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AIBU?

in thinking calling vagina tearing, "tearing" is ridiculous, when really vaginally ripping would seem more accurate

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carriedababi · 15/02/2011 11:11

ripping or being pulled apart would probably seem a more realistic term in some cases

not saying ripping will ever catch on, i sure it won't

but the term tearing, make it sound like a little paper cut.

i had 4th degree "tears" with dd
repair op and all that
and i find alot of peoplesay oh i had a bit of tearing too, when perhaps they don't realise what 4th degreee "tear" is

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cornsilk · 15/02/2011 11:13

I know- if men had babies it would be vagina shredding

carriedababi · 15/02/2011 11:14

lol!

you ok corny?

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cornsilk · 15/02/2011 11:15

yeah - are you carrie? Obsessing over fanjos again I see

FurCoatNoNickname · 15/02/2011 11:15

feel a bit wobbly now

HecateQueenOfWitches · 15/02/2011 11:16

it may be more accurate to call it ripping, but it will scare the shit out of first time mums.

Reading about 'tears' is bad enough.

reading about your vagina ripping?

no.

Anyone who has suffered it knows exactly what it is. Telling a pregnant woman about the possibility of her vagina ripping in two is just going to terrify her. And won't actually help her anyway. If you are going to tear, you tear. Knowing it's actually ripping your flesh open won't change that.

Well, it will.

It'll probably reduce pregnancies

carriedababi · 15/02/2011 11:17

lol you know me! alway obsessing over fanjos!

i'm fine, dds at preschool so i'm chilling for a bit while dodging chores!

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carriedababi · 15/02/2011 11:20

actually personally i would have prefered to know before hand, forwarned is forarmed and all that, it would be less of a shock to deal with then, but everyone is probably very different about if they want to know everything or not

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peppapighastakenovermylife · 15/02/2011 11:20

I have my legs tightly crossed and I'm not planning any more babies!

Cleofartra · 15/02/2011 11:21

I think it's as justifiable as telling a woman who's expecting a c/s that the surgeon will 'slash her stomach open and wrestle her baby out'.

Tearing is exactly what happens to your perineum at birth.

Ripping to me suggests deliberate violence, rather than incidental damage to your body.

JenaiMarrHePlaysGuitar · 15/02/2011 11:24

Either just makes me ever grateful for my EMCS. I had a go at labour - it was OK I suppose but hurt like buggery (and I never even got to push). I suspect it's overrated tbh.

If I were to have another DC, I'd be looking forward to a nice, calm ELCS

carriedababi · 15/02/2011 11:27

you can tell i've just been watching obem.

i wonder if i stare at the washing long enough it willpack itself away!

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GypsyMoth · 15/02/2011 11:28

Not over rated at ALL ....... Why assume natural labour isn't calm!??!

StarlightPrincess · 15/02/2011 11:28

I totally agree JenaiMarr, and I had a nice, calm ELCS with DC2!

Cleofartra · 15/02/2011 11:28

Jenai - having given birth to an 11lb baby I can confirm that it is truly eye-watering. That said - the stinging bit only lasted a few minutes. Was pain free within an hour of birth. Honestly! (no stitches!)

carriedababi · 15/02/2011 11:32

corny, just need to make myself a ham sarnie now, did i tell you about my ham mistake?

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GypsyMoth · 15/02/2011 11:33

Same here cleo...... Well, I've had 5 dc all with no stitches and 'calm' labour, last one at home. Big babies .

Can be done, doesn't have to be horror stories

JenaiMarrHePlaysGuitar · 15/02/2011 11:34

Because, Tiffany, I didn't find it calm at all. Obviously different women have different labours, but after my experience I wouldn't bother trying for a VBAC.

carriedababi · 15/02/2011 11:38

of course not everyone "tears"

we all have different vaginas and some are more strechy than others

but some will sustain serious injuries

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JenaiMarrHePlaysGuitar · 15/02/2011 11:40

I I know it can be done. I'm a bit of those that have calm, vaginal deliveries. But I think I'd rather have a calm ELCS than a ravaged fanjo. I don't feel I've missed out, basically.

Ariesgirl · 15/02/2011 11:41

It always makes me shake my head in annoyed disbelief that animals give birth so easily compared to us. Do you see them with ripped vaginas? NO! Even giraffes and elephants FFS.

cornsilk · 15/02/2011 11:42

ham mistake? Is that possible?

JenaiMarrHePlaysGuitar · 15/02/2011 11:43

iirc it's because we're bipeds, Aries. The price we've paid for walking tall is stupidly difficult childbirth (and even those who've had easy births must admit - it's easier for cats).

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carriedababi · 15/02/2011 11:45

yes but then animals sdon't have heads the size of humans, and i know your think what about elephants but its all in portortion

human baby heads are huge for human vaginas so you can really compare humans to animals

although it would be quite cool of we laid eggs then had to sit on them to keep them warm till they hatch...

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Cleofartra · 15/02/2011 11:45

Elephants and giraffes also tend not to give birth in physiologically stupid positions, unlike most human beings.

You want to give birth without 'ripping'? Stay away from hospital!

The lowest rates of perineal damage for mothers having full term babies are among those who give birth unattended at home....... God knows what medical professionals are doing to make our fanjos tear so badly.....

GypsyMoth · 15/02/2011 11:46

I'll not be able to go to whipsnade without 'looking' now!!!

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