To be daydreaming about having a minor accident that puts me in hospital for a couple of days :((134 Posts)
I know I am really. But I am just so worn out! I work full-time and have a 3yo and 8mo. Mine is the main (at this point only) income we have. I do enjoy my job (teacher) and that is my main focus during the week. But I obviously also love my family and they are my focus in the evenings and weekends. DD has been teething and a bit ill recently so nights have been broken. I had another parents' evening tonight (have had one per week for the last 3 weeks). I have a mound of marking that I'll struggle to do, probably tomorrow, saturday and sunday evening.
I just need a break! And yes, I know I'll get two weeks off over Christmas and I am lucky with that compared to others, but that is just another kind of work and I'm all out of steam .
So my daydream is to have a minor accident that entails a two night stay at hospital. Work will be sympathetic, DP will have to cope and I'll just sleep and read. I obviously need to work on my work/life balance.
I work in a school (behaviour support) and I've got to have explorative op which means I get to finish day and half early. Grotty op but makes it worth finishing early
thebody I literally walk to the school gates every morning PRAYING for something like the water not being on. Anything! I don't care!
thebody. Be careful what you wish for and all that!
We had no water in school last week so kids couldn't stay. It was an early Christmas fucking miracle.
When I was a student nurse many moons ago and very drunk I allowed another nurse to smack me in the knee with a plug lead in order to get a minor injury which could require a day off.
Being a big girl she whacked me a bit too hard and smashed several ligaments which required surgery and much pain...
Still I did get time off..
I've always thought the Autumn term is much too long, especially for those little ones in Reception who have only just started school.
Everyone ends up tired, stressed and ill for the much too short Christmas holidays.
Maybe a longer half term is the answer, like a lot of the private schools do.
I don't recommend hospital for a relaxing break, though. Not these days!
I had 4 weeks off after gallbladder removal - first ten days of which involved doing very little I as was sleeping about 15 hours a day.
That was quite nice...
I have actually considered telling my gynae consultant that my endometrial ablation didn't work as he said the next step would be a hysterectomy. 12 weeks off?
But then I did think that having unnecessary major surgery which would put me into an early menopause might be a bit extreme.
I have felt so much guilt for thinking like this and I've chastised myself by saying if I did get ill and died leaving the DDs motherless I would have brought it on myself. I fantasise about conditions that are serious enough to warrant treatment and staying off work but not life threatening, yet elicit sympathy so boss doesn't expect me to be "working from home" taking calls and email. Also and i am quite quite ashamed to add, this illness must have as a requirement that I am only allowed to do a little light housework during time off (otherwise DH would swing into I have a SAHW mode and I'd find myself building the shed that we've not had time to put up, painting the house, laying a new path etc as well as all the cooking cleaning and general guff that goes into maintaining a home).
Sigh .... So far I've come up with - emergency hysterectomy! (Obviously only any good if you don't want any more DC ).
Writing it down I am more ashamed to be thinking about such things ... I am... But also so knackered and hacked off and burned out that I will admit that being hospitalised for an emergency op and subsequent recouperation time is a more appealing fantasy than anything the Mr Shades of grey bloke could dream up ( not even had time to read the book).
I hate next term - twelve long weeks with only two days off in the middle. (We don't do "half term" in Scotland.) The weather's pish, it can still snow at any time, and there's sod-all to look forward to.
Luckily this year I'm starting a new job after Christmas, so I'm excited about next term!
I know the feeling - also work in a school (support staff), although I have to disagree that Autumn term is the hardest. For me it's summer term that is the absolute bastard. Every year I forget and every summer I'm at how exhausting and how much of a pita it is.
And next year the second half of it is nearly 8 weeks long...
<<sobs into large glass of wine>>
Last year I booked myself into a 5star hotel for two nights. Best £240 I've ever spent.
Three days and two nights of sleep, tv, book reading, chocolate with the odd wander down to the pool in the basement.
Nurse, single parent, abusive Ex, relentless court battles over child contact. It's relentless. Sometimes I would like to bow to the pressure and admit that it's all too much. I am fighting so hard to keep all the balls in the air and I just want to sleep for a whole night and have a lie in next day I know I should stop putting a brave face on, my physical health is suffering and I am falling into a bad place with regards my mental health.
