what does a teenager (16) take to a party these days?

(58 Posts)
equisiy Fri 22-Nov-13 16:04:24

cans of soft drink? Big bag of crisps? DS thinks nothing.

I get my 17 year old takes cider or beer, she would rather have a bottle of vodka to take, unfortunalty she can get served in most shops around here so if she has money she will get vodka. When she had her birthday recently people just bought what they wanted to drink and then they all chipped in for takeaway pizza at some point i had frozen pizza but they didn't want that. Some of them that dont drink bought coke/juice.

specialsubject Wed 11-Dec-13 21:24:51

general politeness is take what you are planning to drink. Your son should take his cans of toilet cleaner coke if that's what he likes. As he can't have alcohol he should watch no joker spikes his drink. And be prepared for a fairly dull time once the swilled booze kicks in with the others. Tell him to dress washable!

jellybeans Wed 11-Dec-13 11:21:32

IME alcohol is usually at involved at teen parties, often provided by the hosts parents. I often let DD (17) take 2 bottles of alcopop (from the age of 16) but the truth is they drink that AND whatever is there at the party. So I am not sure if providing them with it is a good thing or not. Even at Rangers camps (15 years upwards) we were told they would be drinking unless we wrote a letter of objection!!

hellsbells99 Wed 11-Dec-13 10:08:56

My DD (6th former) takes J2O or cans of diet coke!

Eviejaes85 Tue 10-Dec-13 22:53:25

Alcohol, my DD1 (13) goes to party's where people drink, she tells me everything. I never worry too much as i know she goes with a big group of friends, I drop her off and she always has her phone. I know I sound like a bad mother but, I don't buy it for her && I'm just glad she is honest with me.

Claybury Sat 23-Nov-13 17:33:41

The law is confusing.
It is illegal to buy alcohol for someone under 18. So parents/ adults can not supply under 18's with booze for parties because presumably they would be buying it for them.
But it is legal to have a drink with food in a pub at 16 with an adult buying it for you.
Never been in the situation myself so I don't know what I would do.

MoominsYonisAreScary Sat 23-Nov-13 15:20:54

In my day it was thunder bird and 20/20

Oodmaiden Sat 23-Nov-13 14:29:03

ExcuseTypos "I didn't ever buy alcohol for them ot take to parties. It's illegal for a start and I didn't want to add to all the bottles that would be there anyway."

Actually it's not. It is illegal for an under 18 to buy alcohol, but children over the age of 5 may legally drink alcohol in a private place, and 16 or 17 year olds can drink in a bar or restaurant, as long as an over 18 buys it and they are eating a meal.

noddyholder Sat 23-Nov-13 14:22:52

Beers and cigarette papers

EXTERMINATEpeppa Sat 23-Nov-13 14:22:02

oh the smirnoff ice comment made me cackle!!grin grin

EXTERMINATEpeppa Sat 23-Nov-13 14:19:09

vodkkkaaaaagrin grin

I joke-beer will sufficesmile

Mine would take one bottle of fruit cider. If no alcohol then a bottle of cola is fine.

AngryBuddha Sat 23-Nov-13 09:34:30

My 16 DS takes bottle of coke. He doesn't like alcohol.

He discovered the coke comes in handy with girls who only bring Spirits!!!

Kazzyv Sat 23-Nov-13 08:59:38

Legally I think it is illegal to buy alcohol for an under 18 - but not illegal to give a 16 year old drink. Drinking at this age at home is not illegal. I think it's inky illegal to give a child under 5 alcohol !
Re original question - take what they want to drink ( otherwise there may not be anything!)

Nerfmother Sat 23-Nov-13 08:05:38

Friends dd is 14 and they have negotiated one alcopop and then lager.
I almost fell off my chair.

Cerisier Sat 23-Nov-13 03:13:56

DD18 might take cider, which is her tipple of choice. Or she might take a cake she has made or crisps and nibbles. The boys usually take along beer, pizza and crisps. Sometimes a bottle of vodka will appear as one of her girl friends likes it, but most of them aren't big drinkers.

out2lunch Sat 23-Nov-13 00:22:51

let him decide

he can take whatever he feels comfortable with even if its nothing

AllDirections Sat 23-Nov-13 00:14:39

DD1 is 17 and she'd take crisps and soft drinks. If she did want to take alcohol I've been saving the bottles of low alcohol wine that I bought by mistake grin but she's not bothered about alcohol yet

BackforGood Sat 23-Nov-13 00:01:04

I think the big range of ages is blurring things a bit.
My ds didn't start going to house parties where there might have been alcohol until the 6th form, so 16/17.
I have a 15 yr old and she doesn't go to parties involving alcohol. Moving into 6th form makes a BIG difference IME.

usualsuspect Fri 22-Nov-13 23:40:02

It's not illegal for under 18s to drink at home

MoominsYonisAreScary Fri 22-Nov-13 23:39:22

And here comes monty, handing out the coke grin

MoominsYonisAreScary Fri 22-Nov-13 23:38:16

Wuldric, how old is she? Teens can get a c card (I think its called) which they take yo certain places and get free condoms. I haven't asked where but my sons had one for years so I assume they talk to them about it at school

Monty27 Fri 22-Nov-13 23:37:10

I meant crisps and soft drinks NOT COKE! (I was thinking cans of coke although I don't really approve of that either) lol pmsl oh the irony shock

Monty27 Fri 22-Nov-13 23:35:51

If ds says nothing, then I'd give him soft drinks and coke (yeh I know) or whatever soft drinks he likes. Don't encourage alcohol if its not even on his radar. He may be home early smile

MoominsYonisAreScary Fri 22-Nov-13 23:33:40

Smirnoff ice is an alcopop vodka, lime soda fruit juice and suger I think. Not very high in alcohol

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