What do you do with a DS who is too lazy to fix himself some lunch?!

(119 Posts)
Horsemad Thu 03-Jan-13 21:25:44

Typical 15yr old, obsessed with computer games. Gets up and immediately goes on pc (during weekends and holidays - has tried this on school mornings and had short shrift).

When I'm working I leave before he's up, it's obvious to me that he's not had breakfast or lunch when I get home. He says he's not hungry, but I suspect he eats his selection box chocolate whilst at the pc.

I don't mind him being on the pc, he's out of trouble and I know where he is etc, but I'm getting fed up with him not eating!

Booyhoo Sat 05-Jan-13 14:49:44

surely that is their own and their mother's problem when they are with her? i'll bet they just love coming to you to be babied though.

Bonsoir Sat 05-Jan-13 14:51:41

Were it so simple!

Bonsoir Sat 05-Jan-13 14:52:01

(they don't want to live with her anymore)

seeker Sat 05-Jan-13 14:53:41

Meals should never "just happen!"

Booyhoo Sat 05-Jan-13 14:59:54

so why do they? at 15 and 17 they are old enough to decide if they want to live with their father and superstepmother

Bonsoir Sat 05-Jan-13 15:02:03

Children do not decide where they live.

Bonsoir Sat 05-Jan-13 15:03:45

Oh really seeker? How exactly does all your family participate in all the catering at every single meal in your home, pray tell?

Booyhoo Sat 05-Jan-13 15:11:29

at 15 and 17 they can decide.

my children participate in about 60% of the meals that are made when they are at home. they are 3 and 7. 7 year old can make quite a few simple meals without any help apart from reminders to check the oven. 3 year old, as i said, can make sandwiches and use the toaster.

Bonsoir Sat 05-Jan-13 15:12:38

They certainly cannot - they are legally in zero position to do so and it would require lawyers/judges here in France.

Booyhoo Sat 05-Jan-13 15:14:00

so? if they want to live with you get a lawyer, see a judge and get it sorted.

Bonsoir Sat 05-Jan-13 15:16:00

Why on earth are you telling us what to do? Mind your own business!

Booyhoo Sat 05-Jan-13 15:18:37

grin

it's just, you are always harping on about how great you are at parenting your step sons and how useless their own mother is. if the dcs want to live with you i wonder why you haven't made it happen.

Bonsoir Sat 05-Jan-13 15:19:18

FFS it really is no business of yours.

Booyhoo Sat 05-Jan-13 15:22:08

this is the internet. you know that is public right?

Bonsoir Sat 05-Jan-13 15:23:22

It doesn't give you a right to be gratuitously rude.

Booyhoo Sat 05-Jan-13 15:24:46

nor you

hugoagogo Sat 05-Jan-13 15:33:42

<have some of my cranberry scones-you will feel better>

ds is like this, he makes sandwiches and takes them to school and comes home saying "what can I eat?" then discovers his sandwiches in his bag. confused

Bonsoir Sat 05-Jan-13 15:40:14

Yes. Unless you have teenaged boys in your life it can be difficult to realise how unbelievably incompetent they can be.

Hmm. You can always tell when someone posts on teenagers and their DC are very young.

To be honest I rather suspect that when mine were 5 and 7 for example I would have been smug and judgy about many of the issues raised on the teenage board.blush. (If MN had existed then of course).

hugoagogo Sat 05-Jan-13 15:46:28

The hormones make their brains go funny, it will pass. eventually.

I am more worried about dd (10) will be like when puberty hits her. [afraid]

Bonsoir Sat 05-Jan-13 15:51:20

Yes, we've watched Inside the Human Body all together...

Booyhoo Sat 05-Jan-13 15:56:21

i'm not being smug and judgy. i'm saying what my dcs can do and saying that there is no reason teenagers cant make themselves simple snacks or meals. there is no need to be babying teenagers. it wont help them learn to feed themselves will it?

Booyhoo Sat 05-Jan-13 15:57:22

and i've also been a teenager, i was still capable of beans on toast. hormones or not, the fridge was in the same place it had always been.

LineRunner Sat 05-Jan-13 15:57:30

Teenagers are different, though. Their brains are wired differently.

Bonsoir Sat 05-Jan-13 15:59:24

DD (8) is wildly more competent than the DSSs, who are like overgrown toddlers ie they have little self-control and need someone with high standards and who they are a bit afraid in the background in order to behave themselves...

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