Help! Wedding on Sunday, no dress!

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I posted a couple of days ago asking about a dress to match a pink Osprey clutch this is the exact colour (wrong bag), although I see it's called 'salmon pink'... giving you an indication of how shocking I am at this stuff.

People were helpful but I didn't find anything I liked. I now have a couple of hours on Wednesday afternoon to find something (wedding abroad, flying on Friday morning). Can you please help - I'd like to look very put-together and I find it difficult to do a complete outfit nicely.

It's a Jewish religious wedding so I'm guessing no vast displays of flesh, not that I like that anyway. I'm 26, size 10 with lumpy bits and shorter than average. Fairly pale skin and long hair.

Ideally I'd like a dress that would go with the bag and some comfortable shoes that are also nice (lots of dancing afterwards, no heels). I was thinking I could buy a neutral wrap?

I really don't have a clue and I'm very lost. I always see such good recommendations for other people on here! thanks to anyone who can help.

MrsLettuce Mon 13-May-13 18:52:44

Navy would certainly work with that shade. Do you have shoes and a hat? Shall have a rummage for you.

MrsLettuce Mon 13-May-13 18:53:28

Oh yeah, what's the budget?

Thank you! I know I suit navy. Budget is £200 tops for everything (ideal), or possibly £250 (panic mode). I don't have shoes or a hat.

cardamomginger Mon 13-May-13 19:05:13

How religious is religious? I'm Jewish and so might be able to offer some advice.

Also - are you married? If so, and depending on how religious the wedding is and what the venue is, you might need to wear a hat, at least for the ceremony.

MrsLettuce Mon 13-May-13 19:05:24

Lovely long dress, fab hat and a shawl to tie it all together?

banterbus Mon 13-May-13 19:07:18
MrsLettuce Mon 13-May-13 19:08:13

this dress is well known to be fantastic and extremely flattering

soaccidentprone Mon 13-May-13 19:09:13
MrsLettuce Mon 13-May-13 19:10:44

this is ^short^ on the 5'9" model but if your around the 5 foot mark it would be decent. But maybe it should be below the knee as was my first instinct confused

MrsLettuce Mon 13-May-13 19:12:32

ditto this with a cream shawl, the hat I linked above in cream and black tights and shoes as styled.

soaccidentprone Mon 13-May-13 19:13:46

Abroad? Somewhere hot, warm, cold?

cardamomginger Mon 13-May-13 19:13:52

To cover all eventualities religious-wise, the dress needs to be below the knee, up to the collar bone (and similar at the back) and sleeves to the elbow. No see through material, even on sleeves (thick lace would probably be OK though). Sleeveless could be a hassle, as if it is a very religious crowd you'll need to wear a wrap all the time, even at the dinner and when dancing.

If they are less religious, then you can get away with a heck of a lot more.

Thank you! House of Fraser is just down the road and I like that blue dress very much.

I'm afraid I'm not so keen on the Ted Baker one.

cardamom Not Orthodox, but devout and very culturally Jewish (if that's the right way to describe it? E.g. very strict Kosher observance, having a traditional wedding). It will be at the main synagogue in a European capital (possibly massively outing myself here!), but on the other hand we are going to the Shabbat Chatan on Saturday and they said it's fine to bring a book in case we get bored/leave at any point when people are seated so I get the impression they are also relaxed? We are not married.

I love the Pied a Terre one, but it's at the top of the budget.

Weather: warm (mid to late 20s), high chance of showers and they are hoping to get married outside.

I should add, they have lived together for ages (about six years) so maybe they are more relaxed than I think! We were all housemates at uni.

MrsLettuce Mon 13-May-13 19:18:59

Maybe this with black shoes and this this?

MrsLettuce Mon 13-May-13 19:20:30

The Pied a Terre is almost certain to flatter you beautifully, it wont date and TBH you'd probably more or less get your money back on ebay if you don't think you'd wear it again.

MrsLettuce Mon 13-May-13 19:23:32
cardamomginger Mon 13-May-13 19:24:18

Sounds like you have a bit of leeway then grin.

I hope you have a lovely time!

BTW - Shabbat morning services are LONG. Don't make the mistake of turning up right at the beginning of the service. Most Jews don't.... wink

MrsLettuce Mon 13-May-13 19:27:44

cardamomginger - would it be wise for the OP to have a hat for safeties sake or would it be safe enough to skip it?

Thank you smile I have been warned that it will be 2.5 hrs... I don't want to miss their blessing but I guess it won't happen right at the beginning.

I think MrsLettuce has persuaded me to get the Pied a Terre dress grin

Will it go with the DP shoes and a cream wrap? Should I then get a cream fascinator/hat thing? Unfortunately I don't have a John Lewis here (Birmingham) or I'd buy the hat you linked as it's great.

The bride did say that hair covering was optional in the Shabbat service but that men have to wear a kippah.

cardamomginger Mon 13-May-13 19:35:46

If she's not married, then no hat required. In fact, single women, never wear a hat, so, strictly speaking, for her to do so would be odd.

Although if she really wants to, I don't think it will really matter.

cardamomginger Mon 13-May-13 19:36:53

For the shabbat service you will need to be pretty covered up (knee, elbow, collar bone). A wrap would work well and be fine.

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