I take my dc, aged 4.4 and 23 months to an activity in which they have separate classes - the one for the eldest takes place after the younger one's lesson and parents have to leave the room so ds2 and I have 45 minutes to kill in a hall outside the classroom each week. I always take toys and snacks to occupy him, though he prefers to run around shouting, make himself dizzy, try and climb in the bin etc.
This week there was another family who also had dc of different ages attending the two classes - usually we are the only ones- and they had twins of a similar age to ds2 to wait with while their elder dd had her class.
Soon after the second class started I was busy following ds2 around the hall when I noticed the twins had got hold of ds1's backpack full of toys he occupies himself with while ds2 has his lesson. They were taking stuff out and playing with it. The mother was texting or gaming on her phone, she told them to stop, they didn't, she carried on with her phone activities. I was not overly concerned but just a bit worried that something would get lost and did think it a bit odd that she didn't do more to stop them - if my dc took another child's toys I would tell them to put it back until I was sure the other child was happy to share. I was more than happy for them to play with the toys btw, but thought it odd she let them help themselves while I was across the other side of the (large) room.
I made my way back to the seating area where the twins were playing with several of our toys, and the other mother said, "Sorry, I forgot to bring them any toys!" I said, "Don't be silly, it's fine," and she smiled and went back to her phone.
For the next 30 minutes or so I played with/read to all three dc while she played with her phone. She was sitting about 4 chairs away from us. At no point did she interact with me or her dc until the older dc came out. Her dc were clearly attracted to me, ds2 and our toys and books and didn't really go to her except to wander over a couple of times but they came straight back as she pretty much ignored them when they did this.
Now, it was fine, her dc were lovely, ds2 was entertained by them so I was saved from chasing him around so much and they helped me pack the toys away when I asked them to with no complaints. Great - I even quite enjoyed it. But I did think it very odd the way she ignored them, and me, like that. I feel I basically provided her with 30 minutes free childcare didn't I? Or AIBU to feel that way?
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To think it's odd to ignore your children for 30mins while a stranger entertains them
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lecce · 02/07/2011 20:57
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