In telling DS that he is not taking his silly routine to the school talent show auditions.

(53 Posts)
Alliwantisaroomsomewhere Tue 15-Jan-13 17:09:04

DS (Aged 8) and his friend of same age want to take part in the talent competition doing a "fighting" routine sort of martial arts style.
This is a bloody ridiculous AIBU, but I am torn between letting them do it and then finding out that it is a bad idea and telling them NO because someone will get hurt and they have no chance of getting through anyway.

They were showing me their "routine" in the play ground after school when one of the teachers told the boys to stop what they were doing.
ARGH!! What should I do? I think this is one of those times when I should be the adult and say NO they cannot do it!!

(Apologies for the non-issue that this AIBU is)

CheerfulYank Tue 29-Jan-13 09:51:17

Oh, that's sweet. smile

I often feel cringey at things DS will do, and worry about him being laughed at. This thread is a great reminder to let him be. Thanks OP!

JustGiveMeFiveMinutes Tue 29-Jan-13 09:33:44

Well done to your ds. It's much better that he had a go than to sit in the audience wishing he had.
I had a very similar experience to other on here. DS who had previously loathed doing anything on stage decided he was going to enter a school talent contest with a dance routine. He'd never danced in his life before! I had palpatations worrying that he was going to be the butt of jokes for the rest of his school career. I put my own anxieties to one side and he only went on to come second! By all accounts he was robbed. He was a hero to the boys (some of whom begged him to let them join him in the final) and heartthrob to the girls. It was a real turnaround in his confidence and it taught me a hell of a lesson.

Alliwantisaroomsomewhere Tue 29-Jan-13 09:22:16

I was surprised to realise how disappointed I was when DS told me yesterday that they were not successful in their audition!

DS is fine about it, but his friend is more disappointed. Not sure how happy I am that they are already talking about next year's auditions!

smile

pinkyponk67 Thu 17-Jan-13 20:09:53

I think that "know how it will end" is pretty sound advice for most performances! It must be an 8 year old boy thing then..

Alliwantisaroomsomewhere Thu 17-Jan-13 12:25:56

grin pinkyponk67! I am so glad that I have not been alone in my cringiness re DS! He and his friend also had not arranged an ending for their routine, so I said that they had to make sure they know how it was going to end. Does that count as directorial input?

pinkyponk67 Thu 17-Jan-13 12:20:33

Glad to know Im not alone here!

DS age 8 performed the worst diabolo routine you have ever seen as part of a Cubs talent contest. He only decided to do it on the day (so had not practised) and had to use rulers for sticks. I was terrified for him but also felt I could not tell him it was too bad to perform!

On the night it was hilariously bad, DS carried it off with a big smile, and was loving the limelight. He had to be told to stop in the end by the Cub leader, he would have gone on with his terrible juggling all night! God knows what the other parents must have thought!

Let us know when the Albert Hall gig is OP ;)

Alliwantisaroomsomewhere Thu 17-Jan-13 12:05:21

SO glad I started this thread. I really love some of the stories that have been told.

I do feel redeemed, I must say! Now I cannot wait to hear if my boy is in the finals grin.

I will offer all of you special rate tickets for his performance at The Royal Albert when he gets there....

Chopstheduck Thu 17-Jan-13 08:14:39

Though, I will admit to having major wobbles over the first time in year 3 when he wanted to go to school in a pink bridesmaids dress!

Chopstheduck Thu 17-Jan-13 08:13:45

aww glad it went well!

My eldest son has sn, is asd somewhere and his talent show offerings are dodgy in the least. He lacks any self consciousness. One was a Mario routine where they jumped around the stage to the Mario theme music, then he did a LMFAO Sexy and I know It routine. At a CofE school with a rather austere HT. They did tell them they were NOT doing it in Speedos, but otherwise they were left to get on with it! grin

He also set the trend for wearing dresses on Pink day, so last year for the last one, to stand out, he went as a flying pink pink with fairy wings.

I love him for it, and anyone who sniggers at him can fuck off!

Eliza22 Thu 17-Jan-13 08:08:23

When I was at school I was a quiet little soul. I went through 4 years without the need to sing, beyond assembly and church services. In my final year there was a "stage" competition and you had to sing, on your own. I chose a really old song and I'll never forget that day. It was like that scene in Snow White where all the woodland creatures peep in from the forrest. By the end of my rehearsal of said song (and I'd been putting it off thinking "I don't need to rehearse in front of everyone, I'll just do it on the day) the doorway was packed with pupils asking "who IS that?"

