Hi ladies
Well, as happy as I am to have discovered feminism and to be thinking about feminist issues more, I have found that all my posts on Mumsnet now seem to be feminism-based, and I suspect I'm becoming something of a bore to the rest of MN .
What worries me most is turning into one of the feminists who used to put me off identifying more closely with feminism, the shouty ones who tell you you're wrong and ignorant if you don't believe what they do.
And it's very hard, when you see something so clearly as sexist and oppressive while other women don't, not to shout at them and ask why they can't bloody well see what's before their eyes!!
Like the rash of threads about Mrs/Miss/Ms there have been lately. That's a subject I've always felt very strongly about, even before my recent feminist reawakening. I can see why some women blindly follow the social tradition to change their title to Mrs when they get married. But I cannot see how any woman can seriously examine the issue, think hard about what being called Mrs really means for women, and then happily go on being a Mrs anyway. I just can't.
So on those threads, I can feel myself getting little shouty, although I know I won't win anyone over that way.
On the other hand, if I encountered someone who felt very strongly that women should wear trousers and never wear make-up, I'd disagree strongly and say it doesn't make me less of a feminist if I occasionally want to look pretty. But a very militant extreme feminist might disagree - because although I personally am not oppressed enough to feel that a woman's look are so important that I can't go out without my 'face' on, other women are. So all make-up is bad to this fictional other feminist.
Extreme example but I hope you know what I mean.
So if women are saying that they personally are not oppressed and de-valued by being their DH's 'property' by calling themselves Mrs, even though it perpetuates ways to keep women subservient, should I accept that and not be endlessly frustrated with them?
I'm rambling. I hope someone can figure out what I mean.
I think what I'm trying to ask is, am I wrong to get so frustrated by women who happily live with sexist societal norms, because another feminist who has reached a 'higher level of enlightenment' might see me in just the same light?
At what point do you draw the line in trying to educate? Just make your point once and hope it sinks in? Keep debating? Get drawn into an argument about how women are their own worse enemies?
Is it something I'm likely to get better at with experience?
My heartfelt congratulations to anyone who can figure out what I'm trying to say here. It sounded much clearer in my head!
Feminism: Sex and gender discussions
Balancing educating others with being a shouty feminist....
AnnieLobeseder · 03/05/2011 22:57
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