Locked out of DH's garage

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Am silently fuming as DH has converted our garage into his 'studio' and refuses to give me a key. It has been about a year now and I didn't think much of it first, we agreed it was his place to work, is filled with his things and I had no desire to go in there.
However it has been dawning on me that I don't like being locked out of part of my house. There have been occasions when I wanted to access things (like blank DVDs or paint brushes) and couldn't get them.

I do go in there with him but I have asked for a key, several times over the last few months and he says I don't need one, it is just his stuff, he doesn't want me in there going through things etc.

If he had just given me one first I would have no interest but now it has become this big issue and his refusal is making me want to go through it (which is not like me, I know he has porn there & I don't mind, but he knows I know this so must be something else right?)

So AIBU to want a key, surely if he had nothing to hide he would just give me one?

SchroSawMummyRidingSantaClaus Sun 18-Nov-12 22:47:36

Bed No, not just you. I immediately thought of this guy.

grin confused

He is fine with me being in there with him, we sit & watch movies sometimes in there. I can't really open drawers etc as it is all work stuff and I can't think of any excuse to do that!

He does lock the door when we leave & never gives me the key even to borrow.

I thought about sneaking it while he slept but he has a security camera (a few recent break ins down the road prompted that instillation) not sure if it is actually on or not.

I just cannot think of why he doesn't let me in there. We get on great otherwise, no trust issues (that I know of). Whenever I ask for a key he just turns it around and makes me sound weird for wanting one.

Glad I am not being unreasonable!

SchroSawMummyRidingSantaClaus Sun 18-Nov-12 22:48:31

A security camera!?

<faints>

BabylonPI Sun 18-Nov-12 22:48:52

Have you ever read the Martina Cole book featuring a man called George Markham?

His shed was his own space and his wife wasn't allowed in there........

terribly unhelpful, I know

AnyFucker Sun 18-Nov-12 22:49:19

Are you going to do anything about this ?

or simply whip us all up into a frenzy of Dexter-based suspicion and then piss off ?

This is quite weird, isn't it?

Does he get angry when you push him on it?

I don't know about sneaking in. I got chills thinking you'd be having a look around and suddenly he'd appear in the doorway! sad

MonthlyName Sun 18-Nov-12 22:49:43

op could you text/let someone know in RL just in case something happens because its all so anonymous here? Even if you feel stupid doing it, if someone knows and something happens you can tell him other people know

AnyFucker Sun 18-Nov-12 22:49:53

the drip feeding is starting to grate a bit too

SchroSawMummyRidingSantaClaus Sun 18-Nov-12 22:50:00

Agree with AF.

This is the type of thread that will definitely keep me up all night wondering.

BabylonPI Sun 18-Nov-12 22:50:25

A security camera??? Really?

HokeyCokeyPigInAPokey Sun 18-Nov-12 22:50:32

Sorry op, a camera and you don't even know if it's on?!

It's all getting a bit beyond bizzare now!

aimingtobeaperfectionist Sun 18-Nov-12 22:50:44

Privacy is locking the bathroom door to have a shit.
Locking you out constantly and refusing you access and keeping the key on him at all times is NOT normal.
I'm quite concerned as you should be.

PelvicFloorClenchReminder Sun 18-Nov-12 22:50:51

Uncle Quentin never locked Aunt Fanny out. And he did really private secret stuff.

GhoulWithADragonTattoo Sun 18-Nov-12 22:50:54

bedmonster - no your not. Something is definitely being hidden here. It might be money or drugs rather than bodies but something is odd.

Cahoots Sun 18-Nov-12 22:51:32

It is a bit wierd. hmm

scrumpkin Sun 18-Nov-12 22:51:39

This is really dodgy and I can't think of any innocent reason he wouldn't 'let' you go in. Like you actually need his permission.....

RainbowsFriend Sun 18-Nov-12 22:51:43

I was thinking drugs as well

MonthlyName Sun 18-Nov-12 22:52:08

Not really seeing this thread as drip feeding?! Just a conversation

GrimAndHumourless Sun 18-Nov-12 22:52:34

um we need to know what is his work

if he's a chippie or an author, meh about not going in the drawers

if he's an undertaker or PI then uh-oh

MonthlyName Sun 18-Nov-12 22:53:21

Sorry, moved on a bit from AF comment

bedmonster Sun 18-Nov-12 22:53:25

Bloody hell schro!
Op, if he was asleep he his security camera wouldn't wake him up would it? The only way he'd know was if he looked back through the footage (if its that kind of camera), and the only reason he would do that routinely without suspicion would be paranoia.

Babylon tell me more about this book? What happened?!

apostropheuse Sun 18-Nov-12 22:54:45

This isn't at all normal, right.

It's really quite creepy and I would be a little frightened personally. Goodness only knows what he has hidden in there. You know that he has porn so he's not hiding that from you. However, and I almost hate to say this out loud, but do you know what type of porn he has? Could he be hiding something like that? It sounds more feasible than dead bodies! What about some other illegal thing - like drugs or something?

I am probably way off the mark, but alarm bells are ringing. It does sound like he's got something to hide.

I think you need to get in there, safely of course, and see what's going on.

It's your house, you should have access to all the rooms in it.

BabylonPI Sun 18-Nov-12 22:55:18

I think it's called The Ladykillers wink

Bloody good read!!

bedmonster Sun 18-Nov-12 22:55:36

Am scaring myself now. Should really hide this thread.

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