To think the word 'frape' is just awful

[Okonomiyaki]

First off, apologies if everyone already knows this word, I'm a bit of a latecomer to facebook.

I saw the status update of some random after a mutual friend had commented on it. Won't go into what the update said as that's a whole thread a in itself but the poster came back to comment on his update a few minutes later saying he had been 'fraped', ie that someone had written a joke update when he'd left his account logged in.

AIBU to think this is an awful word and to wonder why the hell anyone in their right mind would use it?

[sparkle12mar08]

It disgusts me too, and I have one or two younger relatives that have used it. I pulled them up on it the first time I saw it and they haven't used it since thankfully. Well, not that I've seen anyway.

[YourCallIsImportant]

I agree, it's awful.

[SwearyMary]

Its a word used in jest when some lovely friend or relative has posted something on your fb profile. Usually whilst you stayed logged on and walked away from the computer (or whatever device you are using). Frape is inoffensive., IMO.

Its not a real word. Mind you neither is twunt or wunk but I quite like both of those.

YABU.

[Okonomiyaki]

Even though it's a contraction of facebook rape?!

[jazz412]

it's not particularly nice considering the basis of the word BUT words like that have only become popular because of people also using things like "yawn rape" (when someone yawns another person sticks a finger in their mouth and shouts it - popularised by Russell Howard) I think the word has become desensitised and people don't really think about the implications of it. I don't think it's meant to be offensive but just a short way of saying "someone wrote on my facebook when I left it logged on" - doesn't make it right though!

[SwearyMary]

You cannot be "raped" on fb because rape is a physical action. I guess thats why I don't find it offensive. Jazz you are quite right.
Its interesting how our thoughts and feelings differ on subjects like this. I don't actually find any written words offensive.

[Okonomiyaki]

Jazz, I agree that people use it unthinkingly...that's the problem!

[catinboots]

I don't like it at all

[Meglet]

yanbu. Don't like it.

[CheeseEnforcementAgency]

YANBU

[Jude89]

Well, a non-consensual change to a facebook profile can be quite upsetting too (ok, so Not even on the actual rape scale...)

(incidentally a few years ago I was invited to a "Vampire themed 3some" by an acquaintance by facebook message, I was a little by the whole idea...
a few minutes later I got another message that said
"I just sent that to everyone didn't I?" About an hour later the guy put a status of "For those of you who said you were interested, Thanks, but I am not hosting a vampire 3some." It turns out that it was an "epic facebook rape")

I'm of a mixed mind about it, it is trivialising what is a very serious subject. On the other hand it is making baby steps towards making what is such a taboo topic able to be talked about without the usual complete discomfort that mentioning the "R" word normally causes.

(you can also get heat rape; when someone with cold hands puts them on your back to warm them up)

[MrsJamin]

YANBU. I hate it. I think the next time I see it I will have a go at them as it trivialises rape.

[snapdragonss]

YANBU

I can't stand the craze for calling a bad birth experience "birth rape" either.

[SwearyMary]

I have never heard of 'birth rape'. What an odd way to describe giving birth. I had an awful experience but it wouldn't cross my mind to use that term. Its not offensive as its not real but it is a very strange term to use.

[mayorquimby]

Doesn't bother me in the slightest, although I can see why others might dislike it.

[CrapBag]

YANBU.

I really hate this term.

[nethunsreject]

Yanbu

[oxfordlass]

yanbu. I was thinking the same this morning when I saw this term used on a friend's status update.

[TitsalinaBumSquash]

I'm not bothered by it, I have more important things to get my knickers n a twist about.

[InPraiseOfBacchus]

I don't like it necessarily, but I think anyone who 'feels offended' or 'thinks it's dreadful' is being sanctimonious.

"Rape", until very recently, has always meant 'theft' rather than 'sexual assault' anyway. Nothing to get all saintly about.

[HipHopopotomus]

I read frappe! (Frozen coffee drink). I've never heard of frape but it is abit tasteless & I wouldn't use it, however the word rape has lots of meanings.

There is an oil/plant called rape too - shortly swathes of the English countryside will be covered with rape.

[IHateLivingHere]

It's just a word! It has no bearing on the importance of the word rape.

Some of you need to get a life, really!!

[allsquareknickersnofurcoat]

Just a word, YABU, language evoles, etc etc

[JoanofArgos]

YANBU, it is horrid. I sat in the car giving a lift to a child recently who kept saying 'my sisters keep frapiing me', and it was icky.