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To be daydreaming about having a minor accident that puts me in hospital for a couple of days :(

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larks35 Thu 13-Dec-12 23:14:26

I know I am really. But I am just so worn out! I work full-time and have a 3yo and 8mo. Mine is the main (at this point only) income we have. I do enjoy my job (teacher) and that is my main focus during the week. But I obviously also love my family and they are my focus in the evenings and weekends. DD has been teething and a bit ill recently so nights have been broken. I had another parents' evening tonight (have had one per week for the last 3 weeks). I have a mound of marking that I'll struggle to do, probably tomorrow, saturday and sunday evening.

I just need a break! And yes, I know I'll get two weeks off over Christmas and I am lucky with that compared to others, but that is just another kind of work and I'm all out of steam sad.

So my daydream is to have a minor accident that entails a two night stay at hospital. Work will be sympathetic, DP will have to cope and I'll just sleep and read. I obviously need to work on my work/life balance.

Startail Fri 14-Dec-12 02:00:45

I did fetch up in hospital when DD1 was 5 months old.

Day surgery under GA, hoped for a few hours sleep before discharge.

hump, the antidote to the GA was far too good and the old dear opposite took great delight in someone to talk too.

TheseGoToEleven Fri 14-Dec-12 02:13:44

About a month ago my husband was in hospital for 3 nights and I said to him that I knew he was in pain and uncomfortable etc but I would give just about anything for 1 day of not having to go, go, go all the time with never a break (4DCs and WAHM and DH with very long hours - I do everything). He came home from the hospital on the Monday and I went in Thursday night with a really bad gall bladder attack and had my gall bladder out the next day. OK, so I was incoherent with pain and could only utter single words, but once they got the morphine into me it was almost worth the pain - I slept the entire day in the hospital while I waited for the op, then the entire night afterwards, came home the next day and went to bed at 8pm. I look back ever so fondly on those three days now!

curiousuze Fri 14-Dec-12 03:35:45

Oh now what you need is your appendix out - that's been my favourite illness so far.

I used to daydream about getting knocked down by a car a little bit on the way to work, when I really hated my old job. Just a little bit.

Jacksmania Fri 14-Dec-12 05:15:33

Oh god YANBU. Me too. The best part about having the fucking shingles was the time off work and the meager few days I got to spend wrapped in a blanket on the sofa.
The worst part was having to get up again and go back to work because no longer contagious but fighting post-viral fatigue.

I am so tired.

echt Fri 14-Dec-12 05:39:24

As soon as I saw this thread title, I knew it would be a teacher.

When I was working in the UK, a number of teachers I knew expressed this fantasy, it bordered on the wish to self-harm; turn off the road, biff a tree a bit. I'm not saying the OP's suggesting this, but it's painful to think people would want to be ill, yet are dutifully turning up every day. I don't blame them, but am sad.

Sorry for your situation too, vicar, what a workload. sad

blackeyedsusan England Fri 14-Dec-12 05:44:35

2 weeks off for christmas shock

since when?

i had a few days off with a sprained ankkle that was too painful to walk on.. now that was good...

LtXmasEve Fri 14-Dec-12 06:10:41

I've got a friend who has just had to have a month off work with an inner ear infection. Every time she stood up she felt sick and fell over. A month lying down on the sofa...now there's a break!

So sorry Larks and Vicar, I do hope things pick up for you.

MammaTJ Fri 14-Dec-12 06:16:20

I didn't know you were a teacher from the title, but I did know you were a mum of young children working full time.

We all feel like that from time to time.

I will advise caution. I used to blithely wish for boredom as a break. I broke my ankle in three places. I had more than my share of boredom then.

Your children will grow up, it will get easier.

Vicar, I have seen you give great advice on here, I am sorry you are struggling.

BookieMonster Fri 14-Dec-12 06:19:04

OP and Vicar, I hope you feel happier soon.
I think everyone should get a free pass for a mental health weekend each year, to be taken at a time of your choosing. No interruptions, no work, just two days of complete rest, peace and quiet. When I am Queen, it will be the first thing I decree!!

BikeRunSki Brazil Fri 14-Dec-12 06:25:02

OP, I am so with you! I have a 4 yo and 13 month old and am exhausted and i'm not even back at work yet. I am dreading 2 Jan when I do.

