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To think about leaving my 15 year old home alone?

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AllDirections Sat 14-May-11 09:42:41

DD1 is 15 later this year and I want to take DD2 away for 2 nights on her own. DD3 will be staying with friends but DD1 doesn't want to.

It would be at the weekend so no school to think about and I would obviously leave her food and money. My friend (who is having DD3) and my next door neighbour would both be around if she needed anything. DD1 is very self sufficient, mature and responsible. In reality she would probably have her friend sleep over and the friend's parents would be checking up on them. I would only be 2-3 hours away.

Last year I took both DD1 and DD3 away for a couple of days on their own and DD2 is asking when I can take her away. I want to take her but is leaving DD1 alone at home a sensible option?

Flicktheswitch Tue 14-May-13 15:47:56

I was on my own often at 15 and didn't arrange parties etc. I respected my parents and their house - only you know whether she is responsible enough.
I disagree with the "neglect" comment. I left home at 16 to go to uni and coped fine...

mrsjay Tue 14-May-13 15:55:33

I wouldn't leave my 15 yr old on her own she would hate it but I think it is up to you personally id ask somebody to look after you r 14 yrold for you so you now they are ok

marciaoverstrand Tue 14-May-13 16:16:17

We left dd for one night when she was 15, she decided to try and reverse dh work van off our drive and smashed into the neighbours fenceangry just missing their hot tub.
Luckily they were very nice people, she paid for it to be fixed but I still remind her of this and she's 24 now!
Dd2 is v sensible but its friends of friends who might turn up you can't trust.

FreckledLeopard Tue 14-May-13 16:20:36

Why has a two year old zombie thread been dragged up confused?

quoteunquote Tue 14-May-13 18:54:23

Check your insurance is up to date, install cctv/hidden cameras and treat it as a test.

It depends on the individual, complete fine if they are up to it.

If they have instant backup available, then they should be fine.

quoteunquote Tue 14-May-13 18:57:45

OH DO FUCK OFF< ZOMBIE THREAD.

notquiteruralbliss any explanation ?

why are so many zombie threads back in active convos???

Pandemoniaa Tue 14-May-13 19:06:31

At least the OP's DD is nearly 17 now. Saves the need to provide an exact answer.

smile

Yawn4theday Tue 14-May-13 19:16:41

Agree Dan, might sound fun to a 15 year old but are you sure she wouldn't freak out being alone all night.

If a friend stays over, it's only a step away from a another and another and - unintentional chaos.

Jengnr Tue 14-May-13 19:18:04

She will get pissed. No doubt about it.

infamouspoo Tue 14-May-13 19:18:49

15 is fine. In ye olden dayes I was babysitting toddlers till 2 or 3am from aged 13 for pocket money. Couple of nights in your own home should be fine.
In a years time she could leave home if she wanted.

everlong Tue 14-May-13 19:21:25

How odd. Did you look for a thread dated 14th May that was somehow apt to you?

People who resurrect zombie threads without any explanation intrigue me.

quoteunquote Tue 14-May-13 19:30:51
DrCoconut Tue 14-May-13 19:55:41

I was not allowed to stay overnight without an adult until I was 18. DS1 has SN so is not up for staying at night yet, though he will stay in the day. He is 14.

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