as Evil MIL doesnt like her MIL. I like my MIL.

valiumredhead Thu 07-Feb-13 15:38:59

Oh and to answer the OP, I was with someone else and I loather his parents, just couldn't imagine life with them forever, one of the main reasons we split up.

toomuch2young Thu 07-Feb-13 15:39:46

I'm not in this situation, but surely you marry someone because you love them and want to be with them?
I can't imagine that many adults spend that much time with their mothers to put you off marrying them?

ThedementedPenguin Thu 07-Feb-13 15:39:48

I'm not married but I assume its because they loved there boyfriend and wanted to be with him. Doesn't mean they have to put up with crap from there MIL.

soverylucky Thu 07-Feb-13 15:39:56

I liked her when we got married. It is in the years after that slowly and gradually I have realised that we are two very, very, very different people.

MrsKoala Thu 07-Feb-13 15:41:12

Erm, because I love my dh. Why would my feelings on mil affect that? If poor dh could only marry someone who liked his mum then he'd be alone forever. That's not exactly fair on him is it? How bizarre.

Tortington Thu 07-Feb-13 15:41:14

i dont have any intentions of fucking his mum and dh is such a good fuck - it would have been a shame not to keep him

Um. Because you love your partner?

My DH likes fig rolls, which I think are disgusting. Should I not have married him because of this incompatibility?

WileyRoadRunner Thu 07-Feb-13 15:41:55

My MIL only showed her true colours AFTER we were married.

<sigh>

letsgomaths Thu 07-Feb-13 15:42:27

I have never met my MIL - my DW is totally estranged from her!

EssexGurl Thu 07-Feb-13 15:43:14

Because we rarely saw them and I thought that I could cope with a couple of visits a year. They live a 4 hour drive away so even with kids now we probably only see them 3 or 4 times a year for a weekend. Bearable, just ....

maddening Thu 07-Feb-13 15:43:17

Because otherwise there'd be lots of nice lonely men living with their loony mums

weegiemum Thu 07-Feb-13 15:43:20

I don't speak to my (nutter) mother.

So should dh have declined to mary me (we were talking at the time of my wedding) because my mother is frankly toxic?

He married me because he loves me . stuff my mother!!

DewDr0p Thu 07-Feb-13 15:43:25

Hmm I love my dh - it's my MIL I have an issue with (and FIL for that matter)

Fwiw dh and I are of the same opinion. Should he have remained single for ever more?

Tee2072 Thu 07-Feb-13 15:43:53

I didn't marry my MIL, who I happen to like. I married my husband.

Is that how some people choose a spouse? Based on their mother? Really?

Because I fell in love with DP?

He has no more control over the fact he has a toxic narcissist for a father and a lazy grasping mare for a mother than I do.

Luckily we don't have much to do with them so they don't affect our lives.

MummytoMog Thu 07-Feb-13 15:47:13

She's lovely - she just drives me nuts since I had the kids. Fairly common I think.

woozlebear Thu 07-Feb-13 15:47:42

Oh dear....

Well by this logic I should remain a spinster forever, because my mother is frightful. Luckily DH didn't run away.

KirstyoffEastenders Thu 07-Feb-13 15:48:37

I went through with a wedding I knew was a mistake just because I loved his parents and I didn't want to upset them. I left him 6 months later. So I suppose it works both ways.

Ashoething Thu 07-Feb-13 15:49:22

Because I didnt realise what a lazy manipulative cow she was until after I had been married a number of years?

KirstyoffEastenders Thu 07-Feb-13 15:50:24

Also, should I be worried that BF hasn't introduce me to his Mother, even though we've been together for 9 months, we live together, and we're trying for a baby? Maybe she's a nightmare. Thankfully she lives 50 miles away.

bran Thu 07-Feb-13 15:54:25

Message withdrawn at poster's request.

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