Maybe we should start an ongoing support thread for parents of 12-15 yo girls? An ongoing thing like they have for other stuff...?
Anyway, aside from the moods and the tantrums and the 'I hate you' etc, the specific problem at the moment is this - DD stays late at school 2 days a week for sports. When she stays late, it means I stay late at work until it's time to collect her and her younger brother has to hang around in the library until she is ready. I don't really mind, except that she is never ready at the agreed time and she is just beginning to take the piss. She wants to stay even later to hang out and supposedly do homework with her friends before coming home. But that means that DS & I also have to wait around for her instead of being at home relaxing or making dinner like I want to be.
If she finishes at 4:15, she wants to be collected at 5. I tell her 4:30 is the latest but she still doesn't turn up until 4:50. There's always some excuse - I had to go back for my bag, I coudln't find my glasses, I had to go to the loo and the nearest ones were closed so I had to walk all the way to the science block etc, etc. I end up sitting around in my car for 20 or 30 minutes every time adn I feel like such a mug.
Her dad & I aren't together anymore and getting help from him is like asking a hive of angry bees to help you get some honey - you might get what you're after but always at a price. I try to discipline her when we get home (if she's 15 minutes late then that's 15 minutes off her bedtime or 1/2 hour less of telly). But when she's in one of her 'moods' nothing i say makes the slightest bit of difference. If I try and take her phone or tablet off her she will literally fight & punch me to get it back. Unless she has a party or something coming up that I can refuse to drive her to, nothing seems to matter to her.
How do I put a stop to this without ending up in a battle or letting her walk all over me?
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KidsDontThinkImCool · 18/03/2014 10:58
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