Your Teen wins....

(156 Posts)
TopsyRK Mon 28-Jan-13 17:04:32

Your teen wins as soon as you raise your voice, they are looking for conflict.

Your rules should always be...

Ask first
Tell second
Punish third

Ask them to do something, if no reaction, then tell them, if no reaction punish them, never raise your voice or argue with them as you are the parent.

Trust me not easy but it works

Chris

CuttedUpPear Mon 28-Jan-13 17:54:32

You had four teens?
Really....?
hmm

And what brings you to these pages Chris?

Sparklingbrook Mon 28-Jan-13 17:55:01

Ask first
No reaction-total ban on all electrical gadgets for a week. Sorted.

CuttedUpPear Mon 28-Jan-13 17:55:55

And what would your recommended punishment be?

Foggles Mon 28-Jan-13 17:56:19

But Sparkling if you ban all their gadgets, they come out their rooms and make the lounge look untidy. grin

MissMarplesThong Mon 28-Jan-13 17:56:38

I agree with the not shouting bit as for my DS it either means he zones it out as white noise or he gets upset and ends up in tears. Other than that in my house it is:

tell politely (we are big on politeness)
repeat
repeat
repeat
repeat

DS is not badly behaved but he has the attention span of a fruit fly.

Sparklingbrook Mon 28-Jan-13 17:58:03

Ooh yes Foggles that's a good point. They lie all over my soft furnishings. angry

MrsPresley Mon 28-Jan-13 18:01:13

I would like to know how to punish my teen when he doesn't do as he's asked then told?

I mean, really how do you punish a 19 year old man.

weegiemum Mon 28-Jan-13 18:04:32

Man with no kids

Oh yeah!

TopsyRK Mon 28-Jan-13 20:18:18

I do love the friendly nonjudgemental welcome one gets as a newbie
Lets hope i am not a mystery shopper lol
I will post my CV tomorrow if so requested
Nite nite
Chris

Sparklingbrook Mon 28-Jan-13 20:22:18

confused

QOD Mon 28-Jan-13 20:39:52

I like your first post being so patronising and your profile showing you have no kids ...

iclaudius Mon 28-Jan-13 20:45:06

Mine have all won ... Weeps silently

MuchBrighterNow Mon 28-Jan-13 20:50:48

what's the punishment Op ? ... Do you put the fear of god into them confused

Sparklingbrook Mon 28-Jan-13 20:53:05

Sssshhhhhh!! OP's gone to bed.

Sparklingbrook Mon 28-Jan-13 20:53:42

<arf> at Mystery Shopper on MN though. grin

ThePathanKhansWitch Mon 28-Jan-13 20:56:58

I,ll be in my dotage by the time mine is a teenager.So happy about that Chris.

LynetteScavo Mon 28-Jan-13 21:03:33

Chris, my teen doesn't look for conflict.

Is this some sort of malfunction?

I don't think punishing is the way forward. I prefer to let them learn the consequences of their actions organically.

And I really don't think parenting is about winning and losing. My DC, DH and I are a team.

Sparklingbrook Mon 28-Jan-13 21:10:09

My 11 year old looks for conflict. Does that count?

SaggyOldPregnantCatpuss Mon 28-Jan-13 21:19:35

Har har fucking har!

Mrscupcake23 Mon 28-Jan-13 21:36:29

That's solved then let's ask mumsnet to close the teenage thread.

fackinell Mon 28-Jan-13 21:37:35

My Auntie had fantastic ways of controlling her teenage daughter's tantrums. My favourite: if she acted up in public my auntie would threaten to dance, and did so....in Safeways!! grin Never needed to again though.

Foggles Mon 28-Jan-13 21:39:37

fackinell - I used to threaten to turn up at the school on rollerblades.

grin

fackinell Mon 28-Jan-13 21:48:37

grin Foggles!! Would you have done it?

usualsuspect Mon 28-Jan-13 21:52:50

It's not about winning.I never wanted to win as parent.

usualsuspect Mon 28-Jan-13 21:53:22

As a*

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