BikeRunSki Brazil Fri 14-Dec-12 06:28:36

Forgot to say, DS had a big tantrum in changing rooms after his swimming lesson earlier this week. At the end of my tether I said "Right, we are going home past the hospital and I am going to ask them to find anything wrong with me that will get me admitted."

KinkyDoritoWithJingleBellsOn Fri 14-Dec-12 06:33:30

FT teaching with a family is draining. I do it and I know exactly how you feel. What worries me is it seems to be getting tougher and tougher. Fingers crossed for that lottery win. grin

RubyGates Fri 14-Dec-12 06:36:37

I have been fantasising about this for years. I got to the point where even walking out in front of a bus looked like a reasonable option. I KNOW it it isn't, but the relentlessness of it all with never a moment to myself has slowly worn away all reason.

I knew I wasn't alone because my colleague who has almost sole care of an extremely difficult mother feels the same way.

It's relieving to know we're not the only ones who think this way.

TeeElfOnTeeShelf Fri 14-Dec-12 06:40:39

It's actually a sign of depression and all of you may be suffering from SAD. Which means there's something you can do about it.

Get a lamp, take a walk on a sunny day, get some Vitamin D.

Might help, can't hurt!

RubyGates Fri 14-Dec-12 06:45:59

I know mines' not SAD. It was a year round thing. It was complete and utter exhaustion with no end in site, a lack of money, the constant struggle to find inventive ways to make ends meet, and no family or friends to babysit EVER.

Thank you Tee for the suggestion, but a lamp and some vitamins isn't going to help me.

TeeElfOnTeeShelf Fri 14-Dec-12 06:53:02

And that really sounds like depression, Ruby. Talk to a GP. Seriously, there is help to stop feeling like that even if life is depressing.

EuphemiaInExcelsis Fri 14-Dec-12 06:57:18

I'm praying for snow for the last week of term, just bad enough to shut the place. smile

Our pupils haven't been out to play for two weeks owing to an icy playground, and between that and Christmas they are utterly bonkers.

Let it snow, let it snow, let it snow!

smile

RubyGates Fri 14-Dec-12 07:08:18

What would he do Tee ? Organise a babysitter? I don't think so. It's NOT depression, not in a clinical sense. It's the normal reaction to being under relentless pressure with no release valve.

I wouldn't take anti-depressents, because I don't need to be in a fog all day, I need to be able to function properly to cope in our situation. And guess what... we no longer have a GP because he was struck off for terrorist activities, and all the local lists are so over-subscribed that we can't find another.

I appreciate your concern, but unless there is PRACTICAl change to our situation a GP is not going to be able to wave a magic wand and make it better.

noblegiraffe Fri 14-Dec-12 07:26:00

It's a bloody long term again, and a dark, cold and miserable one.

There have been a few days this term when I've felt really rough and not like going in, but the horror of having to set cover work was enough to force me into work.

SuffolkNWhat Fri 14-Dec-12 08:06:42

Another teacher who has felt this way.

I know exactly where on my route to work, after dropping DD in nursery, that I could crash my car without causing damage to anyone but myself sad

Luckily I realised this was a major red flag that my depression had returned and I was back on the tablets the next day.

Put me in front of a class and I love my job, add on all the other pressures and a broken leg seems very appealing indeed.

valiumredhead Fri 14-Dec-12 08:09:38

YABU

bigkidsdidit Fri 14-Dec-12 08:10:20

I had an ovarian cyst out last year, three days in hospital. It was bliss grin

YABU.

However a non-painful, non-serious, minor disease that confines the patient to bed for a week, in a quiet room, alobe, sounds very appealing.

In reality I'd be bored and lonely after 4 hours.

Nearly the end of term. 2 weeks off work sounds bliss.

Some of us have to work christmas day and all through the 'holiday period'. Nights.

ChristmasJubilee Fri 14-Dec-12 08:19:49

I'm not a teacher but a nurse in charge of a department and I completely get where you are coming from. I feel everyone gets short changed as there's just not enough of me to do everything that needs to be done. I was shocked at myself the other day when I fleetingly thought how much easier my life would be if I hadn't had ds3. sad

I am now thinking about trying to change my workload permenantly as I can't go on like this. If I find an answer I'll let you know.

KenDoddsDadsDog Chile Fri 14-Dec-12 08:20:26

Would love to be heading for two weeks off. Instead it's stress, double stress and work on top.

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