I sang. Out of 80 or so pupils, I came second to the girl who won the year before. The following year, I won. The music teacher said "we had no idea you could sing!"

I went on the sing and get paid for it!

Never quash your kid's enthusiasm. That's my advice smile

OhMerGerd Thu 17-Jan-13 04:51:22

One thing I learned when mine were this age is not to project my own insecurities and fears onto them. Sounds like your lad is confident and creative and full of get up and go. Great stuff and well done for supporting him. You'd better get a good pattern for a ninja costume though because he'll be taking his 'act' to Britains got Talent next!

LadyBeagleEyes Thu 17-Jan-13 00:25:15

Oh Spuddy, that made me cry with laughter.
I love this thread with so many parents cringing inside while trying to support their rubbish talentless kids.
You've got to love them, but this thread is inspired

wherearemysocka Wed 16-Jan-13 22:33:32

Sounds like most of the X Factor auditions!

Spuddybean Wed 16-Jan-13 22:27:31

aaaaaawww My school were holding open singing auditions for a musical they were putting on and my bf kept going on about how she had the best voice, that she was going to get the part and no one else need apply etc. She walked on the stage and sang really loudly, not a bit self consciously...and absolutely awfully! We were all stunned. None of us knew why she was so adamant she was a great singer. She didn't get the part and was absolutely outraged and demanded to know why. The teachers gently told her she couldn't really sing that well. She accused them of lying, totally convinced was she of her amazingness. When we asked what made her so sure she was that good she said because her mum had told her...

She went home and incredulously recounted her experience to her Mum. Her mum explained that while SHE thought she was amazing and loved to listen to her sing, that was because she was her mum and loved her, but in actual fact to other people who could hear she was fucking awful not that good. It never occurred to her that she wasn't fantastic. blush

enjoyinglife Wed 16-Jan-13 22:13:43

Glad my post was helpful. Remember any other parent worth their salt will admire you if you happily applaud and support him. The less outstanding his performance the more they will admire you for supporting him.
Following our school talent show many of the kids (including mine) really blossomed. I was amazed what a positive effect it had on them so it really is worth sticking it out.

Best of luck I hope he gets through the audition.

JamieandtheMagicTorch Wed 16-Jan-13 19:14:56

Fab

digerd Wed 16-Jan-13 18:42:15

Children just want their parents to be proud and pleased for them, no matter how awful they are.
So pleased they enjoyed themselves.

LadyBeagleEyes Wed 16-Jan-13 17:31:39

Well done on them Ali grin
Let us know if they got through.

Alliwantisaroomsomewhere Wed 16-Jan-13 17:22:26

After school, I asked the boys how it went: "PERFECT!" they shouted. grin I can just imagine.

What a relief. They did not come out crying or down in the dumps. All good!

No idea if they got through, but at least they made it. smile

Alliwantisaroomsomewhere Wed 16-Jan-13 09:50:30

Enjoyinglife, your post is brilliant! Thank you!!

You are right - I remember things from my childhood that disappointed me or made me glad smile.

enjoyinglife Tue 15-Jan-13 23:13:52

I felt like this about my son at the school talent show last year. I did everything i could to discourage him apart from bribe him not to do it. To be fair his initial routine was terrible and there are a lot of uber competitive mums at the school. I was suffering with anxiety at the time and the thought of him on the stage made me feel ill.
He wouldn't give up on it, worked on his routine and really was ok. There were lots of awful acts (and some good ones) but the atmosphere was supportive rather than competitive. I felt quite ashamed when i saw the other mums cheering on their kids' awful acts proudly. My son actually came 3rd. The trophy is kept by my bed to remind me to be a better / more supportive mum.

Support your son. Kids remember the littlest things.

Snazzynewyear Tue 15-Jan-13 22:15:01

Agree with Delta - let the school crush their dreams, you don't need to wink It is seriously a good sign that a child previously lacking in confidence is willing to do this now.

Eliza22 Tue 15-Jan-13 22:09:39

Wow, let them do it! I think it's great they want to have a go and are willing to put themselves up for it!

It's character forming grin

Alliwantisaroomsomewhere Tue 15-Jan-13 21:50:42

Bobyan, the auditions are tomorrow - the boys are going ahead with it! I will report back tomorrow night hmm.

Bobyan Tue 15-Jan-13 19:22:38

What about doing some beat boxing instead?

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