But tomorrow is a new day. And this show must go on
Another teacher who totally gets it. We had Ofsted visit a few weeks ago. It was a frosty morning and I found myself hoping for a small skid and bump - nothing major, just enough to have to go to hospital to get checked out. My downside is that I am long-term supply. If I don't go in, I don't get paid I don't even have any DC but my Christmas 'break' is already pretty much fully booked; the garden looks like Steptoe's yard, the bathroom hasn't been cleaned in weeks, I have a million loads of laundry to do and the loft needs insulating
and has done for years
I was actually wondering today how on earth people teach FT and have children as DH and I are hoping to start TTCing soon. It made me cry in the
madhair sorry you're having such a tough time but this thread is about minor illnesses and pneumonia is definitely not minor. We're only fantasising about a short, worry free hospital stay.
I also don't think this is a sad thread, just a wry, realist one. I don't think many people could say they haven't wanted to run away from something for a short time if they could. The vital thing is any of us rarely do. Everyone fantasises/imagines how aspects of their lives could be better - this doesn't mean we 're all clinically depressed, dysfunctional human beings.
Thanks larks35 - I think what worries me post-PGCE is the fact that these kids are totally relying on me. At the moment, if things aren't going too well, I know there's a professional in the room with me who can pick up some of the slack and teach what needs to be taught.
Totally agree with Larks...Esme the PGCE was the hardest year of my life, rivalled only by the NQT year. I have also wished for a sick bug/flu/ any illness which would buy me a couple of days of marking in bed. I have lots of kids and am absolutely shattered, but I wouldn't do any other job The perks and benefits far outweigh the bad bits.
This was how I knew I had to go to the doctor about being depressed. I was chatting to someone through their car window and I wanted them to run over my foot and break it so that I'd have to have some time off. It took all of my willpower to move it out of the way.
I've been throwing up today, not a bug but a balance thing, but because I had about an hour between bouts I didn't feel ill enough to have a day off without feeling guilty. The cover lady answers the phone at this time of year and says 'I can't cover you!' but if you are in hospital you know they will have to accept it. When I ended up in hospital on a drip due to the constant vomiting it was awful, but everyone was very sympathetic and I felt genuinely ill enough not to feel guilty. Today I've just felt ill, but not ill enough, and had to fend off non-stop 'Can we do something for Christmas' questions from over-excited teenagers.
I'd just like some sleep for Christmas.
cory/madhair - sorry you are both having a rotten time.
I know this is meant to be light hearted, but this is one of the saddest threads I have ever seen on here, the quiet despair of women who are so exhausted that a hospital stay seems appealing and a treat.
Thanks cory. Though I may save the wine until my iV course is ended
That sounds horrible, MadHair
Please have some and . And hope you feel better soon.
Yabu. I'm on my 11th day in hospital with pneumonia and it's not a nice rest at all.
I have some sympathy. I was a teacher and remember the absolute never ending ness of it all.
But my daydream would be not to be disabled and unable to work and able to put my feet up whenever I like. That's. Fairly overrated. Mine would be to be able to teach again.
Just another perspective, but realise this is heavily influenced by this shit stay in hospital.
In hospital you don't have to do any work when you're woken up in the middle of the night; you can roll over and go back to sleep.
Having spent several nights lately having to talk for hour after hour to a suicidal and at times hallucinating child and then doing a full day's work, I think I could just about cope with the night nurse coming round a couple of times in the night with my pills. If I could have a few days of guilt free rest without fear, I wouldn't be quibbling about the quality of the food or a bit of noise on the ward.
I'd be all for the short hospital stay- except I'd be so bloody frightened about what was happening to dd if I wasn't there.
Whether a hospital stay would be better or worse depends on your current quality of life. Mine atm is pretty bloody low.
Sorry to link to another thread, but this has inspired me to ask a short survey, if anyone's interested. www.mumsnet.com/Talk/_chat/1636668-Straw-poll-wishing-for-minor-accident-illness
It's not just teachers, I remember feeling like that quite often when the kids were younger. I actually fantasised about being old and moving to a retirement home where all the meals and washing etc were done for you!
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