Hello. I know that I'm very very lucky to have an offspring, when some can't, or even worse have lost/estranged. But I'm sure I'm entitled to be really upset with him. I'm so upset at the mo that I've googled the question above and joined Mumsnet! My son was 18 on Saturday 2nd April. I organised a surprise birthday lunch for him in one of his favourite restaurants. Uncles, god parents, his best friends who are not old enough to go clubbing yet (all hush-hush) therefore wouldn't be able to go out for his planned night out, which he was gutted about. The day cost in excess of £400 (plus of course presents on top) - then agreed friends and girlfriend could come back and stay after his night out. My partner and I stayed awake just in case of any disasters, girlfriend came home 1am (early), tipsy, so I looked after her, made sure she was safe, sat on her bed with her while she slept etc. Son and friends rolled in at 3am. All safe, I went off to sleep...
Next day was Mothers Day. He was up and okay at 11ish. Cheerful as ever. I joked about my lack of breakfast in bed, so he knew full-well it was Mothers' Day. As the day carried on I realised it was apparent that there was NOTHING from him. Not a card. Not a bunch of daffs. Not even a hug !(I think cos the girlfriend was there). I wondered whether he may have had a hangover but he said he didn't. Said he hadn't got any money for a card - I explained that even a home made one would have done! Even a bunch of weeds (i'm serious!) from the garden would have done. Am so so upset. I do soooooo much for him, and I had to let him know (in the evening when I realised that he wasn't joking about lack of ANYTHING) that I was upset
I'm sure some of you will say that I must have spoilt him, but I truly believe that I have always just cared and yet still instilled respect ! I am strict when I need to be, but loving and guiding at all times, never ever humiliating. Am finding it hard to forgive him.
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Mother Day - Teenage son's lack of acknowledgement
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AngelLouisa · 06/04/2011 10:37
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