Like the poster who had to put up with men behaving unacceptably on a train yesterday, I have had a similar experience tonight at my local pool. I was with my teenage daughter and we were swimming quite late in the evening and, as we live in rural area, the pool was largely empty. A group of 5 men came in and began being rowdy and "larking" about and managing to "accidentally" get in our way. DD was intimidated at this point and wanted to get out but I told her not to be daft and we moved over to the edge of the pool and finished our swim.
When we got out, the men were already in the unisex changing rooms. As we walked round the corner one of them was wandering around naked and, when he saw us, laughed and placed his hands over his genitals. Cue raucous laughter from the other men and shouts of "Did she see your fucking length?!" DD and I ignored them, went into a cubicle and got changed, all the time listening to them loudly shouting and swearing about the lengths of their penises and what they could do with them. I was getting very angry and was going to confront them but DD, quite frightened, begged me not to.
Afterwards, I complained to the staff on reception that the behaviour and language had been appalling, that female customers who are in a vulnerable situation (naked and getting changed) should not be subjected to that and neither should the female member of staff who had been in the changing rooms at the time.
A male member of staff was very apologetic and said that had he known about it, he would have dealt with it, which I suppose is something.
I am so angry that men think it is OK and even funny to behave like this in public and to intimidate women. I am also angry that the female life guard did not immediately go and get security involved - I am not blaming her - it just makes me reallize how all women are socialsied to "accept" or "put up with" this kind of harrassment.
When we came out and got in the car, I had the rage so badly that I was shaking!!
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rosabud · 16/09/2014 22:11
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