Am silently fuming as DH has converted our garage into his 'studio' and refuses to give me a key. It has been about a year now and I didn't think much of it first, we agreed it was his place to work, is filled with his things and I had no desire to go in there.
However it has been dawning on me that I don't like being locked out of part of my house. There have been occasions when I wanted to access things (like blank DVDs or paint brushes) and couldn't get them.
I do go in there with him but I have asked for a key, several times over the last few months and he says I don't need one, it is just his stuff, he doesn't want me in there going through things etc.
If he had just given me one first I would have no interest but now it has become this big issue and his refusal is making me want to go through it (which is not like me, I know he has porn there & I don't mind, but he knows I know this so must be something else right?)
So AIBU to want a key, surely if he had nothing to hide he would just give me one?
ComposHat
Tue 19-Feb-13 01:27:02
Odd. Has he renamed it the Fred West suite?
this is so 
what has he done to you to make you so afraid of standing up to him? not going to go over it all again. i'm sure you've read all the comments OP. i just hope you can find that courage somewhere to stand up for yourself. i hope you really are ok.
wintersweet
Tue 19-Feb-13 05:48:41
I'd change the lock move all his stuff out put mine in there and see what he thinks of it!
bugsyburge
Tue 19-Feb-13 16:10:18
Ah spent a good portion of time reading this thread this morning to come to the conclusion that we are still non the wiser!!!
Pigsmummy
Tue 19-Feb-13 18:38:52
I hope that the op is ok and I did think about this the other day.
beeny
Sat 23-Mar-13 20:26:00
I would like to know what happened
DoJo
Sat 23-Mar-13 22:28:19
Me too, although you posting that made me think there was an update from the OP so now I'm all curious again!
CouthySaysEatChoccyEggs
Sat 23-Mar-13 22:46:39
My first thought was sone sort of illegal porn OR evidence on his computer of him being unfaithful, like profiles on dating sites etc. one way not to be found out - do it all from a computer that your wife has no access to because it's in a locked room...
Thought this was an update
EggyFucker
Sat 23-Mar-13 22:51:08
Got my hopes up...to have them dashed
Bugger
peppapigmustdie
Sat 23-Mar-13 22:52:45
Thought this was an update too!
This thread was mentioned on another thread the other day.
Hope you are ok op
fuckwittery
Sat 23-Mar-13 23:01:37
just wading into the legalities argument.
Hacking into his computer, reading documents in desk drawers would be an actionable breach of privacy, confidence exists between husband and wife
[[Imerman v Imerman [2010] EWCA Civ 908 http://www.familylawweek.co.uk/site.aspx?i=ed62973]]
Gaining access into a locked room in your jointly owned house (and not reading his personal papers) would not be wrongful.
EggyFucker
Sat 23-Mar-13 23:02:10
******zombie thread*********
fuckwittery
Sat 23-Mar-13 23:02:27
fuckwittery
Sat 23-Mar-13 23:04:03
ah, just seen it's an old(ish) thread - not that old though - OP, how are you?
CouthySaysEatChoccyEggs
Sat 23-Mar-13 23:04:55
Fuck that. Nobody would be locking me out of ANY part of my home. And if they did - I'd be fucking breaking in (can it even be called 'breaking in' when it's your own home?!) there and then.
It's odd, seriously ODD.
