Note: Please bear in mind that whilst this topic does canvass opinions, it is not a fight club. You may disagree with other posters but we do ask you please to stick to our Talk Guidelines and to be civil. We don't allow personal attacks or troll-hunting. Do please report any. Thanks, MNHQ.

to think my ex is an absolute fucking bastard of the first order

(217 Posts)
11Plustrauma Sat 02-Feb-13 19:07:34

DD got her 11plus results today. She did really very well for her, put in a load of effort, and will get in to a grammar school. Just not the one he wants.

He said, in front of her, "Shit. I'm disappointed".

She has howled all day and it will take a great deal to pick her up again.

He is a bastard, yes or no?

[NOTE FROM MNHQ: Although we're sure it was meant as a joke, we have edited the thread title and OP to remove some beyond-the-pale violent imagery. Some subsequent posts making reference to the same imagery have also been deleted.]

Message deleted by Mumsnet for breaking our Talk Guidelines. Replies may also be deleted.

ohfunnyhoneyface Sat 02-Feb-13 19:10:13

That sucks- was she ok until he said that?

cozietoesie Sat 02-Feb-13 19:10:41

Message deleted by Mumsnet for breaking our Talk Guidelines. Replies may also be deleted.

11Plustrauma Sat 02-Feb-13 19:10:41

Fucker. Utter fucker. She was getting 20% in september, to have pulled up from that to what she got is amazing and she worked (and me with her) so so hard. He is a total and utter wankbadger fucknugget BASTARD.

brainonastick Sat 02-Feb-13 19:10:53

Yanbu. I hope he is thinking frantically about ways to make it up to her?

11Plustrauma Sat 02-Feb-13 19:12:46

She was OK - disappointed, but pleased enough that she'd go to her 2nd choice. Then he said "shit I'm disappointed" and started to talk about special circumstances and appeals. There ARE no special circs. There is not grounds to appeal. She just missed by 2 or 3 marks. So fucking what. The world hasn't stopped and the sun will still rise in the morning.

He is going in to see the head to "discuss her options". I have told him to rock on I'm not going with him. Fucker bastard cunt.

Have been being all restrained and happy all day and can only vent on here. BASTARDBASTARDCUNT

KenLeeeeeee Sat 02-Feb-13 19:13:25

Message deleted by Mumsnet for breaking our Talk Guidelines. Replies may also be deleted.

11Plustrauma Sat 02-Feb-13 19:13:54

FFS if she'd got 2% and tried her best I'd still say I was proud of her and she'd done well. And she really really really did try so so hard the hours of time and effort we put in were phenomenal. But he never bothered his fucking arse of course.

Cunt.

11Plustrauma Sat 02-Feb-13 19:15:04

I have never never never been so angry in all my fucking life. I seriously would struggle not to be physically violent to him if he was here right now. She has HOWLED and I mean HOWLED over this.

badtemperedaldbitch Sat 02-Feb-13 19:15:30

Don't worry about him, coach your dd to be immune go such comments. Say 'he may be disappointed but then it's not his life, is it sweetie? I'm incredibly proud of what you did and I know that you have worked hard '

Depending on your relationship you could even say ' I was so disappointed in him that we got divorced'

That way she knows the problem is him not her.

Message deleted by Mumsnet for breaking our Talk Guidelines. Replies may also be deleted.

11Plustrauma Sat 02-Feb-13 19:17:23

I am so so cross. She's not academically brilliant and she put in so so much work and effort and for him to piss on her chips like that is just disgusting. I have run out of swear words. She's eating ice cream and has had pizza and fruit shoots (sorry MN) and he can go and fuck himself. cunt. cunt . cunt

TaggieCampbellBlack Sat 02-Feb-13 19:17:45

Twat.

But bloody well done to her (and you!) for passing.

11Plustrauma Sat 02-Feb-13 19:18:47

He can't understand why I don't want to go to see the head and discuss her options. He should be glad because if I was in the same room as him I would fucking kill him. bastard. bastard. bastard. bastarsd.

11Plustrauma Sat 02-Feb-13 19:20:24

well he's not a fucking brain surgeon or a rocket scientist and so fucking what who fucking cares. normally we get on ok but omg on this he is so fucking blinkered. he wants DD and DS both to be fucking brainboxes and DD just isn't. not everyone is. so fuck. He told me I have no ambition for her. he can go fuck.

Aethelfleda Sat 02-Feb-13 19:20:55

You just build that girl up, OP. Tell her you love her, you're proud of her, and she did a bl

OkayHazel Sat 02-Feb-13 19:21:49

Message deleted by Mumsnet for breaking our Talk Guidelines. Replies may also be deleted.

11Plustrauma Sat 02-Feb-13 19:21:58

I have tried all day and it's so hard. my mum is so proud of her and even mum and dad's very elderly next door nieghbour came up with a well done card with a tenner in it for her. but that fucking bastard cunt never ever said well done. cunt bastard i fucking hate his fucking guts.

11Plustrauma Sat 02-Feb-13 19:22:31

Hazel = tell me what he's done and I'll do yours if you do mine? <joke>

gordyslovesheep Sat 02-Feb-13 19:23:19

Message deleted by Mumsnet for breaking our Talk Guidelines. Replies may also be deleted.

11Plustrauma Sat 02-Feb-13 19:24:17

she said "I've let you and daddy down I wish I had worked harder" and my heart just broke.

She's fucking 11. She's a baby. She didn't let me down. And he's a cunt.

OkayHazel Sat 02-Feb-13 19:24:19

Message deleted by Mumsnet for breaking our Talk Guidelines. Replies may also be deleted.

corlan Sat 02-Feb-13 19:24:35

He is a cocksucking son of a wankbadger. He sounds like one of those people that just want to suck the joy out of everything and make it all about him.

Congratulations to your DD.

11Plustrauma Sat 02-Feb-13 19:25:15

It would be a pleasure Hazel. The way I feel tonight he has no chance.

Join the discussion

Join the discussion

Registering is free, easy, and means you can join in the discussion, get discounts, win prizes and lots more.

Register now