To inform the baggy combat wearing, makeup free and greasy ponytail club

(187 Posts)
LolaDontCryOverSlitThroats Sat 17-Nov-12 17:20:49

. . .who seem to think they are superior parents because of these attributions that they are in no way any better at parenting then i am with my make up on curled hair, slightly too tight jeans and a smile.

And announce that they probably do spend more time thinking about the way they look then putting ''that energy into playing with my children'' than they seem to think.

This is not a thread moaning about the people who dare to wear comfortable clothes and leave the house (i do too occasionally), or who are confident enough to go out without make up on because it matters not too them, but instead about those who declare it is ''because they are to busy to care and would rather play with the kids'' Passive aggressively or maybe those who roll there eyes and nudge there partner in there ribs with gusto if they see someone with a child in tow who fancied wearing high heels to Nandos.

anyone know what this is about?, doesn't the whole ''i'm so relaxed that i don't need to care what people think of me'' end up lost in the convincing everyone that they are doing there kids a favour by not wearing perfume and makeup.

Or is DS going to grow up sideways because of me for spending an extra ten minutes in the bedroom before DP goes to work? grin

nkf Sat 17-Nov-12 17:21:57

I don't know what you are talking about but it was an interesting thread title. E

LolaDontCryOverSlitThroats Sat 17-Nov-12 17:23:47

grin thank you, i rather like it

specialsubject Sat 17-Nov-12 17:23:58

the 'lady' does protest too much...

I don't wear makeup. If you want to, go ahead. I don't see what difference it makes to parenting, although I hope people don't bring up kids to think that it is a crime or lazy to go out without makeup.

I do, however, know the difference between 'there' and 'their'

Sparklingbrook Sat 17-Nov-12 17:25:31

Can you put it in a nutshell for me? I am a bit confused. grin

SomersetONeil Sat 17-Nov-12 17:26:30

<meh> I'm of the make-an-effort brigade - I can't say I've ever encountered, or even noticed, the type of person you're referring to.

RevoltingPeasant Sat 17-Nov-12 17:26:34

Erm, maybe they just don't care about they way they look....? confused

Today I went swimming and have spent the day by myself in the office, getting on with stuff. I am wearing 5yo trainers, jeans where the flies don't button up properly, and a tshirt I have owned since I was about 22.

Some days I wear Lancome and spend 25 minutes blow-drying my hair.

Wtf cares?

ChippyMinton Sat 17-Nov-12 17:27:15

What are you on about?

Have you been judged?

BloominMarvellous Sat 17-Nov-12 17:27:52

Did you mean to insult people don't curl their hair or wear make up on a daily basis? You sound just a judgy about people who don't wear makeup and perfume.

Are you referring to somebody actually saying something to you?

ChaoticismyLife Sat 17-Nov-12 17:29:16

I think you worry way too much about what othe

lifeintheolddogyet Sat 17-Nov-12 17:29:20

I've never met someone like that either. Why dwell on it if you have?

germyrabbit Sat 17-Nov-12 17:30:36

do you mingle with new age traveller parents?

OhPantsAllTheGoodNicksAreInUse Sat 17-Nov-12 17:30:50

Is combats, greasy hair tied back and make-up okay? See I have to do this to walk my dog, I could wear no make-up but I wouldn't like to scare everyone.

I also know the difference between their and there but get mixed up with now, know, diary, dairy and brain and brian. confused

ChaoticismyLife Sat 17-Nov-12 17:31:47

Fuck posted too soon blush sorry on tablet

other people may be thinking

SomersetONeil Sat 17-Nov-12 17:32:14

I'm sure there are some people out there who are a bit holier-than-thou, but what does it matter to you, really?

Anyone who indulges in competitive parenting is a twat, regardless of the greasiness of their hair.

thebody Sat 17-Nov-12 17:34:07

If makeup didn't exist I wouldn't go out to be honest.

The one and only time I couldn't be arsed was after a weekend camping.

God it was awful, I lost the will to apply mascara. Seriously it was fucking awful.

However I don't care a crap if someone else doesn't bother.

StrawberriesTasteLikeLipsDo Sat 17-Nov-12 17:34:13

Sometimes you cant win..
Depends when and which day you see me as to how I look ...Weekends I dont tend to do lots, and like to layyyze in my pjs so look an absolute mess.

Days when I go out I do put eyeshadow liner and mascara on - they make me feel better about myself and make my eyes still visible behind my glasses. However if I've been too tired or during periods of down feeling I've not bothered. My hair depends which day it is... It generally looks better on days I've washed it as it curls attractively by itself. Very rarely do I bother to straighten it as standing knackers me atm (heavily pg)

On occassions where I've put full slap on and straightened my hair ive had it said that I look like snow white both as a positive and negative!

Clothes wise, I try to look presentable but comfort trumps that, you wouldnt catch me in tight anything, id rather buy a larger size n be comfy!

LolaDontCryOverSlitThroats Sat 17-Nov-12 17:34:40

good on you special , truly i am happy for you. If you like you can follow me on all threads i post and correct my grammar, until you feel better about yourself.

I am sorry for the ramble that was a very disjointed post wasn't it? smile

basically, I tend to encounter sometimes on here and sometimes in real life the type of person who seems eager to say just how pathetic they find it that women spend so much time on their appearance and should spend that time instead on their children, and how they would rather play with their children or read to them than do that silly stuff.

Inferring that you can't do both therefore they are better.

It is not the actual wearing of the clothes of either type just the connection between that and parenting.

StrawberriesTasteLikeLipsDo Sat 17-Nov-12 17:36:25

Although all of that ramble said no one has ever related my looks to my parenting

Unacceptable Sat 17-Nov-12 17:38:06

OP I've heard some parents bad mouthing a mum at our school who is always immaculately turned out. She's often last in the gates and there are comments about kids having to suffer for her vanity hmm and they themselves would rather get DC to school on time than worry abut how they look. I think that's a bit mean and have made moves towards her (smiles, morning greeting, compliments on shoes/hair etc)

I'm guessing you've overheard some mean comments like these or worse had this PA crap spouted at you?

Each to their own. I'm not a make up fan usually and never do anything other than shove hair into a pony but your style or my lack of it can't really have much bearing on our parenting skills can it!

I dont wear makeup because I dont see why I should hide my real face - I never have, my mother didnt and I hope my daughters will see why I dont. Not sure how I fit in your rant!

seeker Sat 17-Nov-12 17:38:28

Another one of those threads which convince me that I live in another universe. And use q different mumsnet- I have nevr ever seen anyone posting anything like the sentiments you express.

Chandon Sat 17-Nov-12 17:39:08

I have heard about this n MN but never encountered it in real life.

Maybe this exists just in anxious peep's imagination?

LolaDontCryOverSlitThroats Sat 17-Nov-12 17:39:27

I am mixing my words oh dear, I mean basically what you have all said.

Including that i care too much what people thinking.

It bothers me in the sense that you could moan about it if it was the other way around though, ''Should io be judged for not washing my hair and wearing combats?'' should get a no and so should ''should i be judged for wearing makeup and curly hair''

I didn't mean to insult.

3b1g Sat 17-Nov-12 17:39:31

My hair is clean. I don't wear make-up because I don't like the way it feels. I wear comfortable clothes because my comfort is more important to me than the way I look. I'm sure I save several minutes a day by not putting on make-up or straightening my hair, but I can assure you that I spend those extra minutes in bed or on MN, not doing worthy activities with my children. I don't make assumptions about the well-groomed, so don't presume that you know everything about me just because I look different to you.

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