I have raised my children almost completely alone ( my eldest is 12 ). Their father has worked or lived over seas for 6 years now and we lived apart almost the entire 10 yrs we were married. We have only been separated/divorced for 2yrs now. He hasn't seen them in a year and half, and now that he has shown up with a new wife and child, expects me to let him take them without even meeting his wife. I don't expect to be friends, I just want to have some idea of who is taking care of my children.
I don't trust him with the children, he has made some extremely poor decisions while caring for them in the past, and am just looking for something to reassure me they will be ok while in their care. Problem is she is refusing. To the point where he is saying he won't take them if it's required to meet her. A day trip is fine, but over night? No way! They have only met her once, yesterday!
She came into his life before we were even separated, and his sister ( who I have helped raise since she was 7, now 21 ) is very angry. While the new wife was staying at his parents, his sister was very vocal about how she felt. So apparently the new wife now feels bad about what she did, and won't face me. I, however, am no longer angry. I have moved on and am happy with my life. My concern is purely for my children. I have tried to convey this to my ex, but he won't let me contact her to try and convince her.
I don't want to keep my children from their father, especially since he goes back overseas in 2 weeks, but don't feel comfortable letting them stay with an adult I don't know. (this goes for ALL adults, not just her ) What do I do?
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mothrhen03 · 15/04/2011 17:07
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